Malinga ndi chiwerengero, pafupifupi theka la amayi okwatirana amatsimikiza kuti mwanayo salankhula ndi atate ake mokwanira. Chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti amuna amadziwanso izi. Komabe, 36 peresenti yokha. Ena onse akukhulupirira kuti amapereka chidwi kwambiri kwa anawo. Pa nthawi yomweyi, amayi khumi ndi awiri (12%) amanena kuti amuna awo samangopanga pang'ono ndi ana, komabe amakhala ngati alibe ana. Mwa njira, ku Germany ndi Hungary ndi 2% chabe a oimira agonana ofooka amatsutsa amuna kuti asakwaniritse ntchito za atate awo. Pali chinachake choti muganizire, sichoncho?
Mwana - ubwenzi, mwana wamkazi - tamandidwe
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti: ana a msinkhu uliwonse amafuna chikondi ndi chisamaliro cha abambo awo. Ndilimalo lililonse. Malingana ndi akatswiri, ngati mnyamatayo samamva kuti bambo ake amamuthandiza, "amakolola" khalidwe lachibadwa la amayi, limene udindo wamwamuna umangosintha. Zotsatira zake, mnyamata wotero sangangokhala "mwana wamayi", koma, monga wamkulu, amapanga banja loperewera. Pambuyo pake, kuti mukhale mwamuna, sikokwanira kuti mubadwire munthu - mumasowa chitsanzo. Mnyamatayo ayenera kumverera ngati mwamuna, kumachita ngati munthu, ndi zina zotero.
Atsikana ali ndi ubale wawo ndi papa. Ndipotu, abambo amathandiza mwana wake kuzindikira kuti ndi wokongola, wanzeru, ndi wopambana. Amayi akhoza kubwereza nthawi zambiri kuti mwanayo ndi wokongola komanso wochenjera, koma amatha kuphonya mawu awa. Ngati bamboyo akuyamikira mwanayo, mwanayo adzamukumbukira kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - amakhulupirira kuti iye ndi wanzeru komanso wokongola kwambiri.
Komanso, msungwanayo nthawi zambiri amafuna kuwona mwa osankhidwa ake makhalidwe ofanana ndi a bambo ake. Ndiko kuti, ndi papa yemwe amakhala bwalo limene onse ofuna kudzadumphira dzanja lake ndi mtima wake ...
Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi kofunika kuti muthe mwamuna wanu ku nyuzipepala yanu yomwe mumaikonda ndi TV, mukumukumbutsa kuti ali ndi mwana yemwe amafunikira (mungathe kumunyengerera kuti awerenge izi). Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti, ngakhale bambo atapatsa ana ake tsiku lililonse mphindi 30 zokha, mwanayo adzamva kuti ali wotetezeka, wodalirika komanso wosangalala. Kodi ana amayembekezera chiyani kuchokera kwa makolo awo?
Muunyamata, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuona ndikumverera osati amayi okha, komanso bambo. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti ana, omwe atate awo adagwira nawo mbali mwakukula kwawo, sakhala olira, osaopa alendo, amakhala omasuka. Choncho, panthawi imeneyi, papa amafuna chimodzimodzi, kuchokera kwa mayi ake - kutenga mwanayo mobwerezabwereza m'manja mwake, kumukwapula, kulankhula naye. Lolani mwanayo asamvetsetse kuti abambo amamuuza iye ndi zowonongeka, koma ndithudi adzagwira chidziwitso chabwino. Chotsani kuti mwamuna wanu asamaope mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi (amuna ambiri samatenga ana m'manja awo, akukangana kuti angawapweteke mwangozi). Onetsani mkazi wanu momwe angagwiritsire ntchito mwanayo, kusamba, chakudya, ndi zina zotero.
Chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri, ngati munthu amawona kuti khanda limakhala mpikisano, akuba za gawo la mkango. Pankhaniyi, lolani mwamuna wanu amvetsetse kuti mumamvetsa kuti zimamuvuta bwanji - chibadwa cha atate ake chimapangika pang'onopang'ono, ndipo nthawi zina sizingakhale zosavuta kuti adziwe zomwe amakhulupirira. Komabe, afotokozereni kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi kuti chikondi cha mwanayo sichikutsutsa chikondi chanu kwa iye.
Ndipo khalani osamala kwambiri nthawi iyi kwa okhulupirika anu. Monga momwe asayansi a ku Britain ndi America amapezera, nthawi zambiri amuna 5% amakhala ndi vuto lenileni lachisoni. Mukawona kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu atangoyamba kubadwa, akhala akukwiya kapena, wodandaula, mumuimbireni momveka bwino, funsani wodwalayo). Pambuyo pake, khalidwe ili la mwamuna wake silinabweretsere thanzi lake, koma komanso thanzi la ... mwanayo. Malingana ndi asayansi, pakati pa anyamata a zaka zapakati pa 3-5, mavuto ndi khalidwe anali owirikiza kaŵiri kuposa onse omwe makolo awo anavutika maganizo pambuyo pa kubereka. (Kwa atsikana, komabe izi sizinawonetsedwe.) Zikuwoneka kuti poyamba amayi anali ndi malingaliro amphamvu ...)
Choncho chomveka ndi chosavuta: mwanayo ayenera kuwona bambo mwachisangalalo! Ngakhale atakhala ndi ntchito kuntchito. Ngakhalenso gulu lake lokonda mpira lidawonongeka ndi nkhani yochititsa manyazi. Ngakhalenso kampu ya crucuti imatulutsa nyambo yokawedza nsomba, ndipo apongozi ake amalankhula kudzera mwa mano kwa mwezi umodzi ...
Zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zinayi: musamatsutse!
Panthawi ino, papa akhoza kusewera ndi mwana wake m'maseŵera olimbitsa thupi. Inde, ngakhale mu mpira womwewo kapena hockey (mwa njira, atsikana ambiri amathamangitsa mpira ndi puck nayenso mwachangu). Ife tikuwatsimikizira: mbali zonse zidzakhutitsidwa!
Palinso "mbali yotsatila" yosangalatsa ya kuyankhulana uku. Malingana ndi zotsatira za kafukufuku, abambo pa masewera amapereka zochuluka kwa mwanayo kusiyana ndi amayi. Oimira abambo amphamvu amalola ana kuyesera, kudziwa dziko lozungulira. Amayi, monga lamulo, nthawi ndi nthawi musamachepetse mwanayo: "Musapite kumeneko, ndizoopsa!", "Chokani pamtengo, mugwa!", "Tulukani m'matope - mutenge mapazi anu," ndi zina zotero.
Komabe, pamene mwanayo akudziŵa dziko loyandikana nalo, abambo ayenera kupewa kumudzudzula mwanayo. Apo ayi, mwanayo sangasangalale ndi masewerawo. Ndi bwino kumutamanda chifukwa cha kupambana kwake - izi zimamulimbikitsa. Choncho, palibe zolemba ngati: "Chokani, simudziwa kukwera pamtunda!" Kapena "Inde, ndani akupereka mpirawo! Kodi manja anu amakula kuti? ". Ngati mwana sangachite bwino, tifunika kusonyeza zomwe tiyenera kuchita ndi momwe tingachitire.
Ntchito ina yolemekezeka yomwe ingaperekedwe kwa mwamuna ndikutsiriza maphunziro. Sikoyenera kukhala nthawi zonse pafupi ndi mwanayo, koma kuti aone ngati mwanayo wathetsa vutoli pamasamba molondola, Papa ali ndi mphamvu zedi (ndipo amayi nthawiyi akhoza kuphika macaroni kapena kusamba zovala bwinobwino).
Funsani mwamuna wanu kuti abwererenso chidwi chanu ngati muli ndi mwana wa sukulu. Panthawi imeneyi, kudziwika kwa kugonana kumachitika - njira yovuta pamene mtsikana "amawerenga" komanso "amamwa" makhalidwe a amayi, mnyamata - bambo. Funsani mwamuna wanu kuti amvetsere mwana wake. Aloleni iwo akambirane mobwerezabwereza za chinachake mwa iwo okha, amuna, aziyenda palimodzi kuyenda, ndi zina zotero.
Kuyambira 9 mpaka 15: khalani mabwenzi!
Panthawi imeneyi, udindo wa atate ndi waukulu kwambiri. Ndi papa amene nthawi zambiri amakhala katswiri pa mavuto a sukulu. Ndi amene amaphunzitsa mwana wake momwe angakhalire ndi anzawo (ndipo, ngati kuli kofunikira, akufotokoza momwe angawabwezeretse). Ndi amene amamuuza mnyamatayo za kusintha kwa thupi komwe amamuyembekezera (ndi mtsikana pa nkhani zakukhosi ndi bwino kulankhula ndi mayi).
Zoona, nthawizina zosiyana zimachitika - ubale wa mwana wamwamuna ndi bambo mu nthawi ino ukuipiraipira kwambiri. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsimikizira izi kuti mwana, pakuwona mwa atate wa mpikisano, akuyesera kumutsimikizira iye ndi zonse zomwe ali nazo. Ndipo ngati bamboyo, nayenso, akufuna "kumukakamiza kumisomali," ubale wabwino ukhoza kusokonezeka. Choncho, nthawi yabwino kwambiri yachinyamatayo ndiyo kutsatira ndondomeko ya kusaloŵerera m'ndale. Malangizo othandiza angapezeke, kuwopseza - ayi.
Ubwenzi wa bambo ndi mwana wamkazi wachinyamata nthawi zambiri ndi mutu wosiyana. Amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana amakhala ochititsa manyazi kusamba ana awo, ngakhale ali ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Mayiyo atatembenuka khumi ndi zisanu ndikuyamba kupaka milomo yake, kuvala madiketi amfupi ndikukumana ndi anyamata, abambo amakhala otayika. Momwe mungakhalire nawo? Kodi n'zotheka kulanga ndipo ngati n'kotheka, motani? Simungathe kuziyika pangodya, simungathe kupha malo osalimba - pambuyo pake, pafupifupi mtsikana ... Kapena kodi ndibwino kuti mwamsanga musamangidwe m'nyumba?
Abambo ambiri, osapeza mayankho a mafunso awa, amachotsedwa kwa mwana wawo wamkazi wamkulu, kubisala manyazi chifukwa cha chisokonezo chawo chokhazikika. Komabe, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, izi ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu! Chabwino, msungwanayo, pokhala wamanyazi ndi papa, adzalandira "ndalama" kuchokera mwa iye. Choipa kwambiri, bambo ake amakhumudwa chifukwa cha kusasamala. Iye samvetsa chifukwa chake iye mwadzidzidzi anagwidwa manyazi ...
Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chimene mwamuna wanu angakhoze kuchita pa nthawiyi ndi kukhala bwenzi la mwana wake wamkazi. Ngati achita tchimo lalikulu, abambo angathe kuyankhula ndi iye, kufotokozera chifukwa chake analakwitsa (kwa mwana wamkazi, maganizo a abambo ndi ofunika kwambiri!). Koma simungakwanitse kumudetsa mwana wanu wamkazi - zidzamupatsa maofesi a moyo.