Kugonana ndi zotsatira zake
Patapita nthawi chibwenzi chitatha, banjali likukonzekera kugonana? Palibe tsatanetsatane yeniyeni ya malire awa: payekhapayekha, mwamuna ndi mkazi amadziwongolera okha. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti, kudutsa mzerewu, aliyense wa iwo adzayenera kuthana ndi zotsatira zake. Zikuwoneka kuti kugonana ndi thupi labwino. Pakali pano, pali lingaliro lomwe limatsimikizira kuti cholinga cha mphatso yamtengo wapatali iyi ya chilengedwe ndi kuyambitsa kugwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa anthu. Pazochitika zogonana, osati matupi okha, komanso miyoyo ikugwira nawo ntchito. Ndi kupyolera mu chinsinsi cha chikondi chimene amachigwirizanirana ndi zosaoneka zosaoneka. Ndipo anapanga mgwirizano wawiri, wokonzedwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Monga mukuonera, chilengedwe chinasamalira zinthu zonse ndipo chinapanga zidule zambiri, zomwe timakondwera nazo. Choyenera, chifukwa cha chiyanjano chiyenera kukhala chikondi chenicheni, osati zachilengedwe kapena chidwi cha "masewera". Pambuyo pake, munthu ndi mmodzi mwa zamoyo zitatu (kuphatikizapo ma dolphins ndi chimpanzi) omwe amakonda chikondi chifukwa cha zosangalatsa. Koma, mosiyana ndi zinyama, tikhoza kuyandikira kugonana mosamala! Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti pambuyo pa usiku wa chikondi mudzakhala ndi mphamvu zogwirizana ndi munthu uyu. Ndipo pamene simukufuna kukhala ndi chochita ndi ichi, kusiyana kungakhale kowawa kwambiri. Ndithudi pakati pa abwenzi anu pali mabanja ambiri amene amathawa, kenaka amasintha. Kulumikizana uku sikuwapatsa chisangalalo chilichonse, palibe mtendere, palibe mwayi womanga maubwenzi atsopano. Kotero musanayambe kukonzekera usiku woyamba ndi mwamuna, dzifunseni nokha: "Kodi ndikufuna kuti ndiyambe kuthana ndi zotsatira za ubale wapamtima ndi munthuyu?" Taganizirani kuti kuyambira tsopano padzakhala chinachake chovuta pakati pa inu chomwe chidzakhudze zanu, ndi moyo wake. Kodi mwakonzeka izi?
Gwiritsani ntchito popanda zolakwika
Titha kuganiza kuti funso lomalizira lomwe munayankha ndi lovomerezeka. Kotero, tiyeni tipitirire ku mutu wotsatira wa zokambirana zathu: kukonzekera nthawi imodzi yosangalatsa kwambiri ya ubale wanu. Monga lamulo, asanakwatirane ndi abwenzi atsopano, ife timagwidwa ndi nkhawa, nkhawa zathu zimakhala mitu yathu. Tikuopa kuti tisakonde wokonda, tikuopa zozizwitsa zake komanso zovumbulutsidwa. Kwa kugonana koyamba sikuli kotsiriza, yesetsani kuchita mwachibadwa monga momwe mungathere. Chimene simukuyenera kuchita ndikunamizira. Mkazi aliyense saona kuti ndi udindo wake pachibwenzi choyambirira chofanana ndi chiwonetsero. Ngati mupita motere, musadabwe pamene msonkhano wachiwiri udzakhala wofanana ndi woyamba. Pambuyo pake, mwamunayo amapeza molakwa kuti adapeza kale chinsinsi cha kugonana kwanu. Musamachite manyazi kulankhula za mmene mumamvera komanso kulankhulana. Ngati simukukonda chinachake, ndiuzeni moona mtima kuti: "Okondedwa, tiyeni tiyese mosiyana."
Choyamba chokha
Tsogolo la banjali makamaka limaganizira za usiku woyamba wa chikondi. Koma chinachitika ndi chiani? Yesani kuthana ndi vutoli. Inu simuli alendo kwa wina ndi mzake ndipo mukhoza kulankhula momasuka za zomwe zinakulepheretsani kusangalala. Mwinamwake, izi ndizovuta kwambiri, nkhawa, ntchito yambiri, zovuta. Tonse ndife anthu wamba omwe ali ndi ufulu wolakwitsa. Choncho, nthawi yotsatira mukasankha kugonana, konzekerani zofunikira zenizeni - ndipo sipadzakhala "zolakwika".
Ngati mtsikanayo "sali wokoma"
Ngati mkazi akuganiza kuti sadakonzekere kukhala pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti adzilolera kuyembekezera momwe akufunira "kuvuta." Ndikofunika kulankhula momasuka ndi mnzanuyo, nenani: "Ndipatseni ine kanthawi kochepa. Kodi ndingasunthire ku izi mofulumira ngati inu? "Ngati mwamuna ali ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi chibwenzi ndi msungwana uyu ndipo amalemekeza ufulu wake" kuchitapo kanthu, "amavomereza. Apo ayi, taganizirani: mwinamwake si munthu yemwe ndi woyenera kupereka nawo mphindi yofunikira imeneyi. Pali atsikana omwe amafunikira zinthu zina kuti akhale otetezeka. Pankhaniyi, wokondedwayo ayenera kuuzidwa zotsatirazi: "Kuti izi zitheke, ndikufunika kuti ndizitetezedwe. Ndikufuna kudziwa kuti mudzachita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti muyambe kukumana ndi chibwenzi changa choyamba. " Kachiwiri, ngati munthu amalemekeza malingaliro a wosankhidwayo, adzasamalira izi. Ntchito ya oyimilira kuti awonongeke kwambiri ndikuteteza ndi kukhazikitsa zinthu zotetezeka. Tsopano tikudziwa momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito kugonana koyamba.