Poyamba chilakolako chokopa mkazi kugona ndi chizolowezi chogonana, chomwe ndi chikhumbo. Ndipo izo sizikutanthauza kuti iye amakukondani inu, ndi basi kuti mwamuna yemwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana ali wokhoza kwambiri za chikondi chimene iwe sungakhoze kumutsutsa iye. Ndipo pano pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe mumavomereza kuti mukhale pachibwenzi.
Ganizirani nambala imodzi - muli pachikondi ndipo simungakane munthu wokondedwa.
Ganizirani nambala yachiwiri - popeza sikumveka tanthauzo, koma mumangofuna kugonana, monga iye.
Kukambirana nambala nambala ndi mantha anu. Inde, ndi mantha, mukuwopa kukwiya ndi kukana kwanu, kapena mumangoganiza kuti "Ndikana, koma adzasiya wina wamanyazi". Ndipo ndi chithandizo cha mantha kuti amuna nthawi zambiri amachititsa akazi. "Kotero inu simumandikonda nkomwe, ine sindiri woyenera inu, koma Lenka sakanati andichitire ine zimenezo." Kuopa kutayika wokondedwa wanu, nthawi zambiri mumapita ku sitepe iyi. Ndipo kwenikweni, iye amafuna basi kugonana.
Ndikutsimikiza izi motsimikiza. Ubale wapamtima uli ndi mbali ziwiri - zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo. Ndipo ndi amuna amene amatsogoleredwa ndi thupi, ndipo akazi amamva chisoni. Pakuti kugonana kolimba kwambiri kumagwirizana ndi maganizo, ngakhale nthawi zina amadziwonetsera momveka bwino, koma kwa amayi poyamba kumvetsetsa ndi kutentha ndikukhalitsa zosowa zawo. Motero, mitundu yosiyanasiyana imatsatira, malinga ndi zomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi angakhale okonda.
Iye akudikira chikondi, amakonda kugonana. Monga momwe moyo umasonyezera, ubale woterewu udzalephera. Ndipo kodi ndizofunikira kuti muyambe konse, chifukwa popanda kukhumudwa ndi kupweteka, iwo sangakubweretsereni chirichonse?
Kawirikawiri mkazi amakhala ndi malingaliro ake pa chiyanjano pakati pa kugonana ndi chikondi: sangagone ndi osakondedwa, chikondi chake chimasonyeza kuvomereza kwake kugonana. Momwe mungamvetsere kumverera kwanu kwa mwamuna? Maganizo omwewo amawonetsedwa pa mwamuna: ndikum'konda bwanji, amamukonda kwambiri. Koma munthuyo amaganiza mosiyana. Amatha kufuna kwambiri mkazi popanda kumumvera, chifukwa amamuona wokongola komanso wonyengerera.
Mzimayi aliyense amamva kufunika kokhala ndi manja ndi milomo. Chikondi chake chimayankhula mwa kugwirana, kumpsompsona. Mwamuna amaletsa ndi kumpsompsona amasonyeza chilakolako chake chosalephereka. Iye sangathe kumverera mwamtheradi kulimbikitsana ndi mnzanuyo ndipo nthawi yomweyo amapereka zosangalatsa zake zosaneneka, kukhala wodekha ndi womvera. Mkazi aliyense, atatha kukhumudwa, kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kutamandidwa kosalekeza, amayamba kukondana ndi wokondedwa wake, ngakhale atakhalabe ndi chibwenzi asanayambe kugonana.
Mwa amuna, ndipo apa chirichonse chiri chosiyana. Amayamikira mkaziyo, ngati mbuye wawo wopambana, atamasulidwa, amalola kuti azindikire zokhumba zake zonse zowoneka ndi zowoneka, zingabweretse chisangalalo chachikulu. Koma pa zonsezi, sadzakondana ndipo sadzakhala okonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi chifukwa cha zifukwa izi. Wokonda kwambiri pokhala opanda makhalidwe ena sangakhale mkazi wokondedwa wa munthu wodziwa zambiri.
Ndipo, ngakhale kuti alibe chikondi kwa mkazi, mwamuna ali pabedi angavomereze kuti amamukonda, azidzaza ndi mawu achikondi, ngakhale atalonjeza kukwatiwa ndi kukhala ndi ana. Ndipo zonsezi zimangoyamba kutuluka pamutu pake mutalandira chisangalalo. Kawirikawiri pamwambowu mtsikana akunena mokwiya "Iwe umati umandikonda ndipo ukufuna kulumikizana ndi ine moyo." Mwamunayo amadzidzimangira yekha "Zomwe sitinganene, mutakhala kale pachimake," koma nthawi yomweyo amayesa kukhala chete, mwinamwake simudzamuonanso usiku wotentha.
Sayansi imatsimikiziridwa kuti anthu samadziyesa nkomwe pokamba za chikondi panthawi ya kugonana, sangathe kudzisamalira okha panthawi yomwe amaukitsidwa. Munthu wokondwa, adzalankhula zonse zomwe mkazi akufuna kumva. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, kuti pa nthawi izi amaganiza choncho. Ndipo amamukonda kwambiri komanso amamukonda mkazi, pamene akusangalala kwambiri akufuula "Ndimakukondani!", Koma amamva zokhazokha panthawi yogonana, pamapeto pake maganizo a amuna amasintha.
Tiyeni tifotokoze zomwe tatchulazi. Zimene mungachite kuti mupewe kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo.
- musakhulupirire mawu a anthu pa nthawi ya kugonana, ziribe kanthu momwe amawonekera okoma ndi oona;
- Musatengeke ndi chikondi pa nthawi yogonana. Mukhoza kuganizira, chirichonse, koma kumbukirani, kugonana kwa amuna ndiko kukhutira ndi zosowa za thupi, monga njira yothetsera mavuto, masewera, koma osati chiwonetsero cha chikondi. Pali malire omveka pakati pa chikondi ndi kugonana.
Tsopano chofunika kwambiri, ngati mutatha kuwerenga lembalo, mumakayikira momwe mumamvera, ngati mwalemba chikondi ichi, mwinamwake, palibe chomwe chiri. Dikirani, sinkhasinkhani, pukutani ubale wanu kuchokera pazomwe mwaphunzira. Dzivomerezeni kwa inu moona mtima: "Chifukwa chiyani muli naye?", "Kodi ndinu wokondwa?". Ngati yankho silibwera msanga, musazengereze, ndi bwino kuthetsa ubalewu. Osamamatira mwamuna, chifukwa cha mantha a kusungulumwa. Musaope kusiya munthu amene amasangalala ndi zomwe mumakonda. Tengani malamulo omwe mumayambira ndikupitiriza kukhala pachibwenzi, kokha ndi munthu yemwe angathe kukukondweretsa. Ngati mukumva kukayika, zovuta mu ubale, mosavuta gawo. Pambuyo pake, mawa lidzakhala tsiku latsopano ndi zochitika zatsopano. Chikondi ndi kudziyamikira nokha, akazi okondedwa.