Ngakhale kukhala wokongola kwa amuna sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kusintha kuti pasakhale wina amene angaganize kuti pamaso pake ndi mtsikana yemweyo. Mukhoza kukhala wopambana-kupambana ndikukhala okongola, makhalidwe awa adzapambana kufunika ndi maonekedwe a mtsikanayo. Kuti ena asamawoneke kuti pali amayi okongola omwe akuzungulirani, muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mupeze chiyanjano mwa inu nokha ndikutsatira mfundo zotsatirazi.
Timayendetsa bwino kugonana . Lingaliro la kugonana, loperekedwa ndi Mlengi wawo Geter Amman, linaphatikizapo chinthu chotero monga kulamula kugonana. Pa izo zinali zomveka kuti msungwana yemwe ankafuna kuti azikulitsa izo, kunali kofunikira kuti asamangoganizira zofuna zawo ndi malingaliro awo. Chiphunzitso cha Goetheer chimasonyeza mtundu wa masewera omwe onse awiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu ambiri okondana ndi ogonana momwe angathere pamapepala. Ndiye mawu awa amaperekedwa kwa aliyense wa osewerawo. Othandizira alembeni mawu okha omwe akufuna kuti awonezane. Ogonjetsa, omwe ali oyambirira kwambiri, pamapeto pa masewerawa adzadalira mphoto yabwino kwambiri. Lingaliro limeneli ndi masewera lingayambitse munthu kupanga chinthu china chosangalatsa ndi chilakolako cha kugonana. Chimene, makamaka, chingakhale mphoto yomweyo kwa wopambana.
Kutumizidwa ndi liwu . Kuti mukhale wokongola, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mawu anu. Ndikofunika kutenga mawu ake, omwe sangasangalatse munthu wokhayokha, koma mwiniwake. Amuna ambiri amaganiza kuti amanyengerera komanso kugonana ndi mawu otsika, amayamba kutaya mutu wawo. Ena a iwo amakhulupirira ngakhale kuti zotsatira zowonjezereka zingapezeke kuchokera ku liwu lotero, ndi liwu lofuula. Pakati pa amayi, palinso malingaliro okhudzana ndi mawu okongola omwe amamveka bwino, amakhulupirira kuti Frank Sinatra, Gaeru ndi Adrian Celentano ali ndi mawu otchuka kwambiri.
Timaonjezera mantha . Kuti akhale msungwana kwa mtsikana wonyengerera, sikofunikira kuti tipeze njira zowonjezera, makamaka kwa opaleshoni ya pulasitiki. Mtsikana sakusowa kukhala ndi thupi la thupi lomwe liri ndi mantha. Nthawi zina mumangofunika kukondana, kotero kuti mawu anu amanjenjemere ndikugwedezeka. Pamene mtsikana wachikondi ayamba kuda nkhawa, khalani wokhumudwa chifukwa cha zinthu zopanda pake ndikukhala wamanjenje. Kuti mumve mawu otukuka, ndizotheka kulankhula mosakayika pang'onopang'ono, moyesera, osayankhula popanda chifukwa. Ndipo pamphuno muyenera kuyesa minofu ya m'mimba ndipo, motero, pa kudzoza - kumasuka.
Kuphunzira kuwonetsa . Sayansi yotereyi monga kinesika imapereka lingaliro la kutalika kwa zibwenzi pakati pa zokambirana ndi tanthauzo lake. Izi zikutsatila kuti kuti akalimbikitse munthu kuti achitepo kanthu, munthu ayenera kulowa m'dera lake lapamtima. Iye ali pafupi ndi iye, pafupi maso ndi maso. Mukhozanso kupereka zizindikiro monga kutseketsa mutu wanu. Ndipo kugwiritsira ntchito mwamsanga kumatha kunena za chidwi cha mnzanuyo, ndipo pang'onopang'ono ndi kubwerezabwereza akhoza kusokoneza zokambiranazo. Komanso, mtsikanayo akuyenera kutseguka kwambiri ndipo mungathe kunyalanyaza manja ake, potero amamulepheretsa kulankhula naye.
Musadziyese nokha . Kuti mukhale wokongola kwa amuna, muyenera kuphunzira kuti musagwedeze ndodoyo. Izi zingakhudze mphamvu yanu, ndi khalidwe lanu. Tsopano akazi ambiri amayesa kukhala wamtali ndi oposa makhalidwe kuposa amuna. Kuchita koteroko sikungangotulutsa mkwiyo wokha, koma ngakhale kuchoka kwa inu. Choncho, ndi bwino kukhala mkazi ameneyo, omwe angateteze ku zoipa ndi kuteteza, kapena kumulola kuganiza choncho. Kudziwerengera nokha kungakhudze kukula kwake. Ndipotu, kuti akazi azikhala abwino komanso okongola adzaonedwa ngati kakang'ono kakang'ono 40-42 kukula, ndipo poyimira anthu amasinthasintha pakati pa 46-50. Choncho musabwererenso pa vuto losazama komanso lopanda kanthu ngati lalikulu la zovala.
Dziwani kuphika ndi kudya . Malingana ndi mayesero ambiri a asayansi zinali zoonekeratu kuti kuchokera ku mawu onena za kugwirizana pakati pa chakudya cha m'mimba ndi mimba, kugwirizana kunali kudakhazikitsidwa. Zakafukufuku zina zasonyeza kuti munthu pakati pa zonunkhira za sinamoni mipukutu ndi kununkhira kwa mizimu yamtengo wapatali ankakonda woyamba. Ndipo izi zikutsatila kuti nkofunikira kuti mkazi aliyense aphunzire kuphika chakudya chokoma. Komanso, ayenera kudya pamodzi ndi wosankhidwayo. Pa nthawi yomweyi, ngati mtsikanayo adya pang'onopang'ono, koma panthawi yomweyi kuyaka, amatha kuwoneka ngati wokongola kwambiri. Ndipo musadandaule kuti mungapeze zakudya zopanda pake komanso zosafunika chifukwa cha chakudya, zomwe zimachititsa kuti mukhale odzaza kwambiri. Amuna ambiri amasankha kupereka chisankho chothandizira mkazi yemwe ali ndi mchiuno mwake, omwe, mwa lingaliro lawo, amatha kubereka ndi kubereka mwana wathanzi ndi wofunidwa.
Manyazi, kuseka ndi kuseketsa . Msungwana yemwe amatha kuchita manyazi komanso amene adzavekedwe mu chinachake chofiira akhoza kugonjetsa amuna ambiri. Kukhala ndi zida ziwiri: chinthu chofiira nokha ndi manyazi pa mawonekedwe ofiira ofiira, mungathe kudzutsa mwa munthu osati msaki, komanso msilikali. Afuna kugonjetsa mtsikana wofiira, komanso pofuna kumuteteza ku zinthu zochititsa manyazi. Kotero kuti ukhoza kukhala wamanyazi kokha kudzakhala ndi dzanja lako. Kuwonjezera pa chirichonse, ngati msungwana angakhale ndi kuseketsa, zomwe zingathandize kuti kulankhulana mosavuta, kukhoza kupambana mtima wa munthu kwamuyaya. Mutha kuseka nthabwala zake, kumuwonetsa chidwi chanu, pomwe sikuti ndinu wochenjera kwambiri komanso amadziwa nthabwala zambiri. Kuseka kungatanthauzire kuyankhulana kwakukulu muyandikana kwambiri ndi yosangalatsa kwa onse awiri.
Kuti akhale okongola kwambiri, asungwana amafunika kuphunzira momwe angasangalalire ndi zinthu zonse zachizolowezi ndi zachilendo, kaya kugula kapena kukachezera agogo aakazi. Msungwana yemwe amadzikonda iye yekha ndi moyo wake adzakhala wamphamvu kwambiri, wodalirika kwambiri ndi wachigololo, zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wokongola kwambiri, wokongola komanso wofunika kwa amuna ambiri. Sungani ndipo mudzapambana.