Kotero, momwe mungadziwire: kodi achinyamata anu ndi odalirika? Choyamba, muyenera kuganiza. Kodi timatanthauzanji ndi "odalirika"? Pamene uli wachinyamata, moyo umawoneka wowala, wokongola komanso wosasamala, koma. Pakapita nthawi, pamene nzeru za tsiku ndi tsiku zimabwera, anthu ambiri omwe akudabwa amakumbukira zolakwitsa za achinyamata, zomwe tsopano akulipira ndi mabanja osasangalala komanso osokonezeka. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi bwino kuti achinyamata azitha kufufuza mosamala kuti adziwe bwanji momwe zinthu zilili payekha komanso kuti adziwe kuti ndiwe wotani payekha.
Kotero, ndi chiyani chomwe chiri chofunikira kwa banja lililonse lachinyamata? Kuwonjezera pa chikondi ndi chikondi, izi, ndithudi, nyumba. M'dziko lamakono, sizili zophweka kupeza nyumba yanu. Ndipo si onse omwe angavomereze kukhala ndi makolo awo. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwa nthawi yomweyo kuti chibwenzi chanu chikhoza kulipira lendi. Izi ziyenera kuzindikiridwa nthawi yomweyo kuti izi sizikutanthauza kuti mnyamata ayenera kukhala ndi ndalama zambiri, koma simungachite chilichonse. Ndipotu, monga momwe zingakhalire zodalirika, zimatsimikiziridwa, choyamba, chifuniro chofuna kuphunzira. Pezani ntchito yabwino ndikupeza ntchito yabwino. Mnyamata wolakalaka yekha ndiye amatha kusamalira bwino banja lake, ndipo osati njala ku nyumba yozizira. Ngati mukuwona kuti ngakhale wophunzira wanu akuyesera kugwira ntchito kwinakwake, amayesetsa kupeza mwayi kwa ophunzira ake kuti apeze ntchito yabwino, angapereke moyo wodzisamalira yekha, ndiye akhoza kutchulidwa mokwanira kuti azikhala pamodzi .
Komanso, mnyamata wodalirika sadzagwiritsa ntchito mowa mopitirira muyeso. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti iye sali wosamwa. M'malo mwake, akunena kuti mnyamatayo amadziwa nthawi zonse ndipo sagwiritsa ntchito ndalama zambiri. Mnyamata wotero amagawidwa momveka bwino, kuchuluka kwa momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito pa zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa, ndi kuchuluka kwake komwe mukufunikira kuti mupite kukagula zinthu zofunika, kubwereka nyumba, kugula chakudya ndi zina zotero.
Inde, chizindikiro china chotsimikizika ndicho mphamvu yodziyimira nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu. Sikofunika kuti mnyamatayo akhale wogwirizanitsa zomangamanga ndikugwedeza ziboda pa ngodya iliyonse. Koma, komabe, ngati mukuwopa kuyenda ndi iye pazithunzi zakuda ndipo mwayamba kugwedeza nthiti zake, ndi bwino kulingalira ngati angateteze banja lake ngati pali vuto lililonse.
Akazi ambiri amakhulupirira amuna awo omwe nthawi zonse amadziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito mkhalidwe wawo ndi kutenga udindo wawo. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsatira cha kudalirika. Aliyense, ngakhale atsikana amphamvu kwambiri komanso wochenjera, amafuna kukhala wofooka ndi wofatsa, kumasuka ku mavuto onse, ndipo panthawi yomweyo azionetsetsa kuti wina athetse mavuto ake peresenti. Amuna omwe amaganiza ndi kunena zambiri kuposa momwe amachitira, sali odalirika mokwanira kuti akhale pachibwenzi. Ndipo izi siziri nthawi zonse zolakwa zawo. Chifukwa cha ichi chingakhale zovuta, chikhalidwe cha khalidwe ndi zina zambiri. Apa mtsikanayo mwiniwake ayenera kusankha ngati akufuna kukhala pafupi ndi munthu woteroyo.
Komabe kudalirika kuli pafupifupi nthawi zonse, ndikofanana ndi udindo. Mnyamata yemwe amadziyesa wotchedwa wodalirika, sadzachedwa kumisonkhano, amaiwala za malonjezano ake, amanyalanyaza zopempha ndi zowona kuchokera kudziko, mmalo mopanga chisankho. Mnyamata wodalirika angadzipindulitse yekha ndi ena, moyenerera kupereka nthawi ndipo musaiwale za lonjezo ili. Ngati mnyamata wanu amakayiwala kuchita zomwe akufuna, ndipo ngati pali kusagwirizana kwa chidwi iye amangowonongeka, ndi bwino kulingalira mozama udindo wake. Mwa njira, khalidwe ili silikutanthauza khalidwe loipa komanso malingaliro oipa. Koma nthawi zonse zimatanthauza kufooka kwa munthu komanso kusowa udindo pazochita ndi zisankho.
Mwa njira, ndi udindo ndi mtima wofunika ku mbali zina za moyo zomwe zimawathandiza kwambiri atsikana ambiri. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pakadali pano, mosadziwa, ife tikuganiza kuti atate wa mtundu wanji adzakhala mwana wathu? Kodi adzatha kusamalira mwanayo, kumuphunzitsa zonse zomwe akufunikira, kuphunzitsa bwino ndikugulitsa moyo wake. Ngati mkazi alibe malingaliro, ziribe kanthu momwe chikondi chilili champhamvu, ndibwino kusagwirizana ndi moyo wake ndi munthu wotere, chifukwa kumverera kumangopeka msanga chifukwa cha kusadziletsa kwake ndi kusasamala moyo.
Inde, mtsikana aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha mtundu wa mnyamata amene akufuna kuti amangirire. Pali amayi amphamvu amene amamvetsa kuti wokondedwa ndi wopanda tsankho, koma ali okonzeka kupirira ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse pokhapokha ngati atakonda, akuyamikira komanso ali pafupi. Ngati muli m'gululi, musadandaule ngati chibwenzi chanu sichidutsamo mfundo zambiri. Koma komabe muyenera kuyankha moona mtima ngati mungathe kupambana ndi munthu woteroyo pa moyo wanu wonse.
Chabwino, ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi chitetezo pafupi ndi inu, mutu weniweni wa banja omwe angapange zosankha zonse, podziwa kuti mnyamata amene ali pafupi ndi inu sali odalirika, ndibwino kuti asiye ubwenzi wake ndi nthawi kapena kuyesa kusintha kuti asinthe.