Kupatukana ndi nthawi yovuta ya moyo. Nthaŵi zonse zimakhala zovuta, misonzi, mantha osokoneza maganizo, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale kusokonezeka maganizo. Koma, chinthu chovuta kwambiri ndi pamene mphindi yofunikayi ikuyenda mwangozi, ndikudabwa kwambiri. Msungwana, mkaziyo, chifukwa cha "mphatso" yachilengedwe yawonjezereka chidziwitso, ndipo mosiyana ndi kugonana kolimba kumakhoza kumva pamene mnyamata akufuna kuwonetsera. Koma, sikokwanira kumangomva, ndikofunikira kudziŵa ndithu, pamene mphindi yotereyo yabwera, ndikofunikira kuzindikira "zomwe munthuyo amaganiza".
Nthawi zina, kugonana kwabwino kumaganizira, koma ndibwino kupeza ngati mnyamata akufuna kukulekanitsani? Yankho la akatswiri a maganizo, inde inde! Inde, ndizofunika! Ndikofunika kuti mudzipulumutse nokha kuchokera ku zokayikira zovuta, kuchokera ku zovuta za kudzimva ndi zovuta za "nsembe yamuyaya". Kupatukana nthawi zonse sikumasangalatsa komanso kumapweteka, koma kudziwa ngati mnyamata akufuna kukugawanizani, kumapangitsa moyo wanu wamtsogolo.
Pali njira zambiri zodziwira zomwe mnyamata akufuna kukugawanizani. Choyamba, ndizofunikira, sizidzakupatsani chidwi. Zikuoneka kuti iye anali wokonzeka. Zokondweretsa ndi zoyendayenda nthawi zonse sizidzakhala. Chachiwiri, musanachoke, adzakuuzani kuti sakukumva chisoni. Mverani mawu ake, ndipo musaphonye. Ngati ayamba kulankhula, ndipo kawirikawiri, za zolakwa zanu, ndiye ichi ndi chizindikiro choyamba cha tsoka limene likubwera. Kotero pali "chikondi" kuti pamene mnyamata ali pachikondi, samawona zolephera za mkazi. Atangomva chisoni, amayamba kuona zovuta zonse mu nkhope ya mtsikana, mawu onse a khalidwe. Chachitatu, mungathe kuphunzira zambiri poyankhula ndi anzanu. Ayi, ndithudi, musayang'ane ndi "kuthamanga", koma nthawi zonse mungaphunzire kuchokera kwa anzanu apamtima momwe chibwenzi chanu chimathera nthawi yosakhala ndi inu. Choncho, mukhoza kupeza chithunzi chowonekera bwino, kuti muyese kulingalira kuti ndi ndani kapena "zotani". Ndipo, chachinai, tikhoza kukonza njira ina. N'zosavuta kulankhula naye pafupipafupi. Sikoyenera kuti tipewe chisangalalo ndi zowopsya, ngati mwamunayo atsimikiza mtima kugawanika, ndiye kuti izi sizikugwirizana. Choncho, ndi bwino kupanga malo osangalatsa ndi otetezeka, ndikuyesera kulankhula ngati anzanu. Kuwona mtima kwa malingaliro anu ndi zolinga zanu, kungathandize mnyamata kuvomereza kamodzi, monga momwe zilili.
Mmene mungadziwire ngati mnyamata akufuna kukugawanirani kapena ayi, mwina ndi limodzi mwa mafunso omwe anthu ambiri amadziwa. Inde, ndi zovuta kudziwa, ndipo ngakhale zovuta kuti mutenge. Koma, monga akunena, "ndibwino kukhala wokonzekera chilichonse" kuti "mdani" asakuchiteni modzidzimutsa. Sikovuta kudziŵa, ndikungoyenera kuona ndi kuzindikira zonsezi. Kufooka ndi chifukwa chake kuchepetsedwa kwa atsikana ndiko kuti kugonana kwabwino kwambiri kumaiwalidwa kwambiri, panthawi ya chikondi. Kukhala maso kumagona tulo, koma panthawi yomweyi, chidwi chimatayika, chomwe chimakupatsani inu kuyang'ana mozama zomwe zikuchitika kuzungulira. Pa nthawi imene anthu awiri aponyedwa kuphompho, moyo ndi maganizo a munthu, amatumiza zizindikiro zambiri zomwe zimamuuza za kutha kwa chiyanjano. Ndikofunika kumvetsera ndi kuyang'ana zizindikiro izi, ndiyeno mwinamwake pali mwayi wina woteteza kutembenuzidwa kotereku.
Kupatukana sikumakhala kophweka, koma zimachitika, ndipo ziwerengero zimasonyeza nthawi zambiri.