Bwanji ngati zingakhale zovuta kugawana ndi mwamuna wanu?

Masiku ano, chiwerengero cha kusudzulana ndi choopsa kwambiri. Oposa theka la okwatirana asudzulana. Kodi mungachite chiyani ngati nanunso munamva zowawa izi? Mulimonsemo palibe chimene chingalepheretse munthu wina kuti asudzulane, onse amakhala olakwa.


Pa zovuta izi, makamaka ngati n'zovuta kuti mutengane ndi mwamuna wanu, muyenera kumadzifunsa nokha. Kodi ndani amene anayambitsa kulekanitsa kwanu? Ngati mwamunayo, ndiye kuti muyenera kuganizira mozama chifukwa chake adachitira izi, kuti simungamupatse chiyanjano chanu, kuti amasankha kupatukana ndi kusudzulana. Mwina adapeza mkazi wina ndikupita kwa iye? Taganizirani izi, ganizirani mozama za zomwe zinalibe mwa inu.

Mwinamwake munasiya kumvetsera kwa iye, simunayambe kudziyesa nokha, mwinamwake muli ndi chibadwa cha amayi ambiri komanso tanthauzo lonse la moyo omwe mumawawona okha mwa ana? Mudzanena kuti anawo ndi opatulika. Koma ana sayenera kukhala pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ana adzakula ndikupita njira zawo, adzakhala ndi miyoyo yawo, mabanja awo. Ndi zopusa kwambiri kuti ndigwire ana awo chikondi chonse, chisamaliro ndi chidwi, osasiya kanthu kwa mwamuna wake.

Inde, iye adapeza mkazi yemwe adzamumvetsera, ndipo tsopano ndi kovuta kuti ukhale ndi mwamuna wako. Ziri zovuta - ndizosavuta kunena, pokhapokha tsopano mumamvetsa momwe mumakondera ndipo simukufuna kutaya. Ndipo mumaganiza chiyani kale, pamene mudakali ndi ana okhaokha? Akazi okondeka, kumbukirani kuti kuti mukhale okhumba nthawi zonse ndikukondweretsa mwamuna wake, nthawi zonse muziwoneka wokongola, ngakhale panyumba, muzitsuka, mutenge ndi kutaya malaya anu akale. Ndipo Mulungu asalole kuti mwamuna wako akuwoneni ndi chigoba cha nkhope yake! Muyenera kukhala ndi chiwerewere nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse mupeze chifukwa choti mumunyengere, kumuyang'anitsitsa, mosasamala kanthu za ana, kapena gulu la zinthu zakuthupi. Ngati mkaziyo adzaima pa chitofu ndikuphika chakudya champhindi chachifupi, ndiye kuti mwamuna sadzadikira, koma tidzatha kudya, adzakufunani! Kodi amai amaiwala kangati kuti wina sayenera kukonda anthu ena mumsewu, koma mwamuna wawo. ndikudabwa chifukwa chake amasiya amuna awo.
Ngati, komabe iwe ndiwe woyambitsa chisudzulo, ndipo pamene kuli kovuta kuti iwe ukhale ndi mwamuna wako, ndiye pewanso kuyesa zonse zomwe zimapindulitsa ndi chiwonongeko. Mwinamwake mwachita mosasamala, mukumverera kwa mtima. Kapena mwinamwake mwakhala mukuganiza za izi kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo potsiriza munaganiza, koma ngakhale izi, kupatukana kwapatsidwa kwa inu ndi vuto lalikulu. Kotero muyenera kuganiza mobwerezabwereza. Kugawana mophweka, koma sipadzakhala msewu wobwerera. Kukhazikitsa maukwati pambuyo pa kusudzulana pazomwe mukuchita kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri, koma mwina nkutheka. ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mukukondabe ndipo popanda izo mudzakhala ovuta kwambiri, yesetsani kukonza chirichonse mpaka mutachedwa.

Yesani kulankhula momasuka naye. Kukhalanso popanda kutsutsana, kukangana. Madzulo, khalani ndekha ndipo kambiranani naye, kambiranani mwamtendere mavuto anu onse, mufotokozereni chifukwa chake mwaganiza kuti mumusiye, afotokozereni kuti mwachita zimenezo mwakumverera, koma tsopano mwakonzeka kukambirana momasuka ndi kupeza njira yopulumutsira banja lanu. Lankhulani momveka bwino ndipo mutsegule muzokambirana. Ngakhale izi sizikuthandizani, mudzadziwa kuti mwayesera kumanga maubwenzi ndipo simungadzitsutse nokha.
Bwanji ngati zingakhale zobvuta kusiya ndi mwamuna wanu ngati kusudzulana kale sikungapeweke, ngati sakupita kuyanjanitso? Choyamba, dzichepetseni nokha. Kukwanira kulira, kokwanira kulira, kudandaula kwa anthu onse, kufunafuna chithandizo ndi chitonthozo. Ngati chisudzulo sichingapeweke, ndipo mumamvetsa bwino kuti izi ndi mapeto a ubale wanu, ndiye kuti mukufunika kuvomereza izi. Ndikofunika kukaniza kukana zenizeni, koma kuyang'ana pazimenezo. Inde, zonsezo ndi zoopsa, koma si mapeto a dziko lapansi. Siye yekhayo padziko lonse lapansi, ndipo ngati simukudziletsa, mudzatha kukumana ndi munthu bwino komanso kumanga maubwenzi atsopano, poganizira zolakwa zanu zakale komanso moyo wanu. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati zovuta kugawana ndi mwamuna wanu?

Choyamba, dzipatseni mwayi wolira, kuvutika ndi "kulira" ubale wosweka. Kuti muchite izi, dzipatseni masiku atatu omwe mutsekedwa nokha mu nyumba, tengani ana anu kwa abale anu, muzimitsa mafoni onse ndi pakhomo la pakhomo ndipo masiku atatu onsewa mudzavutika ndi mphamvu zanu zonse. Onani zithunzi zanu zojambulidwa, mavidiyo kuchokera kuukwati wanu, kugwirana ndi zinthu zake, mutha kukukuta pansi ndikuyamba kukugwetsa misonzi, kuzikweza pamasaya, simungathe kumeta tsitsi lanu, musamadye, musadye, musadye. Lolani ndi mphamvu zanu zonse, mazunzo owonetseratu, ngati mukusewera gawo lofunika kwambiri pa masewero owopsya ndi pozungulira ali odzaza ndi owonerera omwe amakuyamikirani. Lirani misozi yonse mpaka mutasowa kulira. Koma chofunika kwambiri - dzipatseni izi kwa masiku atatu enieni!

NthaƔi zonse muyenera kukumbukira kuti chifukwa cha kuzunzidwa muli ndi masiku atatu okha, kenako moyo watsopano umayamba, kotero musaphonye nthawi, mukumva zambiri, ndiye sipadzakhala mwayi wotero. M'mawa wa tsiku lachinai, yambani kudziyika nokha. Zidzakhala bwino ngati mutasintha maonekedwe anu - dzozani tsitsi lanu, pangani tsitsi lanu latsopano. Onetsetsani kupanga mask nkhope, kusamba ndi mafuta onunkhira, chitani manicure, pita ukadzigulire chovala chatsopano kapena zovala zatsopano. Ndipo kumvetsetsa - moyo watsopano unayambika, umene udzakhala wabwino kwambiri kusiyana ndi wakale, umene kale "unalira" pansi pa pulogalamu yonse, kwa moyo wanu wonse.

Bwereranso kumoyo wanu wamba, koma mulimonsemo, musatseke, muyambe kumudziwa bwino ndi amuna, mukhale otsogolera odziwa, mwachitsanzo polemba pa intaneti pa chibwenzi chanu mbiri yanu. Penyani nokha, nthawizonse muwone bwino muzochitika zonse. Pitani pazinthu ndi amuna. Ndipo muzikonda nokha! Pambuyo pa zonse, munthu wofunika kwambiri m'moyo wanu ndiwe mwini, ndipo moyo suupatsidwa kwa ife kuti tisavutike, koma chifukwa chake timasangalalira. Ndipo momwe timasamalirira miyoyo yathu zimadalira tokha.