Kuti mupulumutse wokondedwa wanu ku vuto lake, nkofunikira kumvetsa chomwe chiri muzu wake. Mungathe kuchotsa zovutazo pokhapokha mutadziwa zomwe zinayambira pachiyambi. Ndipotu, n'zotheka kuthetsa mosavuta wokondedwa wake kuti asakhale ndi chitetezo mwa iyemwini, kungofuna kupeza njira osati kuwonjezera vutoli.
Kotero, mungatani kuti muchotse wokondedwa wanu kuchokera ku zinthu zochepa? Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsa izi ndikukumvetsa zomwe zinapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta. Nthawi zambiri, mavuto a munthu aliyense amayamba ali mwana. Pofuna kupulumutsa munthu ku mavuto, m'pofunika kudziwa bwino momwe anakulira komanso zomwe ubale wake unali m'banja komanso ndi anzako. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala osakwiya ndi mkwiyo kwa makolo ake. Ndili theka la milandu yomwe imayambitsa kudzimva. Izi zimachitika pamene mwana akuleredwa m'banja losakwanira kapena akukula ndi agogo ake. Tonse timadziwa kuti gulu la ana nthawi zina limakhala nkhanza kwambiri kuposa anthu akuluakulu. Ana samaganiza nthawi zonse za mawu awo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnyamata alibe bambo kapena sanaleredwe ndi amayi ake, ndiye kuti mavutowa angayambidwe ndi mafunso omwe ana awafunsa: abambo anu ali kuti? Ndipo amayi anu ali kuti? Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani amayi anu sakukondani?
Zowonadi, zifukwa za khalidwe ili mwa makolo a achinyamata zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri, monga zoyenera, osati. Koma nthawi zambiri mwana amamva kuti samakwanitsa, amakwiya ndi makolo komanso mosamvetsetseka, kenako amazindikira, amayamba kukhulupirira kuti palibe amene angamukonde. Izi zikufotokozedwa mu khalidwe limene limakwiyitsa ndi losangalatsa kwa anthu ambiri, komanso pofuna kukhala ndi chikhumbo chowonetsa kuti sali woyenera iwe ndipo iwe sungathe kumukonda. Kawirikawiri, kuti atsimikizire izi, munthuyo samakwiyitsa ena, koma amangokhalira kuchita zinthu mosasangalatsa. Izi ndizovuta kwambiri kuwononga. Chowonadi n'chakuti lingaliro lakuti "Sindimakonda wapafupi kwambiri" amadya kwambiri osati m'chidziwitso, koma komanso mosadziŵa. Ndipo ntchito yanu yaikulu ndikutsimikizira kwa mnyamatayo: muli ndi chinachake chokonda. Koma muzochitika izi, chinthu chachikulu sichikugwedeza ndodo. Ngati mumayang'anitsitsa kwambiri munthuyo, pamapeto pake ayamba kukugwiritsani ntchito, ndipo izi sizingaloledwe. Choncho yesetsani kumusonyeza kuti sakukukhudzani, ndipo mwakonzeka kumuthandiza pazochitika zilizonse, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo simungathe kuthetsa mavuto ake onse. Amuna awa alibe chikondi chokwanira cha amayi. Kaŵirikaŵiri kuchokera kwa wokondedwa iwo amafuna mwachifundo ndi chitetezo. Yesetsani kudzaza mpata uwu mu moyo wake, koma musatembenuke kukhala nkhuku, yomwe imayambitsa fumbi. Kumbukirani kuti iye ndi munthu wamkulu ndipo ayenera kuthetsa mavuto ake. Koma nthawi zonse amatha kukuthandizani ndikuonetsetsa kuti simudzamusiya, kuthandizira ndi uphungu ndi ntchito, kuthandizira ndi kumvetsetsa pazochitika zilizonse. Anthu oterewa ayenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti achibale adzapulumutsidwa nthawi zonse, sadzachoka limodzi ndi mavuto ake. Mwa njira, maganizo awa sayenera kukhala kwa inu okha, komanso kwa abwenzi ake apamtima. M'madera amphongo sizozoloŵera kusamalirana wina ndi mzake, koma ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa anthu oterowo. Choncho, ngati mukulankhula bwino ndi abwenzi ake, musamangoganizira mozama nkhaniyi ndikuwafunseni kuti azithandizira kwambiri abwenzi awo osati kumenyana ndi malo odwala, ngakhale mwachisawawa. Akazindikira kuti amayamikiridwa ndi kulemekezedwa, vutoli lidzatha pang'onopang'ono.
Komanso, kudzichepetsa kumakhala kovuta chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana ndi nkhanza za anzako ali mwana ndi unyamata. Kaŵirikaŵiri izi zimachitika nthawi imene mwanayo ali wochenjera kuposa omwe amamera nawo limodzi, alibe zizoloŵezi zoipa, amagwira ntchito komanso amakhala omvera. Maofesiwa sali ovuta kuganizira mukakula, komabe, mukazindikira munthu wabwino, amadziwonetsera okha. Kawirikawiri achinyamata otero amayesa kukondweretsa ena panthaŵi imodzimodzi ndipo nthawi imodzi amayesera kusonyeza kuti ali abwino kwambiri. Izi zikhoza kuwonetsedwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana: kudziwa zambiri m'madera ambiri, masewera, zosangalatsa komanso zambiri. Podziwa koyamba ndi kovuta kuona zovuta pa khalidwe la munthu wotere, koma pakapita nthawi umayamba kumvetsa kuti akukwera kutuluka pakhungu kuti atsimikizire kuti sali woipitsitsa kuposa ena. Pa ubale wapamtima nthawi ndi nthawi, achinyamata awa amanena kuti sakhulupirira mwa iwo okha ndipo sangachite chilichonse.
Kuti mumuthandize mnyamata wotere, muyenera kumulimbikitsa nthawi zonse kuti akwanitse zolinga zomwe angadziikire yekha, koma akuwopa kupita kwa iwo. Sikoyenera kunena kuti iye ndi wabwino komanso wochenjera. Koma mukhoza kumuuza kuti ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuti akwaniritse chinachake ndipo akhoza kuzigwiritsa ntchito ngati saopa ndikudzikhulupirira yekha, komanso maluso ake ndi luso lake. Komanso, ndi bwino kumukumbutsa mosapita m'mbali kuti musamawoneke kuti ndi wabwino kuposa iyeyo. Mnyamata wina ali ndi makhalidwe abwino, ndizofunikira kuti aziwongolera ndikuwonetsa kuti iwo sakhala ndi khalidwe lachilendo, koma ndi zochita. Ndipo, ndithudi, mnyamatayo ayenera nthawi zonse kuona chithandizo mwa iwe. Ngati munthu amadziwa kuti munthu amamukonda moona mtima, posachedwa adzatha kudzikonda yekha ndi kuvomereza zomwe iye ali, osati zomwe akufuna.