Ganizirani ngati malotowo sudzapweteka okondedwa anu, sizidzawononga ubale wanu. Kumbukirani momwe mudakwaniritsira zolinga zanu poyamba, zomwe munachita chifukwa cha ichi, kufikira liti pamene akuyesera. Dzichepetseni kumapeto kwa nthawi, yikani tsiku lenileni, pamene mukufuna kuti maloto anu akwaniritsidwe. Ndi bwino bwanji kulota ndi kulota!
Mu psychology, pali chimodzi chokha - ichi ndi cholinga cha cholinga. Cholinga ndi chithunzi chodziŵika cha zotsatira, zomwe zochita za munthu zimayendetsedwa. Maloto mwachibadwa ndi mawonekedwe a mtima wa chinthu chokongola, chokopa, cholinga cha zolinga. Mwachiwonekere, poyamba munthu ali ndi maloto omwe, monga chidziwitso chodziŵa komanso chosadziwa kanthu, amasandulika kukhala cholinga. Mwachidziwikire, maloto ndi cholinga chiri ndi chikhalidwe chimodzi, chimodzimodzi ndi cholinga chofanana: chilakolako. Kusiyanasiyana kumakhalapo podziwa kuti pansi pa maloto ife nthawi zambiri timamvetsa chinachake chachikulu, nthawizina chosatheka. Cholinga cha maloto ndi chikhumbo chenichenicho, cha pansi pano. Ngati munthuyo akuyesera kukwaniritsidwa kwa maloto chifukwa chakuti kukhazikitsidwa kwake kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi maganizo abwino, kukhutira mwakhama kapena mwakuthupi, zokhumba zapadera ndizofunikira zofunikira. Munthu akaika cholinga, amayesetsa kukweza msinkhu wake. Zingakhale kukhala ndi chidziwitso, chidziwitso, kukula kwauzimu kapena ntchito. Cholinga nthawi zonse chimagwira ntchito. Maloto ndi cholinga ndizosiyana. Pambuyo pake, cholingacho chimaphatikizapo kuchitapo kanthu, njira yoganizira. Maloto angathe kuchita izi, ndikupitirizabe kuthawa, zomwe zilibe kukhazikitsidwa kwenikweni. Kulota ndi masewera a malingaliro. Zili ndi zolinga zamtsogolo ndipo zingakhale zolinga zabwino za ntchito. Koma malotowo ali ndi "mlongo" - maloto. Zimayambira pamene malingaliro amadzipatula okha ku chenicheni. Mosiyana ndi malotowo, malotowa ndi "aulesi": wina adzapangitsa moyo wanga kukhala wabwino, osati ine. Cholinga nthawi zonse ndi chidziwitso cha zotsatira zomwe mumazifuna. Izi ndilo loto lodziwika bwino lomwe liri ndi ndondomeko ya konkire komanso nthawi ya kukhazikitsidwa kwake.
Maloto amatsogolera kudziko lamatsenga, kusiya zomwe zimalepheretsa kuzindikira kwa munthu mu dziko lenileni. Malotowa amadzipangira okha, kukhala cholinga. Kenaka ikuyamba kutsogolera zochita ndikusankha zosankha zosiyanasiyana ndi njira zothetsera. Pamene tilota, nthawi zambiri zimatheka chifukwa cha zokoma - kulingalira momwe zikanakhalira zabwino. Kuyambira pano, cholinga ndi cholimbikitsani kwambiri chokwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna. Kukonzekera bwino kwa zolinga kudzakuthandizani kupeza maloto alionse, kumene kulipo gawo limodzi la zochitika zenizeni kuti zithetsedwe. Ndizosatheka kukwaniritsa maloto popanda cholinga, chifukwa kuti muzindikire maloto muyenera kuchitapo kanthu, ndipo khalidwe lopindulitsa lingathe kuchitika pamene zotsatira za ntchito ndi ndondomeko zowonjezera zimaganiziridwa. Cholinga chili ndi mphamvu yogwira mtima yomwe ingapangitse munthu kugwira ntchito kusintha kwa zochitika zakale kapena kusintha kwa dziko lozungulira. Kupanda cholinga, monga lamulo, kumasonyeza kuti wolotayo sanavutike kuganiza pogwiritsa ntchito njira zothetsera maloto ake. N'zovuta kunena mosaganizira. Njira imodzi, maloto (enieni) ndi zolinga zaumunthu zikugwirizana. Cholinga chimakhala ngati mlingo, sitepe, pambuyo pake, munthu amayandikira maloto ake. Ngati malotowa atasudzulidwa kuchokera kudziko lenileni, alibe chochita ndi zokhumba za munthu, ndiye zikhoza kukhala maloto chabe. Maloto amenewa ndi osabala, samakhala ndi mphamvu zamoyo ndipo sapatsa anthu mphamvu kuti azindikire. Iwo ali osiyana ndi malingaliro, masewera a malingaliro. Njira yabwino kwambiri ndiyo kupita kukwaniritsa maloto kudzera kukwaniritsa zolinga, zomwe ndizofunikira pa kukwaniritsa zolinga zazikulu. Maloto opanda cholinga angakhalepo mosavuta, koma alibe vutolo. Koma cholinga popanda maloto sangakhalepo. Mfundo ndi yakuti cholinga chiyenera kuperekedwa ndi mphamvu kuti zizindikire. Ndichomwe chimapatsa maloto. Ndipo ngati mulibe chidwi choterocho, chuma chamkati chidzatha mwamsanga ndipo cholinga sichidzakwaniritsidwa. Chilichonse, chimene mphamvu ya mtima sichigwiritsidwa ntchito, sichibweretsa zotsatira. Kuzindikira maloto popanda cholinga ndizotheka m'nthano chabe. Cholinga chopanda maloto chingatheke. Zoona, njira yotereyi ilibe mawu, prosaic. Maloto amalimbikitsa, popanda izo palibe chilengedwe. Ngati mukusunthira kukwaniritsa maloto anu, osati kungosiya malingaliro anu. Maloto ndi malangizo, ndipo cholinga ndi njira yeniyeni.