Misonkhano ya anthu omwe kale anali okondana kuchokera kumagulu onse okondana amachititsa chidwi chawo chapadera. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, chofunika cha izi ndizosatheka. Panthawi yomwe mayi atagonjetsedwa ndi kugonana kwambiri, akhoza kuchita zinthu mosadziwika bwino, mwa njira, sangathe kufotokozera khalidweli kwa iye mwini.
Mkazi wina amatha kukhala ndi maubwenzi abwino ndi ochezeka ndi wokondedwa wake popanda vuto lililonse, ndipo pali mitundu ya amayi omwe, kwa zaka zonse zomwe akhala pamodzi, amayamba kubisa m'mtima mwawo mkwiyo waukulu komanso osakondwera ndi wokondedwa awo. Pa chifukwa ichi, kupeza yankho lomaliza la funso la momwe mungakhalire ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo ngati mukuyenera kuvomereza naye pamisonkhano, ndizovuta kwambiri. Tiyeni tonse tiyesetse pamodzi kuti timvetsetse funso lovuta limeneli mothandizidwa ndi zitsanzo za zochitika zamoyo zambiri.
Chofunika kwambiri cha misonkhano ndi wachikulire / mbuyake
Ngati zidachitika kuti mwamunayo ndiye woyamba kukhazikitsa udindo woyambitsa chiyanjano, mkaziyo ayenera kutsogoleredwa ndi lamulo lalikulu - osasonyeza kuti akukhumudwa kapena amadandaula za zomwe zinachitika. Ndipo izi siziyenera kudalira ngakhale momwe chibwenzicho chinakhalira nthawi yaitali ndi munthu uyu. Chabwino, ngati zichitika choncho kuti patapita nthawi yomwe wokonda wakale akupereka kukomana, mkaziyo, musanavomereze, nkofunika kuyeza ubwino ndi kupweteka ndikupereka yankho lawo. Inde, zimachitika kuti mayiyo akhoza kukhala woyambitsa misonkhano ya omwe kale ankakonda. Izi, pachiyambi, zingadalire pamkhalidwe wosasinthasintha wa mzimayi yemwe amatsogoleredwa ndi kukumbukira komanso chizoloŵezi chomuwona mwamuna uyu pafupi ndi iye. Koma ziyenera kukumbukira kuti misonkhano yoteroyo siyamba kukhala chiyambi cha kukonzanso maukwati kapena kukhala ndi ubwenzi wolimba. Nthawi zina kudutsa kosayeruzika kwa anthu awiri omwe kale anali okonda kungakhale kwachidziwitso chodziwika pa mutu wakuti: "Kodi mumakhala bwanji popanda ine?".
Ngati okonda kale ndi okwatirana kale
Zikatero, zimakhala zovuta kusiya chiyanjano pakati pa wina ndi mnzake, makamaka kwa kugonana kwabwino. Kumeneko anthu okonda kale anali ogwirizana osati ndi kugonana, komanso ndi mbali zina zambiri za moyo. Inde, sizingatheke kuti muyanjane ndi mwamuna wakale, koma wina sayenera kukhala adani ngakhale.
Koma zilizonse zomwe zikanenedwa pali mphekesera, ndi moyo nthawi zambiri patatha nthawi yopuma kwa okwatiranawo. Kawirikawiri, misonkhano imeneyi imachitika pa "bizinesi" ndipo imakhala ndi chikhalidwe chosangalatsa (ngati, ndithudi, banjali liribe choyenera kugawana) ndipo imachoka pamtima.
Ngati pali mwamuna wamakono
Izi ndizofala kwambiri pakati pa anthu amasiku ano. Chofunika chake ndi chakuti mkaziyo, pokwatira, akupitiriza kukumana ndi munthu wakale. N'zoona kuti misonkhano siikhala ndi chilakolako chogonana nthawi zonse, komatu kumangokhalira kukondana, koma sikuli koyenera kulankhula za izi kwa wokondedwa wanu kapena kupereka zonse kunja. Choncho, ngati izi zikuchitika, musati muwuze nkhani zomwe mkazi wanu amakhulupirira zokhudza momwe wokonda wanu wakale amakhalira tsopano ndi zonse zomwe zimamukhudza. Ndipo mochulukirapo, simuyenera kuyang'ana chifukwa chofotokozera amuna awiri wina ndi mzake, ngakhale ngati ali ochezeka komanso osowa misonkhano.
Tsiku lina m'moyo wa okonda kale
Malingana ndi akatswiri ambiri azachipatala, ngati okonda kale analibe mabwenzi, osati adani, nthawi zambiri misonkhano yotere imathera mu kugonana (ngakhale ngati palibe pamsonkhano woyamba, koma zimachitika). Koma pambuyo pa usiku wokondwerera, nthawi zambiri mkazi amayamba kuzunzika kukayikira ndi mafunso. Choncho, ngati mayiyo akufuna kupitiliza misonkhanoyi ndi wokonda kale, ndikofunika kuti asapimane ndi mayesero ndipo asayambe kuthetsa chiyanjano kapena kubwezeretsanso kale. Pambuyo pake, kuyesa koteroko kumutsimikizira munthu wolakwa zake ndi chirichonse chokhudzana ndi izo, kungopangitsa kuti msonkhanowu ukhale womaliza, ndipo ubwenzi sungatheke. Ndipo potsiriza, ngati mukukayikira kufunikira kwa misonkhanoyi, ndibwino kuti muwasiye ndi kupitiliza kukhala moyo wanu!