Mumakhumudwa ndipo mumalankhula milomo yanu ndi uta - zizindikiro zimayambira pa iwo omwe ali othandizira komanso omwe amanyamula vodka. Mukukwiyitsa, mumayankha mofulumira ndipo mumayamba kusokoneza mawu - kuseka. Mutha kukhala pansi ndikusungunula madzi mchere, koma kwenikweni kumverera ngati nthendayi sikusangalatsa, ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukhala pamodzi ndi kampaniyi.
Koma musataye mtima, ngakhale mutayesa chirichonse chomwe chiri chotheka, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti inu, mwinamwake, ndizo kuti anthu ngati inu amakugwirani ndipo palibe chimene mungachitepo. Ndipotu, palibe chomwe chingatheke pankhaniyi. Koma! Musanayambe kukonzekera kusintha chilichonse, muyenera kupanga chisankho chimodzi chofunikira - kudzidziwitsa nokha ngati mukufunadi ayi.
Kufunika kwa njira yothetsera imeneyi sikokomeza, chifukwa molunjika kumadalira pa izo, ngati inu mungakhoze kusintha chirichonse. Mungathe kungosankha "Chabwino, ndiyesera kuchita chinachake, koma ngati chinachake chichitika, chirichonse chidzangokhala momwemo." Komabe, mu nkhaniyi, simungachite chilichonse mosasamala. izi sizikukuthandizani kuti musinthe. O, inde, muyenera kusintha. Chifukwa chifukwa chake chimakhalanso mwa inu. Ndipo ngati muli ndi chikhumbo chosintha chilichonse, ndiye kuti mukufunika kupanga chisankho chofunikira kuti muchite izi ndikukhazikitsa cholinga chenicheni.
Kotero, mwakonzeka kusintha zinthu zonse ndipo simungakhale zambiri zopsereza za nthabwala zomwe zingatheke. Ndinazindikira kale kuti omvera anu akumvetsera zokamba zanu, kuseka ndi nthabwala zanu, osati ndi inu, ndi zina zotero. Mkulu! Ndiye tiyeni tiyambe.
1. Musagwire ntchito pagulu. Kugwira ntchito kwa anthu ndi kunena zomwe mukuganiza kuti anthu akufuna kumva. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti sakufuna kumva zomwe munaganiza. Ndiye zikutanthauza kuti mudzanena chinachake chomwe chidzakhale, monga akunena, ngakhale kumudzi, kapena kumudzi. Mawu oterewa amachititsa kuti mukhale ndi maganizo a chitsiru, omwe mungathe kuseka. Koma mukudziwa kuti mwanena izi osati chifukwa chakuti mumaganiza choncho, koma chifukwa mumaganiza kuti zidzakhala ngati kumva ena. Zimakhala kuti mwadzipweteka nokha.
2. Yesetsani kulemba maganizo anu pazokambirana. Inu mumagwiritsa ntchito kuti palibe amene amamvetsera maganizo anu, kotero inu musataye mphamvu yanu pa mawu ake. Zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kungonena kuti oyamba anayamba kukumbukira popanda kuganiza, ndipo amakhalanso wotopa chifukwa "nthawi zonse palibe amene amamvetsera." Ngakhale ngati gulu lanu lonse lakhala likuzoloŵera kale, sizikutanthauza kuti sangathe kuzizoloŵera. Choncho, yambani ndi mfundo kuti yesetsani kuganizira zomwe akunena, osati zazing'ono. Yesetsani kutsatila mutu wa zokambiranazo ndipo ganizirani momwe mumayankhira zokambiranazo. Pokhapokha, pokhala ndi lingaliro lomveka, mukhoza kulifotokoza. Ngati mukufuna kupumula, ndipo mutuwo suli wokondweretsa kwa inu, ndiye kuti muyambe kudutsa, musati muwononge. Ndiye simudzatha kunena kupusa mopusa.
3. Musamakangane. Mikangano ndi ntchito yosayamika . Makamaka ngati simukusamala kwenikweni zomwe mdani wanu angaganize pazokangana. Uku ndiko kusowa kosafunikira kwa mitsempha ndi nthawi. Koma chovuta kwambiri kwa inu ndikuti mudzalandira mbiri ya wokangana, amene simukukondweretsa naye. Ndi bwino kuti tibwerere limodzi mwa lingaliro lake komanso kuti tisakhale ndi mkangano. Ndipo ngati mdani wanu akufuna kupitiliza kukangana, musamachite manyazi kusintha nkhaniyo mwachangu kapena mwinena kuti simukufuna kutsutsana. Mungathe ngakhale kuvomereza ngati sizidalira pa izo.
4. Musakhumudwe, musakwiyire ndipo musakwiyire. Izi sizikupatsani inu zabwino. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, palibe tsatanetsatane wa chifukwa chake mukuchitira izi. Ngati mukufuna kukhumudwa kapena kukwiya, dzifunseni funso lakuti "Nanga chiyani?". Osati kusokoneza ndi funso lakuti "Chifukwa chiyani"? Chifukwa chakuti mudzadzipezera nokha milioni, koma simungathe kuganizira cholinga chomwe mungachite. Mukachita izi, patapita nthawi simungathe kukhumudwa. Ngati munthu akufuna kukukhumudwitsa, ndiye kuti cholakwa chanu chikutanthauza kuti wapindula cholinga chake. Ngati simukukhumudwa, ndiye kuti ndi amene adataya, osati inu. Patapita kanthawi, palibe amene angakukhumudwitse.
5. Musayese kunena chilichonse, kungonena. Lankhulani kokha pamene muli ndi chinachake choti munene. Lankhulani kokha kuti musakhale chete, inu kapena othandizira anu simukusowa.
6. Musapange zifukwa. Kudzitsimikizira nokha, sikuti mumangodzivomereza nokha, koma ngati kuti mukuyesera kupempha chikhululuko. Kotero ngati wina akukutsutsani molakwika za chinachake, ingonena kuti "zonse sizili momwe mukuganizira," ndipo mulimonsemo, musalowe mu zifukwa zomwe zinakuchititsani kuchita zimenezo, kupatula ngati mwinamwake makamaka za izi musapemphe.
7. Khalani achilengedwe. Munthu akachita zinthu mosadziwika, nthawi yomweyo amadziwika bwino. Izi ndi zosasangalatsa, chifukwa iwo omwe akuzungulirani amayamba kuganiza kuti akunyengedwa. Ndipo ndani angakonde pamene amunyenga? Inde, ndipo kodi inuyo nthawi zonse mumafunika kudziyerekezera? Ndizosavuta komanso zabwino kuti aliyense ayamikiridwe chifukwa chawe. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kuyamba kukhala chomwe inu muli; zachilengedwe.
Tsatirani mfundo izi, penyani momwe maganizo anu amasinthira pang'onopang'ono, ndipo musaswe. Inu simukufuna kuwononga chirichonse chifukwa cha mphindi imodzi yofooka ndi kuyambiranso mobwerezabwereza? Kuwonjezera pamenepo, kuyambiranso kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri. Ndipo osati chifukwa chakuti zingakhale zovuta kuti inu mubwereze chirichonse kuchokera pa sitepe yoyamba, komanso chifukwa nthawi yotsatira zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kukakamiza aliyense kusintha maganizo awo kwa inu. Ndipotu, ayamba kukuchitirani mosiyana, ndipo mwadzidzidzi mudzawawonetsa kuti adachita zonse mwachabe. Ndipo kuti ayambenso kukuchitirani mosiyana, adzalandira nthawi yambiri akukusinthirani. Kotero khalani olimba ndi kudziyang'anira nokha ndi ena, ndipo zonse zidzatha.
Chirichonse chiri mmanja mwanu!