Kodi zotsatira zake zimakhala zotani?
Mwina maganizo okhumudwitsa sali oopsa kwambiri? Mwinamwake izi ndizimverera mwachibadwa mwa ife enieni? Ndipo muwachotse iwo si choncho? Tsoka ilo, ziwerengero zimanena mosiyana. Kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, nsanje, anthu amasiya abwenzi awo apamtima, mabanja akusweka, mavuto kuntchito. Ndipo zoipa ndi zowawa zimakhala bwanji mu moyo kuchokera ku mkwiyo wosakhululukidwa, ngakhale chiyanjanocho chinapulumutsidwa. Nthawi zina timapempherera chikhululukiro kapena kuvomereza kuti wina apepesa, koma kukhumudwa pamtima kumatsalirabe. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika?
Dziko limene tikukhalamo liri lodzaza mayesero. Mwina chofunika kwambiri mwa iwo ndi chikhumbo choyika mlandu pa zolephera zathu, mavuto athu ndi kusowa chikondi kwa wina. Tikuyesera kufunafuna chisangalalo ndi chitukuko kunja kwathu, kuyembekezera kuti atipatsa ife, kutisangalatsa, kutipatsa chimwemwe. Koma iwo amene amaganiza choncho, amadikirira mkwiyo, kukhumudwa, kudzipusitsa, kutsutsidwa kwa mabwenzi ndi kusakondwera ndi zochita zawo. Ndipo izi ndichifukwa chakuti tayiwala kuti tikhoza kuyang'ana dziko kudzera mu chikondi ndi chidaliro, kukhala okongola komanso olemekezeka.
Nthaŵi zina timamatira kumverera kwa nsanje kapena kukwiya, kuchititsa kudzimva kuti ndife olakwa kwa okondedwa athu. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti timadzimvera mozama kapena timayesetsa kudziteteza ku zowawa komanso panthawi yomweyo sitidziwa zina. Munthuyo amakhala ndikumakumbukira zochitika zina zosasangalatsa kapena mau olakwira. Ndipo sizikuchitika kwa iye kuti maganizo olakwika amamubweretsanso kumbuyo, amalepheretsa zolinga zake za m'tsogolo, amamulepheretsa kuyembekezera zabwino, osamulola kuti akhale ndi chimwemwe chatsopano. Munthu samvetsa kuti mkwiyo kapena nsanje zomwe zakhalabe mu moyo wake zimayambitsa maganizo kupyolera mu zoyipa - mkwiyo, mantha, ululu. Ndipo iyi ndi njira yowongoka yopita kuchipatala, ndipo pa nthawi iliyonse: kusemphana kwa mantha kumachitika, kugawidwa kwa magazi ndi kusintha kwa mphamvu ya thupi, chitetezo cha mthupi chimachotsedwa.
Musawope kutsutsa ena
Chifukwa china chimene nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kukhululukira munthu wolakwiridwa ndi mantha. Kapena, mantha, kuti, pokhululukira wina yemwe atilakwira, tidzakhala opusa, ndipo ena adzatiseka. Koma tiyenera kukumbukira kuti chikhululukiro sichiri chofukwa cha khalidwe la wina. M'malo mwake, ndi mtima wofuna kuyang'ana mwachifundo pa zomwe zachitika. Ndipotu, kawirikawiri munthu wonyoza kapena wonyoza ndi wofooka. N'zoona kuti simukuyenera kunyozedwa, choncho muyenera kupeza mphamvu kuti mutulutse nokha kuchokera ku unyolo wa mkwiyo.
Dzimasulireni nokha kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, ndi nsanje. Musasunge zoipa mu moyo komanso chifukwa cha malingaliro awa, kupatulapo inu, palibe wina amene akuvutika. Kukhululukidwa mu moyo ndi kofunikanso, monga momwe zimachitikira m'nyumba yomwe mukusowa kuyeretsa. Pamene pali zinyalala zosafunikira zimatulutsidwa kunja kuti zithetse njira zatsopano, zothandiza. Kwa ife - malingaliro abwino ndi zokondwa.
Ndiuzeni za chirichonse chomwe chili m'makalata
Kotero tiyeni tiphunzire kukhululukira ena ndi ife enieni. Motani? Ndipo inu mumayesa kuyang'ana pa zomwe zinachitika ku mbali inayo. Kodi mungaphunzirepo chiyani pazimenezi? Ndi mwayi uti wosayembekezereka, luso lopangidwa pambuyo poti winawake waperekedwa kapena akulephera? "Palibe amene amadziwa zabwino, zoipa," akunena nzeru zaku East. Kotero, mwinamwake, sikofunikira, kusiya moyo, kumangokhalira nsanje, kukwiya ndi kudziletsa?
Dzipulumutse okha kuchokera ku malingaliro okhumudwitsa bwino bwino kuthandizira makalata. Thandizo losazolowereka limeneli limalimbikitsidwa ndi akatswiri a maganizo komanso amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri. Lembani kalata nokha, kuyambira ndi mawu a zonse zomwe zasonkhanitsidwa. Musakhale wamanyazi a mawu ndi kumverera, koma mwanjira iliyonse musatumize kalata ndipo musalole aliyense kuziwerenga. Mizimu imamva bwino kwambiri ngakhale patali. Khulupirirani moyo kuti muthandizireni ntchito yabwinoyi, adzalandira njira yopereka chidziwitso kwa moyo wa wolakwira. Lembani makalata ena, omwe mungapeze mphamvu kuti muvomereze khalidwe la munthu wina, kuvomereza ndi mkwiyo wanu ndi mantha. Mu yachiwiri, kalata yachitatu, maganizo anu adzakhala odekha komanso ofanana. Panthawi ina mudzapeza kuti ndinu mfulu, kuti zakale zakusokonezani. Chisoni, kupweteka, nsanje zadutsa. Kuti ndinu mfulu ndipo mutsegula mwayi ndi maubwenzi atsopano.
Khalani odzipereka ndi inu nokha. Ndi kosavuta kumasula moyo wanu ku maganizo oipa, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, nsanje. Ndipo pitirirani. Musadabwe ngati anthu akale adayitana kapena kulemba mwadzidzidzi. Kapena, mosiyana, mwadzidzidzi iwo adzapita kutali ndi motalika. Moyo wokha umakupatsani mwayi womanga ubale wa khalidwe latsopano.