Kufuna kupeza mabwenzi okhulupirika, ndizovuta kwambiri kuti asunge ubale wautali ndi iwo. Kuposa zonse izi zimagwira ntchito. Kawirikawiri ife timayanjanirana mu ubwana ndi unyamata, pamene ife tidakali osowa kwambiri ndi okonzeka kukhala mabwenzi nthawi zonse tikatsegulidwa kwathunthu. Timasankha anzathu mwanjira yomweyo, potsatira chikhalidwe cha ana.
Popeza takula ndipo sitinapangidwe ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi ife, tikuyandikira osankhidwa mosamala kwambiri. Choyamba ndi chachikulu, chimatipulumutsa ife, koma chimatipangitsa kukhala osungulumwa. Pakhoza kukhala abwenzi ambiri kapena abwenzi azinthu zosiyanasiyana zodalirika momwe zingathere, ndipo pa chifukwa china sitingathe kuwadalira kwathunthu. Ndipo tikudziwa bwanji kukula kwa ubale ndi abwenzi?
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti tonsefe sitiri abwino, posakhalitsa chibwenzi chanu chikhoza kuchita chinachake chimene simumayembekeza konse.
Dzifunseni nokha mlingo wa kudzipereka umene ukuvomerezeka pakati pa inu. Kodi mungathe kuyembekezera kuti chibwenzi chanu sichikufotokozerani za inu, munamupatsa chiyani? Kodi sangakuchitireni kaduka, atamva ovashih opambana?
Ngati izi sizikuwopsyezani, musakwiyitse ngati zinsinsi zanu zimadziwika kwa aliyense, kapena mwadzidzidzi zimakhala kuzizira komanso zosiyana ndi kvam. N'zotheka kuti mukamakhulupirira mnzanu ndi vuto lanu, adzalitanidwa kuti akuthandizeni, komabe zingatheke kuti thandizoli lidzakupangitsani zotsatira zosafunikira.
Chimene sichiri kofunikira pazochitika zilizonse kuti ugawane spodrugoy?
Tidzakambirana nkhani zingapo zoopsa, momveka bwino zomwe zingakhale chopunthwitsa pakati pa inu ndi bwenzi lanu.
Banja lanu kapena banja lanu
Nthawi zimayenera kukhala zosatheka, chifukwa zimagwiranso ntchito kwa inu komanso okondedwa anu, makamaka ngati pali mavuto. Ngakhale ngati chirichonse chiri chopambana, musamadzitamande ndi bwenzi lanu ndi mphatso ndi maubwenzi, ana ndi kupeza, ngati bwenzi lanu alibe. Muyenera kusonyeza chifundo ndikumumvera chisoni, ndikupulumutsani chifukwa cha nsanje.
Ngati makhalidwe anu ali omveka komanso osamala, inu nokha simufuna kunena za izo, mukukhumudwitsa mnzanu wapamtima. Ziribe kanthu momwe iye sanakondwerere ndipo sanasangalale ndi kupambana kwako, zolephera zake zingakhale zovuta kwambiri motsutsana ndi kupambana kwako. Ngati simungathe kuletsa chimwemwe ndipo muyenera kugawana nawo ndi bwenzi lanu - khalani odzichepetsa komanso olekerera.
Pali mtundu wa amayi omwe amakonda kukambirana ndi abwenzi ake aamuna ndi zofooka zake, kulephera kwake. Koma ndikuganiza kuti simuyenera kufotokoza banja lanu ku banja lanu, sikungathetse mavuto anu. Kuwonjezera zolakwa zawo, zingapindule kwambiri, komabe inu mumadziitanira nokha ndi banja lanu.
Ndinali ndi chibwenzi, nthawi zonse ankalankhula za mwamuna wake zabwino zokha, koma adadziwa kuti akunyenga, akulira. Tonsefe tinadabwa ndikupanga manja. Koma zinachitika kuti tinachokera kwa amuna athu okongola, ndipo adatha kuukitsa kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake wa neputevogo mwamuna wabwino komanso wamtendere. Anakwaniritsa izi mwa chikhulupiriro cholimba mwa iye ndipo nthawi zonse amalimbikitsidwa ndi mawu okoma. Mungathe kuziyika mwanjira imeneyi-kuzikonzekera bwino kuti mukhale ndi tsogolo labwino komanso lanu.
Pankhani ya kugonana
Zokambirana zokambirana, zonse ziyenera kukhala pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo. Ngati mupitiliza kukambirana ndi bwenzi lanu momasuka za moyo wanu wapamtima, zingatheke kuti mnzanu adzalengeze zokambirana zanu za izi kapena ngati atakukhudzani kuti mukhale ndi moyo, ambiri adzagwiritsa ntchito mfundo zake kuti athandizidwe.
Mutu wa ntchito ndi bizinesi
Chidani choopsa kwambiri cha ubale ndicho kupambana. Mulimonsemo, mudzafuna kugawana nawo ntchito zanu kapena kupeza uphungu wabwino kwa mnzanu. Mukusintha malingaliro, malingaliro, kenako nkupezeka kuti sakutsatiridwa. Lingaliro loyamba limene lingabwere m'malingaliro anu ndilo kuti chibwenzi chanu chasintha, koma izi siziri zoona. Pachifukwa ichi, wolakwira si bwenzi, koma ubongo umene, monga momwe unakhalira, sukusiyanitsa mapulani ndi zochita zomwe zachitika. Tiyenera kudzikuza kupambana kwa wina ndi mnzake ndipo ubongo wathu umatsimikizira kuti ndizochitika ndipo satipatsa mwayi wochita khama kuti tikwaniritse zomwe tikufuna.
Kuti mukwaniritse zotsatira zomwe mukuzifuna, simukuyenera kuimbitsa chibwenzi chanu chifukwa cha nsanje kuti sangakupatseni thandizo loyenera pa nthawi yoyenera, osagawana zolinga zanu ndi wina aliyense, kapena ndi mnzanu, kapena wina aliyense.
Ngati ndiwe wopambana kuposa chibwenzi chako, usamudzule chifukwa cha ulemelero ndi kuchepetsako, wodzitamandira pa zomwe wapindula kuti uwonetsere ukulu wanu, kumuthandizani, kukupindulitsani zotsatira za ntchito yanu. Ngati bwenzi lanu liri laulesi kapena osadzidalira, yesetsani kumugwedeza, kumuchotsa panja, kupeza maluso mwa iye ndikuwatsindika, kumbukirani luso lake ndi maluso omwe angamulimbikitse kuti apambane.
Kondwerani kumbali yake ndi kupambana kwake ndi kupambana kwake. Poyamba, mungathe kukokomeza kupambana kwake, kotero kuti molimbikitsidwa kwambiri ndi zochitika zatsopano. Sitikuthokozani kokha kwa inu, ubwenzi wanu udzasinthidwa kukhala masewera ndipo ubwenzi udzakhala wolimba. Ndiye mukhoza, popanda kusamala, kugawana zonse zopambana ndi zochitika, ndipo sichidzawopa mantha ake kapena mantha kuti adzakuonongani.