Pamene palibe wokondedwa mu moyo, posakhalitsa kumverera kopanda pake kumayamba kuchotsa izo, ena amayamba kuyang'ana ma TV onse mndandanda, ena amakhala pa intaneti ndikulankhulana pa tsamba la chibwenzi, ena amayenda ndi kugwira ntchito, akubwera kunyumba kuti agone. Koma, choyamba, nkofunikira kumvetsa chifukwa cha kusungulumwa, kuti tiyankhe funso la momwe tingachotsere kusungulumwa mosavuta ndi mofulumira?
Zokha, pali ubwino ndi zifukwa zomwe amai safunira kusungulumwa.
1. Amakopa ufulu! Munthu wosungulumwa sayenera kusintha munthu wina, safunika kuphika, kuyeretsa nyumba kuti akondweretse munthu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mungathe kukhala momwe mukufunira, osati momwe muyenera. Anthu ambiri amaona kuti ufulu wawo ndi wamtengo wapatali kwambiri choncho amakhala osakwatiwa.
2. Akazi omwe alibe mwamuna wamuyaya angathe kupempha thandizo, amudandaula, amutonthoze. Ndiko, chikhumbo chowoneka chokhumudwa ndi chofooka ndikuchikomera.
3. Azimayi ena, omwe ali ndi chisoni ndi amuna osadzimva, safuna kukhala paubwenzi ndi wina aliyense. Kwa iwo, tsopano, ndi mwayi kubwerera kunyumba, kugwera mu mipando ya olumala ndi kuyang'ana sopo wina opera kapena weniweniwonetsero.
4. Pali akazi omwe amakhulupirira kuti anthu onse sali oyenerera. Akuyembekezera munthu wangwiro yemwe adzavala izi m'manja mwake ndi kupereka maluwa. Akazi oterewa amakhala pansi pa chilankhulo kuti ndi bwino kukhala ndekha kusiyana ndi wina aliyense.
5. Atsikana ena samangofuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi cholimba komanso chotalika, koma amasangalala ndi mwamuna yemwe mwina sadzawonekeranso. Amayi awa samadzifunsanso kuti ndi ovuta bwanji komanso mwamsanga kuthetsa kusungulumwa.
6. Pali zochitika pamene munthu angokhala cholepheretsa zolinga za amayi. Mkazi wopambana sangathe kuthera nthawi pa mwamuna. Iye samangokwaniritsa zolinga zake.
7. Mtsikana wosakwatiwa saloledwa kulankhula, kusangalala, kuvala chovala chachifupi. Palibe yemwe ali ndi nsanje, samasonyeza choti achite ndi momwe angakhalire. Simukusowa kuganiza zoti muphike chakudya, momwe mungasinthire kugonana kwa mwamuna wanu, kusakhulupirika, kuzunzika ndi kutengeka.
Koma palinso akazi otero, mwa njira, ndiwo ambiri amene akufuna kuchotsa chisangalalo ndi kukhala osangalala m'banja lawo.
Komabe, mungathetse bwanji kusungulumwa?
Choyamba, muyenera kuchoka pa intaneti ndikupita kwa anthu. Ndipo ziribe kanthu komwe, sikofunikira kwambiri kupita, mwachitsanzo, mu cafe, mukhoza kupita ku nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale, kungoyenda kuzungulira mzindawo, chifukwa chaichi gulu la anzanu kapena ogwira nawo ntchito adzachita. Kwenikweni, kusungulumwa ndi pamene pali munthu mmodzi yekha, ndipo ngati pali anthu ambirimbiri, kusungulumwa sikovuta kwambiri. Mukhoza kulembetsa maphunziro ena, makamaka omwe ali ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Ndibwino kuti tipite ku malo osungira, makamaka wina, opanda abwenzi. Kotero ndi kosavuta kuti mudziwe bwino ndikugonjetsa manyazi anu, chifukwa palibe amene angakuwoneni kuchokera kwa anzanu. Kumalo osungirako, ubalewo ndi wosavuta kumangiriza.
Ndikoyenera kuyang'ana khalidwe lanu ndikukumvetsa zolakwa zanu. Tiyenera kuwunika, kusintha zolakwika, makhalidwe abwino, maonekedwe, zizoloŵezi. Chirichonse chomwe chingakhoze kulekanitsa mnyamata yemwe angakhalepo. Kukhala wosungulumwa kapena osakhala, aliyense amasankha yekha. Ndipotu, kusungulumwa kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Mungathe kukhala osungulumwa, pokhala ndi gulu lalikulu, ngakhale pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu, mukhoza kumakhala osungulumwa komanso osowa.