Ambiri aife tili ndi makhalidwe omwe angakwiyitse ena nthawi ndi nthawi. Mofananamo, mnyamata wanu nthawi zina amachoka kwa munthu wamaloto n'kukhala wovuta kwambiri, kukhala msungwana yemwe inu ndi mdani simukufuna.
Mnzanu, mosiyana ndi zimenezo, sakudziwa choti achite ngati mwamuna wake atseka yekha ndipo amamuzunza ngati wothandizira kuti adziŵe zifukwa zowononga mosayembekezereka. Ndipo mlongoyo amachoka payekha nthawi yomwe wokondedwayo akuganiza mwadzidzidzi kuti afotokoze momwe adakhazikidwiranso ntchito, ndipo amatha kufotokozera momwe zosangalatsa zilili kuti chibwenzi chake sichikhala ndi nthawi yosamba malaya ake omwe amakonda kwambiri. Kwa onse omwe adaphunzira mwa mmodzi mwa amuna amenewa okhulupirika awo, tikupempha kuti tiwerenge zomwe amalingalira za mitundu imeneyi. Ndipo, mwinamwake, mumvetsetse momwe mungasinthire zolakwika za mnyamatayo muzochita zake zosatsutsika.
Mtundu wosasangalatsa
Inu munakomana naye iye mu sukulu yophunzira. Analimbikitsanso nkhani yake ya Ph.D. ndipo ankakonda kwambiri woyang'anira sayansi wamba kuti apeze mfundo zochepa komanso zochokera kuntchito yake yomwe ophunzitsidwa angapo sanawonepo. N'zotheka kuti kumayambiriro kwa kuyankhulana kwanu munali naye chidwi kwambiri, chifukwa pamutu wa zolembazi zimakhala ndi zambiri zokondweretsa, ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala wokonzeka kugawana naye. Koma patapita nthawi, munayamba kuzindikira kuti mnzanu watsopanoyo adayamba kukuphunzitsani za sayansi, komanso momwe angamangirire zingwe ndi kukonzekera minestrone. Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti izi sizosadabwitsa. Munthu wodalirika - ndipo izi ndizo zololedwa - sali okonzeka kuchoka ku khalidwe lake, izi ndizopindulitsa kwambiri pamaganizo a amuna oopsa. Ndi chifukwa chake pafupifupi aliyense amene amamuzungulira amamuchitira zowawa pang'ono: anzake, abwenzi, abwenzi ake aakazi, komanso, ogulitsa m'masitolo.
Kuyenda mopitirira malire ndi khalidwe la achinyamata omwe anayenera kukula msinkhu. Izi ndizo "Amalume Fyodor", omwe adakhala othandizira a amayi awo, kuwasewera iwo udindo wa otonthoza ndi alangizi. Iwo ankamverera okondedwa ndi ofunika pokhapokha atapereka "wamkulu", wothandizira wanzeru. Ndipo tsopano akuwonetsa chithunzi cha amayi awo kuyambira ali mwana, zomwe adayenera kuthetsa mavuto. Mu masewera a maganizo "Chaser - Mpulumutsi - Nsembe", amuna omwe akusowa mtendere nthawi zonse amayesa kuchita nawo Mpulumutsi. Iwo mosadziwa amadzifunafuna Nsembe, yomwe idzafuna malangizo awo anzeru ndi zomwe iwo adzayamba kuphunzitsa. Nthawi zina thandizo lotere limakhala lopambanitsa, ngakhalenso kuzunzidwa, makamaka pamene Mpulumutsi akupitirizabe "kuphunzitsa" kwake. Pachifukwa ichi, musaope kunena kuti "Stop!". Zikomo chifukwa cha malangizo anu, nenani kuti mumayamikira malingaliro ake, koma mutha kusankha nokha. Kwa kanthawi, akhoza kukukhumudwitsani pang'ono, koma ngati mutakhala ndi mtima wokhazikika ndikutsatira chisankho chanu, pang'onopang'ono ubale wanu udzasintha.
Khalani okondwa!
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti mkazi amene ali wokonzeka kutenga udindo pa moyo wake pa mapewa a munthu wina ndipo safuna kuganiza ndi kuchita mosiyana ndiyekha amatha kukhazikitsa ubale wolimba ndi amuna, kapena amitundu ena owopsa kwambiri. Komabe, ngati pazifukwa zina mwamunayo akusowa thandizo, ndipo mtsikanayo sangathe kumupatsa, mgwirizano wawo ukhoza kupuma.
Ndilira ndikulira
Pamene mumaikonda pa nthawi ya zana ndikuyamba nyimbo yomwe amamukonda ponena za momwe iye alibe mwayi komanso zomwe amasonkhanitsa anthu ake, mumayesetsa kumukumbatira, koma mkati mwanu mumakhumudwa kuti muli ndi mnyamata wotere. Izi sizikutanthawuza kuti iye sali wopanda pake pachabe - m'malo mwake, akhoza kupanga ntchito yabwino, kukhala ndi moyo wangwiro, ndipo muli pano, okongola komanso osamala, nthawi zonse ndi iye. Koma zikuwoneka kuti munthuyu akufunikira kugawana nawo malingaliro ake oipa padziko lapansi. Inu munapita ku cafe, iye analamula malo ogulitsa, koma sanalipo? Mukudikira theka la ora podandaula za kupanda chilungamo padziko lapansi, mutatha kumwa zonse zomwe mukufuna, komanso "amene ali nazo". Ine ndimamuphika iye omelet kuti adye chakudya cham'mawa, chomwe chinalibe nthawi yoti achotse icho ku mbale? Adzayenera kuthyola chiwombankhanga chouma chophimba - maonekedwe a tsiku lonse awonongeke.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kukhala osakhutira ndi anthu otere ndi njira yachibadwa yomwe imakhudza zochitika zakunja, zomwe zimayambira kuyambira ubwana. Mwana wamkati wa munthu uyu sakulira chifukwa chachitika choopsa, iye akusowa kumasuka maganizo.
Amuna amakula, monga lamulo, m'banja limene bambo salipo mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo. Ndipo amayi anga amasamala kwambiri, kuyesera kuteteza mwana wake kwambiri momwe angathere ku mavuto onse. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo zimasokoneza kwambiri, mwina, ngakhale nsanje pang'ono kuti mwanayo akuyesera kuchita chinachake payekha. Amayi ndi mwana ali ndi chidziwitso, mwachindunji maudindo amagawidwa motere: ali wamphamvu, wanzeru, wosamalira, ndipo iye-amene amasamalira, amafunikira. Kukula, mwamuna akuyang'ana ubale umene wakhala akumudziwa kuyambira ali mwana.
Mwamwayi, whiner sanathe kukula. Ndipo sindinaphunzire kutenga udindo pa moyo wanga. Amalira, amawombera, ngati mwana wamng'ono, amafunitsitsa kuti mayi wachikondi amuthandize kuthana ndi moyo wovutawu. Monga lamulo, mu chiyanjano munthu wotere amatenga udindo wa Wotsutsidwa. Ndipo iye nthawizonse amafunikira Mpulumutsi. Msungwana yemwe sali wokonzeka kuthandizira komanso kukhala wokoma mtima kwa wokondedwa, popanda kufunsa chilichonse, sangathe kukhala ndi whiner wamwamuna kwa nthawi yaitali. Ngakhale kumusiya iye amusangalatse iye ndi kumverera kwake ndi kumverera kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano. Koma ngati ndizofunika kwambiri kuti mudzidzikonde nokha kusiyana ndi kumverera kuti muli ndi phazi labwino pambali panu, ndiye kuti banja lanu liri ndi tsogolo.
Ine sindikhululukira!
Chirichonse ndi chabwino ndi inu, mpaka chinachake chidzidzidzike. Koma "chinthu" ichi ndi chifukwa chake chimamupweteka kwambiri, muyenera kudziganizira nokha. Mwina pambuyo pake, wokondedwa adzakambirana za momwe angayesere kuti asamukhumudwitse iye momasuka. Koma izi zidzachitika mtsogolo, koma mkati mwa maola angapo mudzawona nkhope yosasangalatsa ya munthu wanu ndikuyankha mafunso onse yankho limodzi - "mwachibadwa." Komanso amavutika chifukwa chosowa kumvetsetsa zomwe mumakonda zomwe sakonda.
Kudzipatula mopambanitsa mukumenyana, kusakhumba kulankhula, komanso kuyang'ana koopsa, mwachidziwikire kumasonyeza kuti alibe chisamaliro chokwanira. Kawirikawiri, khalidweli likhoza kukhala chidziwitso chodziwika bwino. Kudzudzula kwa mnzanuyo kumapangitsa kudzidzimva kwa inu, ndipo mwakonzeka kutentha kwanu kuti muthane ndikumverera kosasangalatsa. Zifukwa za mkwiyo wochuluka, monga mavuto ena ambiri, ali mwana. Mwinamwake makolo analekerera kuwonetseredwa kwa kumverera ndipo sankalemekeza kawirikawiri mwana wawo wamwamuna wamng'ono, nthawi iliyonse amasankha kusazindikira kuti mothandizidwa ndi kunyoza iye amayesera kuwasamalira. Ndipo mmalo modzikonda nokha ndi kuvomereza zomwe ziri, izo zimakhala zofunikira kwa mwana momwe zimayesedwa ndi ena. Osati kupeza zomwe akufuna, amapulumutsa chisokonezo ku dziko lonse lapansi, chomwe moyo wachikulire umawonetsera mwayi uliwonse kwa iwo omwe sanathe kumusamalira mokwanira ndi chikondi.
Mnyamata wamng'ono mwa mwamuna wamkulu akuwopa kuti afunse chinachake poyera ndi kuti azindikire yekha kulephera, koma mwadzidzidzi iye amakanidwa. Choncho, cholakwa chimakhala, ngakhale chachilendo, koma njira yolankhulana ndi dziko lozungulira ndi mnzanuyo. Anthu omwe nthawi zambiri amakhumudwa nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti iwo amanyalanyazidwa, ndipo amafunika kutsimikiziridwa nthawi zonse kuti ali oyenera, kutamandidwa. Munthu wotereyu amakonzedweratu kuti akhale ndi maganizo oipa. Iye akhoza kudzikonzekeretsa yekha zinthu zomwe iye adzamva kuti amakanidwa ndi kusazindikiridwa, kulandira kuchokera kwa uwu mtundu wa zokondweretsa maso.
Chomwe chimayambitsa chisangalalo chikhoza kukhala kuyembekezera kosayenera. Mwamuna wanu akuyembekezera kuchokera kwa inu, mwachitsanzo, kuitanira ku phwando kapena kukacheza ndi anzanu ndipo, osalandira, ndi mawonekedwe ake amasonyeza kusokonezeka kwa chilengedwe chonse. Amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti iwe, monga ena ambiri, uyenera kudziwira zofuna zake.
Ngati mnyamata ali wovuta kwambiri, muyenera kukhala woleza mtima polankhulana naye. Anam'tamanda chifukwa cha zomwe adachita ndi kupambana kwake, koma pewani kufanizitsa ndi ena, chifukwa ndinu wabwino kwambiri, ndi iye yekha! Yesani kupeza "golide" pakati pakati pa kuyamikira nthawi zonse ndikupewa kupsa mtima. Sinthani chidwi cha munthuyo pazovuta ku mbali zabwino za moyo. Muwonetseni kuti kulankhula za zisoni sikungakhale koopsa komanso koopsa! Ndipo musaiwale za kuyankhulana komanso zakumverera kwanu - musadzilungamire nokha ndipo pempherani pomwe simukumva kuti ndinu wolakwa.