Mwamuna wodzidalira nthawi zonse amadzidziwa yekha, ndipo amakhulupirira yekha. Ngati munthu ali ndi lingaliro lodzikonda, akhoza kuthandizira kuti apeze mkazi wake, komanso kulimbitsa. Momwe umakhudzidwira mwachangu izi zimamveka ndi momwe munthu amamvera zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso moyo wake. Ngati kupambana pa ntchito yake sikuwoneka, ngati sakwaniritsa zolinga zake - munthu wotere sangatchedwe kudzidalira.
Chikhalidwe chofunika kwambiri cha mzimayi ndi chidaliro. Ngati munthu sangathe kudalirika, kodi munthu woteroyo angakhale ndi moyo bwanji? Kodi mungamudalire bwanji ngati sakuwakhulupirira? Njira yosavuta kudziwa momwe mungamudalire - kuti muone ubale wake ndi anthu ena. Mwinamwake, ndi iwo amayesa kudziwonetsera yekha pambali yabwino kuposa momwe zilili. Aliyense amafuna kubisala zolakwa zawo pamaso pa munthu amene akufuna. Koma nkhope yeniyeni idzawonetseredwabe. Ndikofunika kuti mumusamalire mwachiyanjano ndi anzako kapena anthu osasintha.
Sikovuta kusiyanitsa makhalidwe abwino kwa amuna. Amaphatikizaponso luso lotha kulimbana ndi mavuto onse, kuthana ndi zovuta paokha, kuthetsa nkhaniyo mpaka kumapeto, osabwereza zolakwa zawo, osaphonya mpata, musawopsyezedwe muzovuta. N'kofunikanso kuti munthu athe kudikira, athe kuyambitsa, kuchita zinthu zilizonse, athe kusankha kuchokera pa zabwino zomwe zilipo. Kudzidalira, kulingalira, kulingalira kumagwiritsanso ntchito makhalidwe abwino a kugonana kolimba. Pamene munthu salankhula m'mawu koma mwazochita zambiri, amakhala woona mtima, amadziŵa kupumula, kukhala wodekha ndi wodekha, wabwino, makhalidwe otere amakhala osiyana kwambiri ndi amai. Amayi amawakonda pamene amuna apambana, amayang'ana zonse mwa njira zabwino, amadziwa malingaliro (izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa mkazi), amadziwa momwe angasamalire gawo lawo lachiwiri ndi ena ngati mwamuna ali ndi malingaliro ake. Laconism ndi bata mu bizinesi, mawu, mukumverera kumatanthauza munthu wabwino. Ndikofunika kuti munthu achite moyenera, kuti asaope zovuta ndikupitilizabe.
Kwa makhalidwe abwino a mwamuna, munthu akhoza kudziletsa kudziletsa. Ngati munthu sangathe kudziletsa yekha, ndiye kuti munthuyo sangathe kulamulira anthu. Pali amuna otere omwe adziyika okha pazochita zabwino, ndipo pamene vuto lidachitika, iwo sangathe kudziletsa okha, mthupi komanso m'maganizo. Mwamsanga anawonetsa amatsenga, mkwiyo, kugwedeza, palibe cholimbikitsa.
Maganizo si chinthu chofunikira kwambiri poyerekeza ndi nzeru za munthu. Ngakhale maganizo ayenera kukhalapo. Nthawi zambiri munthu wochenjera atakhala wopusa panthawi yomwe amafuna kudziwa. Pambuyo pake, chidziwitso chopanda nzeru sichinthu chilichonse mwachindunji. Kuthetsa mwanzeru vutoli ndi khalidwe lofunika kwambiri la munthu. Kuwona mtima ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri cha munthu wabwino. Ubwenzi wabwino sungakhale wopanda chikhulupiriro. Ndipo mungathe bwanji kusamalira moyo popanda kuwona mtima? Kuona mtima choyamba ndi iye mwini, ndiye ndi ena, popanda izi sangathe kukula ndi kusintha. Ndikofunika kuti musamvetsetse, koma kudzidalira nokha sizothandiza kwambiri nokha.
Mwamuna ayenera kulankhula ndi kufotokoza malingaliro ake, kuyankhulana ndi anthu ndi kumvetsera zomwe akunena, kuzindikira tanthauzo lenileni, zomwe ena amayesa kumuuza.
Makhalidwe abwino a abambo amakhalanso ndi luso lofotokozera zilakolako, kuti mkazi athe kumvetsa chifukwa chake amaona kuti ndikofunikira. Koma mkazi, mwachibadwa, amafunika kukhala ndi chidaliro ndi kumvetsa za mwamuna wake, kuti athe kukhutiritsa zilakolako zake ndi zofuna zake, kotero kumvetsetsa pakati pa chiyanjanocho kudzapindula.
Kukhala ndi mkazi wokondwa, mwamuna ayenera kumangokonda, chifukwa mkazi amafunikira chikondi koposa zonse, kukondedwa, choncho ayenera kukwanitsa zosowa izi.
Ngati munthu samadziyesa yekha ngati chikondi, zidzakhala zovuta kukonda. Sindiyenera kudzitsutsa ndekha, chifukwa chikondi sichivomereza. Ndipo mungamuyitane bwanji munthu wopanda chifundo? Kukwanitsa kumva ndi kusamala kuyenera kukhalapo mwa munthuyo. Munthu wotereyo adzakuthandizani pazovuta ndi zovuta zilizonse. Adzayesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti nonse mukhale omasuka komanso okondweretsa. Ngati munthu sangathe kugawana nawo mavuto anu, ndiye kuti nthawi zonse mudzakhala ndi mantha kuti mutenge zolakwika. Ndibwino kuti muzisamala ndi amuna otere omwe sangathe kukhululukira ndi kuiwala.
Chimwemwe ndi chimodzi mwa makhalidwe ofunika kwambiri a munthu. Ngati mwamuna sakudziwa kuseka yekha - chizindikiro chotsimikizika kuti sadzidalira yekha, kapena kudzidalira kwake ndi wopunduka. Kukhoza kuseka ndi chizindikiro cha khalidwe lamphamvu, ngati pafupi ndi iwe ndi munthu yemwe mungaseke naye pamtundu uliwonse, mungakhale otsimikiza kuti ali ndi chidaliro, omwe angathe kukhala achikondi ndi achifundo. Kuphunzira zomwe munthu amaseka, munthu amatha kudziwa momwe moyo wake umagwirira ntchito. Mndandanda wa makhalidwe abwino akhoza kupitilira kwa nthawi yaitali, ndikofunika kuti kukhala munthu weniweni ndi momwe kulili kovuta, kosavuta. Amuna ambiri omwe ali ndi makhalidwe oterewa amabadwa, ena amabwera ndi zochitika komanso msinkhu, koma mwa kupezeka kwawo amodzi angadziwe zoona ndi zoyenera.
Ndipo sizingakhale zovuta kukhala ndi makhalidwe amenewa, muyenera kungodzilemekeza nokha, kupereka zambiri, osatenga, musamaope kutsegula manja anu, kukhala opanda zifukwa, mantha ndi tsankho. Khala wokhulupirika ndi kufotokoza malingaliro ako, khala wokondwa, khulupirirani nokha ndi ena, khalani omasuka kukonda ndi ubale. Amuna ndi osiyana. Sitidziŵa nthawi zonse zomwe ali nazo mu malingaliro, iwo sangakumbukire masiku ofunika kwambiri ndipo samadziwa kulira, olimba, ochenjera, okhululukira zofooka zathu, kutiteteza ndi kutiteteza. Izi ndi zoona ndithu.