Moyo wokhudzana ndi mkazi ndi mwamuna umamvera, monga lamulo, nyimbo inayake. Chowonadi ndi chakuti zaka zingapo zatsopano chiyanjano chatsopano chimayambira pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo gawo lililonse limabweretsa chimwemwe ndi mavuto ake omwe.
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Gawo 1 la chiyanjano - kuphatikiza (zaka ziwiri zoyambirira zaukwati) Pa nthawi imeneyi, zikuwoneka kuti okwatiranawo asanakwatirane. Awiriwo amayesetsa kukwaniritsa zofuna zonse za wina, yesetsani kukhala pamodzi nthawi zambiri. Poyamba apa, monga lamulo, chikondi chakuthupi. Nthawi imeneyi ya akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo amatchedwa "kasupe wamalingaliro."
Komabe, monga mu moyo, palibe masika opanda mphepo yamkuntho. Mwa chiŵerengero, anthu 3 pa 100 aliwonse okwatirana kumene ali kale miyezi isanu ndi umodzi atakwatirana, ngakhale kuti amakumananso mwamphamvu. Koma azimayi okwana 50 peresenti ayamba kale kuopa kuti tsogolo la banja lawo laling'ono ndi losavuta. Ndipo 4 peresenti ya maanja amakhala osachepera 1 usiku limodzi, ndipo 3 peresenti ya okwatirana kale ali ndi nthawi yosintha wokondedwa wawo.
Gawo lachiŵiri la ubale ndi kukhumudwa (kawirikawiri chaka chachitatu kapena chachinai cha ukwati). Apa pali nthawi yoyamba yodutsa yomwe inadutsa ndipo chizoloŵezi cha banja chinabwera. Ndipo pokhapokha, mabanja ambiri amadziwa kuti wokondedwa wawo sali chimodzimodzi monga momwe analili m'miyezi yoyamba ya kugwa. Mwachitsanzo, amayi 87 pa 100 aliwonse adanena kuti pambuyo pa chaka chachiwiri chokhala limodzi, iwo anasiya kukonda awo osankhidwa. Ngakhale kuti izi ndizokokomeza, komabe, m'chaka chachinai cha moyo wothandizana nawo, mababu ambiri, mwatsoka, akuphwanyika. Panthawiyi mwana woyamba adakula, mayiyo amamva kuti ndi mfulu.
Gawo lachiwiri la maubwenzi - kubereka (ili ndi zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi za mkazi). Amuna omwe alibe ana, monga lamulo, akonzekere kubwezeretsa banja. Panthawiyi, chikondi sichisangalatsa kwambiri, koma ndi chofunika kwambiri. Komabe, popeza munthu sangathe kutenga mbali "m" mimba ya mimba ya mkazake, nthawi zambiri tchalitchicho chimasiyana ndi iye. Ndipo zotsatira zake - 70 peresenti ya amayi am'tsogolo amadzimva okhaokha.
Gawo lachiyanjano - ili ndi gawo la mphamvu (kwinakwake mu zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu za ukwati). Kawirikawiri iyi ndi nthawi yogwira ntchito kwambiri muukwati. Amayi nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi mavuto oyambirira a maganizo, ndipo tsopano ali ndi zolinga zenizeni. Mwachitsanzo, awiriwa amagula nyumba ndikuzipereka. Kawirikawiri udindo wapamwamba wa mwamuna ndi wolimba, ndipo amayi ambiri atatha kubadwa akuyambanso ntchito yawo. Udindo m'banja umagawidwa kale ndipo malo amodzi amodzi amadziwa.
Gawo lachisanu la chiyanjano ndi mpumulo (kuyambira chaka chachisanu ndi chinayi mpaka chaka khumi ndi chimodzi). Maziko a mgwirizanowo ali olimbitsa kale, monga momwe ndalama zilili m'banja. Mkwatibwi wothetsa ukwati unachepetsedwa, mwamsanga pamene okwatirana adadutsa malire a zaka 30. Chiyanjano ichi ndi "chilimwe chaukwati". Ambiri mwa anthu okwatirana akhala akugawanirana pakati pawo, ndipo nthawi zambiri amatsatira mfundo zapamwamba: mwamunayo ndiye akutsogolera mwapadera, komanso mkaziyo mnyumba. Nthawi zina pamakhala kukangana pa nkhani zokweza ana. Chizindikiro chakunja cha mabanja achimwemwe chikhoza kukhala chotsatira. M'zaka khumi zoyambirira, ndi pambuyo paukwati kuti akazi awo akulemera pozungulira makilogalamu 8, ndipo amuna - 8.5 makilogalamu.
6 gawo la maubwenzi-gawo la totals (kuyambira chaka cha 12 ndi cha 14). Akazi pambuyo pa chisoni chawo (patangopita nthawi pang'ono, ndi amuna) akuyamba kufotokoza zotsatira zoyamba za okwatirana. Monga lamulo, iwo amayang'ana ndondomeko ya moyo, chifukwa amadziwa kuti palibe nthawi yochuluka yochita chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Anthu ena omwe ali ndi vutoli amakhulupirira kuti ali kumapeto, akukhumudwa, nthawi zina amakonzeka kuchoka. Anthu ena amadziwa kuti zinthu zakuthupi sizinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Nthawi iyi ikhoza kufotokozedwa ngati "yoyambilira yakutsogolo" yaukwati.
Gawo lachisanu ndi chiwiri la maubwenzi - zovuta (kuchokera pa khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu mpaka chaka cha makumi awiri). Chikondi chakhala kale chizoloŵezi, amzake apang'onopang'ono akuyamba kusiya wina ndi mnzake. Akazi samafuna kufooketsa chidwi cha mwamuna wake, chisamaliro cha wodwalayo. Azimayi ena amakhala odzaza nthawiyi ndi pafupifupi makilogalamu 17. Ndipo amuna nthawi zambiri "asiya" kugwirizana. Iwo, komabe amakana kukana ukwati, ndipo amasankha kukondana katatu, ndi akazi, mosiyana, nthawi zambiri amayesa kuyesa kwambiri. Panthawi imeneyi, mabanja ambiri amatha kusudzulana, ndipo pa 70 peresenti ya milandu, amayi amayamba.
Gawo lachisanu ndi chiwiri cha maubwenzi ndilokonzanso (kuchokera zaka makumi awiri ndi chimodzi mpaka chaka cha makumi awiri ndi zisanu). Monga lamulo, abwenzi ayamba kale kufufuza njira zonse zomwe zingatheke pa moyo wamtsogolo ndikukhala pamodzi. Nthawi imayamba, "nthawi yopuma yatsopano". Ana adakula kale ndikusowa thandizo kuchokera kwa makolo awo (kupatula, mwinamwake, ndalama). Amuna ena amatsegula "kupuma kwachiwiri" kuntchito. Ndipo akazi amadzipangira okha ntchito zawo zokhazokha ndi zosangalatsa.
Gawo lachisanu ndi chiwiri cha maubwenzi ndi "kumapeto kwa nyengo" (kuchokera zaka makumi awiri mphambu zisanu mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu). Ngakhale pamene ana achoka panyumba pawo, chikondi chimangochitika mwadzidzidzi: chimakhala chofatsa komanso chodzikonda kwambiri. Mabanja 48 peresenti amaona kuti ubale wawo ndi wokondwa kwambiri. 38 peresenti ya iwo amaonedwa ngati yogwirizana ndipo 3 peresenti yokha ndi yolemetsa.
Gawo la maubwenzi-gawo la ukalamba (pambuyo pa zaka makumi atatu ndi ziwiri). Nthawi ino ndi "kukolola". Iwo amene akhala pamodzi panthawi ya moyo akhoza kusangalala ndi zipatso za chikondi chawo, monga lamulo, iwo amayamikira wina ndi mzake chifukwa chakuya, chifukwa chogwirizanitsa maola ambiri. Ngakhale kuti mwa amuna zomwe zikhoza kufooka pang'onopang'ono, zibwenzi zimadalirika mopanda malire ndi bwenzi. Ukwati ukufika "golide yophukira".