Tikudikira kuti zinthu zisinthe bwino. Koma moyo si nthano chabe, mungathe kuphonya nthawi imene mungathe kuchita chinachake.
Kotero, choipitsitsa kwambiri - anasiya, ndipo sakufunanso kubwerera. Kupatukana ndi vuto lalikulu kwa mkazi aliyense. Muzochitika zotere, malingaliro nthawi zambiri amatayika, palibe kuthekera kuganiza, ndipo molingana, chinachake choti achite.
Kodi mungabweretse bwanji chiyanjano choyambirira ndi mnyamata? Choyamba, muyenera kukhala chete - mukhoza kupita kwa mnzanu, katswiri wa zamaganizo, wansembe (yemwe ali pafupi), amamvetsera, amamva chisoni. Kapena mupeze mphamvu mwa inueni kuti mudziwe nokha, mu zolakwa zanu. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti n'zosatheka kubwezeretsa kale, zasintha mosalekeza. Mungayambe ndi pepala loyera, ndipo moyo watsopano uyenera kukhala wosiyana ndikugwirizana mosiyana ndi wakale.
Muyenera kuyamba ndi nokha. Dzifunseni nokha, mwinamwake chinachake chasintha mwa inu? Kodi kudzidalira kwatha? Kotero, kudzidalira kwatsika. Ngati mukufuna kubwezeretsa chiyanjano ndi mnyamata, muyenera kuyamba ndi kudzidalira, kubwezeretsanso chidwi ndi kalembedwe kumbuyo. Pofuna kubwezeretsa chiyeso choyambirira, munthu ayenera kuyesa kumuiwala munthuyo (pa mlingo wa chidziwitso, ndithudi), amadzimasule yekha kukhumudwa ndi zochitika zisanachitike. Apo ayi, iwo amakuwonongani ndipo zimangowonjezera mkhalidwe umene muli nawo tsopano.
Ndiye muyenera kuyamba kuganiziranso chifukwa chake ndi chifukwa chake mumamukonda. Popeza panali kusiyana, sizinali nthawi zambiri kuti anyamata akulakalaka kubwerera ku chikondi chakale. Akusowa wina, yemwe amatha kumvetsa yekha, kumvetsa zolakwa zake ndikuphunzira momwe angawalamulire. Amene amamvetsa bwino momwe angaperekere komanso momwe angaperekere pofuna kupeza chimwemwe. Ndipo adzakhala mkazi wosiyana kwambiri, ndipo uyenera kukhala iye. Kuti mutembenuzire nokha mwanjira yoyenera, muyenera kumangokhalira kulandira malingaliro abwino, izi zidzamasuka nokha kuchoka pa zolakwika zomwe munayesa ndikuyesera kuyamba wina, moyo watsopano.
Poyambirira, chitsimikizo chotsimikizirika chinali chotsimikizika ndi chibwenzi chanu, ndipo panopa chiyenera kukhala china, chosavuta komanso chotheka. Ntchito yofunika kwambiri tsopano kwa inu ndikusangalala ndi moyo mu mawonetseredwe ake onse - chakudya, zovala, zodzoladzola, zosangalatsa, kupuma, zomwe zakhala zikulota kale. Mwachidziwikire, m'pofunika kudzaza moyo wanu ndi chimwemwe ndi kuwala. Phunzirani kusangalala ndi zonse zomwe zikukuzungulirani, mudzaze miniti iliyonse ya tsiku lanu ndi chimwemwe. Zonsezi zidzakuthandizani kupititsa patsogolo kudzidalira nokha. Iwe udzakhala munthu wosiyana kwambiri, kuchokera kwa iwe udzabwera chisangalalo ndi kutentha, madzi ako adzamveketsedwa ndi amuna oyandikana nawo. Kwa inu izo sizikhalabe zozindikiridwa.
Mu nthawi yabwino kwambiri komanso yosangalatsa, pamene muli otanganidwa ndi chimwemwe chanu, mgwirizano wanu wakale ukhoza kubwerera. Panthawi imeneyo, muyenera kumvetsa bwino ngati inu, msungwana watsopano wanzeru, mukusowa moyo wanu wakale. Ndi mapikonzedwe apitalo omwewo, mulole kuti ukhale malo omwe mumawakonda, masewero kapena holo. Mvetserani nokha, ngati simunakonzekere kubwezeretsa zonsezi, ndi bwino kuiwala kamodzi, kuti mumange ubale watsopano ndi mphamvu zatsopano.