M'dziko lamakono lino, pali ziwerengero zazikulu zowonongeka, ndipo ambiri a iwo amaganizira za kugonana. Anthu amangodziwa kuti ndi bwino kuchita zimenezo, koma ndizoipa. Komabe, anthu ochepa amaganiza kuti, choletsedwa chingakhale chokongola kwambiri. Ndipotu, anthu ogonana amanena kuti palibe chiletso chilichonse pazinthu zowonongeka, chifukwa aliyense ali ndi ufulu wodzipangira yekha zomwe zimaloledwa. Ndipo zosangalatsa zotero monga kugonana kwa usiku umodzi zingakhalenso zaulere kuti zichite, makamaka popeza zili ndi ubwino wambiri.
1. Mungasankhe momasuka mnzanuyo.
Wokondedwa weniweni ndi wabwino, koma nthawi zambiri mumafuna chinachake chatsopano, kapena kuti winawake. Ngati tikulankhula za kugonana nthawi imodzi, ndiye kuti sipangakhale mavuto ngati amenewa. Kotero, msungwana aliyense akhoza kusankha mwamuna aliyense ndi kugona naye, ndithudi, ngati ayankha ndi chilolezo. Chimodzimodzinso chimapita kwa amuna omwe akukumana ndi zomwezo ndi atsikana. Zikachitika kuti ngati tsiku lina mukufuna munthu wa mtundu wina, ndiye kuti mutha kuchita moyenera kutsogolera mnzanuyo. Motero, kukondana kwa nthawi imodzi kumathandiza kuti muzindikire maloto anu onse ndi "kuyesa" okonda zonse zakuthupi, miyeso, maonekedwe akunja ndi zina zotero.
2. Ganizirani zokha zokha zokondweretsa.
Chimodzi mwa ubwino wofunikira kwambiri pa kugonana kwa usiku umodzi ndi mwayi wosaganizira za maunthu ambiri ndikusangalala. Kugonana pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi chiyanjano kumakhala kuti abwenzi sayenera kuganiza okha, komanso "theka lachiwiri". Zoonadi, izi sizili zovuta, koma sizingatheke kuti muzisangalala ndi ndondomekoyi. Kugonana nthawi imodzi ndi ufulu wamphumphu, mwayi wodzikonda. Ndipo izi ndi zodabwitsa, chifukwa palibe chifukwa choganizira za zosangalatsa za wokondedwa, tsatirani kuti ndinu wabwino, pewani nokha ndi zina zotero. Izi zimangokhala zosangalatsa kwa aliyense payekha, kotero kuti aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosamalira zokha za iye yekha, ndipo samapereka chidwi chapadera pa mlingo wa zosangalatsa zomwe analandira yachiwiri.
3. Musamangoganizira zokhazokha ndikukhala nokha.
Moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa abwenzi ambiri omwe amakhala nawo nthawi zonse uli ndi zoletsa zambiri ndi zoletsedwa. Kodi tinganene chiyani za mwayi wotseguka, womwe sulipo, chifukwa ukhoza kukhumudwitsa kapena kuwopsyeza wachiwiri. Chotsatira chake, okwatirana nthawi zonse amavala mtundu wa mask, kubisala oona omwe ali pansi pawo. Kuphatikizanso apo, pali lamulo limodzi pazochitika zoterezi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ngati pali zolephera zina, ayenera kuwongolera mofulumira kapena kusungidwa mosamala. Ndipo kukangana, komwe sikungapeĊµe, sikungokulolani kuti mupeze ndalama zokwanira zosangalatsa, ndipo izi ndi zomwe zimawononga kugonana. Kugonana usiku umodzi - ndi chinthu china. Kulumikizana kotereku sikutanthauza kufunika kofikira mnzanuyo ndikuyesera kuti musachite bwino, koma kwa ena. Usiku uliwonse udzakhala wokhawo ndipo sudzakhalanso kachiwiri, osachepera ndi munthu yemweyo. Chifukwa chake, ndizotheka kumangoganizira chabe za thupi lanu, osati za chiwerengerocho, mwachitsanzo. Zolakwitsa zonse za thupi ndi kusowa kwa luso lina ndizokhalitsa, zomwe simuyenera kuziganizira. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndikusangalala ndi ndondomekoyi, komanso ngati aliyense amakonda mnzanuyo, ndi vuto lake basi.
4. Chitani zabwino.
Ngati mukufuna chinthu chachilendo, ndiye kuti kugonana nthawi imodzi ndi njira yokhayo yodziyesera. Pofuna kuti zikhale zosavuta kukhazikitsa zolinga zonse, ndikwanira kupeza wokondedwa mnzanuyo. Kuphatikizanso, muzogonana, munthu yemwe sadziwa zambiri adzachita monga munthu wachiwiri, kotero kuti mutha kudzimasula nokha ndi kusaganizira za makhalidwe ena ndi zina zotero. Ndikufuna kuyesa kugonana kwachinyamata - chonde, konzani zonyansa zedi pabedi - popanda mavuto, kuyesa zithunzi zosiyana kuchokera ku masewera otchuka - kotero ndizodabwitsa. Ndi mlendo simungathe kunyalanyaza malingaliro anu ndikukhazikitsa mosamala ngakhale anthu oopsa kapena osadziwika. Muzogonana zoterezo zonse zimaloledwa, kotero palibe malo amanyazi ndi manyazi.
5. Chotsani magetsi.
Aliyense amadziwa kuti kugonana ndi njira yabwino yothetsera mavuto ndi kumasuka. Anthu omwe ali ndi "theka lachiwiri", omwe angathe kutonthoza motere, mkhalidwewu ndi wophweka, koma anthu osakwatira, chirichonse apa ndi chovuta. Ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vutoli ndi kuchita nthawi yogonana. Njira imeneyi imakhala yokongola osati chifukwa chakuti imakutulutsani kuthetsa nkhawa, komanso chifukwa sichikulimbikitsani kuchita chirichonse. Ndikumangokhalira kuganiza komanso kutaya thupi, komwe kumabwerera kumoyo wathanzi, ndipo sipangakhale ngakhale miyeso iliyonse. Kugonana usiku umodzi - uwu ndi ufulu wathunthu, ungagwiritse ntchito zonse kukwaniritsa chilakolako cha kugonana, ndi kusokonezeka ku mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku. Izi ndizo njira yabwino yosinthira umoyo wanu, zomwe sizikuyimangirirani ku china chirichonse komanso chomwe chingagwiritsidwe ntchito monga mukufunira.