Kodi maubwenzi amasintha bwanji atagonana ndi abwenzi?
Njira imodzi. Mnyamatayo, amene mwangom'peza kumene, akukufikitsani mwa njira zonse zomwe zilipo. Amamvetsera mwachidwi munthu wanu ndi zilakolako zanu, osamala, osangalatsa. Khalidwe lake langwiro limakupangitsani kuganiza kuti mwamunayu akhale ndi inu. Koma, ndi bwino kuzisiya ku thupi lanu, kugonana ndi iye, momwe kalonga wanu woyenera amangowonekera. Zimakhalabe malingaliro akuti mwinamwake nkhani yonse yomwe inu mumalota, kapena muli ndi vuto.
Kodi mwakumanapo ndi amuna oterewa? Iwo amakhalanso ndi dzina - pikapery. Cholinga chonse cha moyo wawo ndi kukwaniritsa malo a mkazi wokondweretsedwa. Ndipo, atangomva zimene akufuna - kugonana - alibe chirichonse ndi iwe pafupi ndi iwe. Ndipo si za inu nkomwe. Mutha kukhala mkazi wokongola kwambiri yemwe mwamuna aliyense alota, koma simungaphunzenso kachiwiri.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji chibwenzi chonchi? Funso limeneli ndi lovuta kuyankha, chifukwa kuleza mtima kwa ojambula ojambula alibe malire. Ndipo inu, ine ndikuganiza, siwonso azimayi achitsulo.
Njira ziwiri. Pambuyo pa kugonana, mwamuna samapita kulikonse, mwanjira ina, samachoka pa moyo wanu. Koma, ubale umene amakupatsani, simumakonda kwenikweni. Mukukumana kokha pamene kuli kosavuta. Misonkhano yanu yachepetsedwa kuti ikhale yopita ku malo odyera, ndipo kenako kugonana. Iye samafuna kukulolani inu mu moyo wake, inde, ndi zomwe munganene, iye alibe chidwi kwenikweni kwa wanu. Iwe ndiwe chidole chokongola kwambiri, chimene chimakondweretsa kugonana. Mwachibadwa, sipangakhale kulankhula za mtundu uliwonse wa chikondi.
Kodi chikuyembekezerani chiyanjano ichi? Ngati simunayang'ane, ndiye kuti chinthu chimodzi ndichotsetsa ubalewu. Koma, ngati malingaliro anu agwirizane - inu, komanso kuti akusowa wokondedwa pazogonana, ndiye kuti njirayi ikugwirizana nonse.
Momwe mungadziwire munthu yemwe akufunikira kugonana kokha, popanda ubale weniweni? Khalani omvetsera kwambiri ndi zomwe akunena; momwe amachitira. Mwamuna amene samakuchitirani inu ngati wamoyo sangalole kuti mumenyane ndi malo ake enieni.
Njira yachitatu. Pali lamulo - "kugonana kumabweretsa pamodzi." Pambuyo pa kugonana, ubale wanu umakhala wogwirizana komanso wokondweretsa. Mwinamwake, ubale wapamtima, chifukwa iwe umalimbikitsa ubale wolimba kwambiri. Momwemo, mungayambe kukondwera, chifukwa ngati mutakhala bwino komanso osagonana, ganizirani momwe mungapangire ubale wanu mutatha kukondana? Zaperekedwa?
Ndiyeno, ndibwino kuti musunge zomwe muli nazo kale. Ndipo yambani kugwira ntchito pa maubwenzi anu ndikuwathandiza.
Mwina, poyankha funsoli: "Kodi maubwenzi angasinthe bwanji atagonana ndi abwenzi?" - sizinthu zonse zomwe zinasankhidwa. Ndipo kodi ndi bwino kufunsa funso ngatilo, kulowa mu gawo latsopano la chiyanjano ndi mwamuna? Ngati muli ndi chilakolako chofuna kukhala pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti munthu uyu akuyenera kuti mumudalire.
Khalani ndi mfundo - "musadandaule ndi ntchito". Moyo, kwa aliyense wa ife, ndi umodzi. Musadziteteze nokha, okondedwa anu, nthawi zosakumbukika ndi zosangalatsa, ngakhale ngati kugonana kwa usiku umodzi.
Ndipo ngati zibwenzi zogonana zasintha kuti zisaipire, musadzitsutse nokha chifukwa cha kusadziletsa ndi kupusa. Tengani ndi kuyesa mtsogolo, mwinamwake musapange punctures.
Moyo suwoneka wokongola kwambiri, ngati, nthawi zina, sitiyenera kulira ndikumva chisoni.