Mawu akuti "asexuals" posachedwa adayambitsidwa mu dikishonale ya kugonana. Koma izi sizilepheretsa kufalikira kwa mphekesera kuti zokhudzana ndi kugonana zidzatsimikiziridwa ngati zatsopano zogonana. Koma ngakhale zili choncho, ndizovuta kukhulupirira kuti padziko lapansi muli anthu omwe alibe chidwi ndi zosangalatsa zakuthupi. Zirizonse zomwe zinali, koma gulu likukula mofulumira chiwerengero cha anthu omwe mwadala mwadzidzidzi amaletsa kupezeka kwa kugonana m'miyoyo yawo. Tiyeni tiyesetse kupeza chifukwa chake izi zili choncho, ndipo ndizo ziti zomwe zimagwirizanitsa anthu kugonana.
Moyo wopanda kugonana: kudya, kapena kutenga
Monga lamulo, ma asexuals ndi osiyana kwambiri wina ndi mnzake. Ena mwa anthu omwe amakumana nawo padziko lapansi ndi omwe amakhala awiriwa, akusangalala ndi mapulotoniki, ndipo pali ena omwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana kuti sangakhale paubwenzi ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi chifukwa cha izi. Komanso mungathe kukumana ndi omwe akufuna kufanizitsa moyo ndi mankhwala, ndipo motero amangofuna kuti azidalira. Ena a iwo amangokhala okha, ndipo ena samakhala mwachizolowezi kwa okonda kugonana.
Amuna ambiri omwe amakhulupirira kuti kugonana kumakhudza kwathunthu ndikuwonetsa dongosolo labwino. Kodi awa ndi oyimilira a anthu ochepa kapena ambiri omwe amafuna kusintha malo okondweretsa mwachinyengo ndi maliseche-chinsinsi cha nsalu zisanu ndi ziwiri. Osachepera, mokweza iwo akukana ntchitoyi.
Kodi kugonana kapena komwe kunalipo nthawi zonse kunali kotani?
Pakadali pano, anthu okhudzana ndi chikhalidwe chawo amalankhula momveka bwino, komanso, iwo eniwo amatha kulankhula mokweza. Ndipo kale, monga lamulo, osati otsutsa okha, koma okonda phunziroli sanaloledwe kuti alankhule mokweza. Choncho, funso loti nthawi yeniyeni anthu ataya chidwi ndi kugonana, sichimayankhidwa. Koma pafupi naye pali malingaliro ambiri ndi malingaliro. Mwachitsanzo, imodzi mwa iwo inaperekedwa ndi pulofesa ku yunivesite ya Brock ku Canada Anthony Bogart. Malingana ndi maphunziro ake odziwa chidwi, anapeza kuti 1% mwa anthu onse padziko lonse alibe chidwi ndi ntchito. Mwa njira, chiwerengero ichi chikupitirira kukula! Mwachiwonekere, pali zinthu zina zomwe zimakhudza kukula kwa ziwalo. Pano tingathe kufotokozera: Kupsinjika maganizo, matenda a mahomoni, makompyuta, zolakwika za kugonana, zomwe zabweretsa mavuto m'maganizo - zonsezi zimapereka umboni wawo pa chikhulupiliro cha kugonana.
Lingaliro la oyenerera
Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo-wothandizira kugonana, mwini waluso wachikondi ndi Academy of Real Life, Victoria Alexandrova, kukhalapo kwa anthu oterowo n'kovuta kukana. Anthu awa akhoza kulenga zogwirizana, poyamba pakuwona, maanja. Ngati izi zikuwathandiza onse awiri, akhoza kukhala mosangalala komanso mwamtendere. Koma kawirikawiri, awa ndi anthu omwe amavutika ndi matenda ndi matupi omwe amafunikira thandizo la akatswiri.
Ponena za thanzi labwino (ngati munthu sakuvutika ndi matenda osiyanasiyana koma si monk), kugonana kumapatsa munthu mphamvu zoyenera kugwira ntchito yogwirira ubongo. Mahomoni omwe amakhudzidwa kwambiri panthawi yopanga chikondi (endofirin) mwabwino kwambiri amachititsa chidwi komanso amathandiza kuthana ndi kuvutika maganizo ndi kupanikizika, ndipo theka limachepetsa mpata wopweteka mtima.
Koma ndi kwa amayi ndi abambo kusankha ngati agonana limodzi kapena ayi. Mulimonsemo, amawakondweretsa, chifukwa amavomerezana pamodzi. Mwa njirayi, maanjawa angapeze mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mgwirizano, zomwe zimatipatsa mpata woti tiyanjanitse osati kokha kokha maonekedwe a thupi: zofuna zogwirizana, kukula kwauzimu, zokondweretsa, ndi zina zotero. Zochita zonsezi ziyenera kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi, kuyandikana ndi chofunikira cha mnzanu mnzanu.
Anthuwa akubwereranso ndi anthu omwe akukhala nawo
Malingana ndi maphunziro omwewo, nthawi zambiri pakati pa otsutsa zogonana angakumane ndi anthu apamwamba. Ndipo chomwe chiri chodziwika kwambiri, chiwerengero china cha anthu awa ndi okwatira, kumene kuli kale ana.
Koma pamwamba pa kulira konse kwa asayansi, anthu omwe amadzimva okhaokha amanena kuti adabwera pa chisankho ichi, pokhala ndi maganizo abwino ndi kukumbukira. Otsatira kwambiri mu gululi akulota zatsopano, zovomerezeka ndi maganizo a anthu, momwe padzakhala kusakhala kwathunthu kwa kugonana, ndipo ana adzapangidwa mwachangu.
Malinga ndi maukwati omwewo, kugonana kumatha kuchotsa zinthu zambiri zomwe zingatumizedwe patsogolo. Chikondi m'malingaliro awo chikufanana ndi matenda a maganizo, matenda osokoneza bongo a mtundu wa paranoid umene umapweteka pa zifukwa zogonana. Mwamuna wokondana amalephera kuona bwino. Moyo wopanda kugonana, mmalo mwake, kutsegulira mwa njira ina kudziko-diso ndi kulola anthu kuti azilankhulana bwino. Mwa njira, chilakolako chopeza theka lachiwiri chimanena za kudzichepetsa.
Malingaliro a anthu okalamba, kukula kwaumwini ndi kulingalira ndi zomwe ziyenera kuima pakati pa zochitika zofunikira kwambiri.
Nthawi zambiri abambo amasiye amakana kugonana, chifukwa. safuna kudzipangira okha. Anthu awa akhoza kupatulidwa m'magulu awiri: omwe sanakumanepo ndi chilakolako cha kugonana, ndi omwe adatha kuthetsa izo (kuponderezedwa mwadala kapena kudziletsa mwadzidzidzi).
Monga potsiriza, munganene kuti ngati simukukopeka ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, simukusangalala ndi kuganizira za kugonana, ndiye kuti mumagwirizana ndi chikhalidwe cha abambo.
Komabe, kusowa kwa chilakolako cha kugonana kwa anthu ena kudzanena kuti anthu omwe sali okondedwa sakuwoneka kuti ndi okongola, ndichifukwa chake malingaliro awo okongola ndi osiyana, pafupifupi ngati wofufuza zamatsenga amene adawona zojambula za Leonardo da Vinci.
Mfundoyi ndi yakuti iwo amakonda kugwirizana ndi kukhumba kukhala pafupi ndi munthu wokondweretsa zakuthupi. Malingaliro awo - uwu ndi mtundu wa ubwenzi-chikondi. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu ambiri amodzimodzi adzatsimikizira chikhumbo cha chiyanjano ndi chikondi, koma osati thupi.
Ndipo ndi chilakolako kapena kusafuna kukhala ndi ana, izi sizikugwirizana. Monga tanena kale, abambo ambiri amakhala ndi ana. Ngati iwo sali, ndiye kuti asexual akhoza kuyesa kupeza pepala pogwiritsa ntchito malo apadera okondana ndi chitukuko chogwirizana cha mwanayo. Pa nthawi yomweyi, ndizomveka kuti zimakhala zomveka kuti zikhale ndi mwana mwachibadwa, koma zimaperekedwa kumalo osakanikirana. Zoonadi, ana ndi ana, koma cholinga chachikulu cha chidziwitso ichi ndi ubale, kulankhulana kosangalatsa pa nkhani zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano, kugwirizanitsa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi kuthandizana.
Chilichonse chimene munganene, kapena mwatsoka, kaya mwatsoka, chidziwitso chanu chimamveka kapena kuganiza kuti ambiri, kapena anthu ambiri amaganiza, osati akuluakulu (kusintha maganizo, vuto la zaka zapakati, ndi zina zotero), koma ndi achinyamata. Zimakhala zovuta kufotokoza kuti izi zidzachitika. Koma ngakhale izi, zikhoza kuyankhulidwa kuti, mwinamwake, nkofunika kuponyera chipolopolo cha chinsinsi pa gawo la kugonana ndipo potero kumayambitsa tsankho kwa onse awiriwa kwa wina ndi mzake kachiwiri?