Akusewera pagulu.
Aliyense amadziwa kuti zolinga sizikuchitika m'moyo kapena mu chikondi. Ena amavomereza mosavuta ndi mfundo iyi ndipo samayesetsa kutsutsana ndi malingaliro a anthu ena za ubale weniweni. Ena amachoka pakhungu, pokhapokha kuti apange mawonekedwe abwino. Aliyense wa ife adakumana ndi anthu oterowo kangapo. Amakamba za ubale wawo ndi nkhanizi sizinali zosiyana ndi maswiti a pinki ndi okoma a thonje, kuchokera ku mafilimu osakonda kwambiri komanso achikondi. Iwo alibe nthawi yothetsa nkhanza ndi nsanje, kugonana kwawo nthawi zonse kumayaka moto, samakhala okondana wina ndi mzake, nthawi zonse amamvetsera, moyo wawo wa tsiku ndi tsiku uli ngati maholide oposa ambiri a anthu wamba. N'zosadabwitsa kuti anthu oterewa amayamba kuchitira nsanje. Koma kodi n'chiyani chimayambitsa izi?
Inde, kusonyeza mavuto awo ndi mawu oipa. Magulu onse ndi mikangano ali bwino kwambiri panyumba. Koma, ngati mutangoganiza kuti zonse zili bwino ndi inu, ndiye kuti posachedwa choonadi chidzawonekera kwa aliyense. Kupsompsona, kukumbatirana, kukakamira nkhani za chisangalalo kwenikweni kungakhale khungu lomwe limabisa chidwi, malingaliro amodzi, osakhutira ndi moyo wawo.
Musati muthe madzi.
Pali maanja omwe, atakumana kamodzi, samangoyamba pang'onopang'ono. Okonda oterewa amakhala, amagwira ntchito ndi kupuma pamodzi. Iwo sangathe kulingalira ulendo wopita ku holide payekha, ulendo wamba ku sitolo popanda wina ndi mzake ukhoza kukhala tsoka lenileni kwa iwo. Ndizosangalatsa kuwonana ubale wawo - samakhumudwa wina ndi mnzake, ngakhale kuti amatha tsiku lonse pamodzi. Koma musanapemphe wokondedwa wanu kuti asasiyepo kwa kanthawi, ganizirani ngati mukulakwitsa.
Ndipotu, mabanja oterewa nthawi zambiri samachokerana wina ndi mzake osati chikondi chachikulu osati kungofuna kuganizira wokondedwa. Muzochitika zotero, nthawi zonse pali mtsogoleri woonekera komanso yemwe amachitanso gawo lachiwiri. Nthawi zambiri mumakhala nsanje yamphamvu, yomwe imakhala chifukwa chake okonda sagwirizane. Mwa njira, kwenikweni, kulamulira kwathunthu sikuli kotchuka ndi aliyense.
Dothi lotetezeka.
Pali maanja omwe maubwenzi ndi miyoyo sizikusintha pakapita nthawi. Iwo sagwirizana, samaphika ndi nsanje ndi chilakolako, mu chiyanjano chawo chirichonse chiri chimodzimodzi ndi zodziwikiratu. Amayesetsa kuthana ndi mavuto amtendere mwabwino, amakonda katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti akanthe mbale, nthawi zonse amasintha bwino ndipo samadzilola okha.
Kodi ichi si chitsanzo cha ubale weniweni? Ndipotu, ubwenzi wabwino ndi wodekha ndi wabwino, koma tonsefe tikhoza kukhumudwa kwambiri. Tingakhumudwitse kapena kukwiya, kusangalala kapena kuvutika. Ngati malingalirowa akulepheretsedwa kapena kutsekedwa, kutaya kofunikira kudzachitabe. Pokhapokha, mkuntho ukhoza kukhala wamphamvu kwambiri ndipo zotsatira zake ndizoopsa kwambiri.
Mu dzina la chikondi.
Nthawi zina m'pofunika kuwona momwe maanja ena amachitira zochitika zenizeni m'dzina la wina ndi mzake. Izi ndi mphatso zamtengo wapatali, nyimbo pansi pawindo, kukhululukidwa kwa khalidwe lalikulu kwambiri. Ndi anthu awa omwe amadumpha ndi parachute, kulemba nyimbo ndi kutsegula nyenyezi zatsopano chifukwa cha okondedwa awo. Sizingatheke kuwachitira kaduka.
Koma anthu ochepa amadziwa kuti mphatso zamtengo wapatali zimakhala zokongola, ngati kuti zimapangidwa ndi otsogolera olamulira a melodramas, izi ndi malipiro a kusakhulupirika, kusayanjanitsika, mkwiyo. Kodi kawirikawiri galimoto yatsopano ya bwenzi lanu ili kuyesa kumunyengerera, atakondedwayo sanabwererenso kunyumba kukagona. Kodi zinthu zonse zokongolazi ndi mawu okweza a zochitika zomwe abwenzi osasangalala amakumana nazo?
Tonse timalakwitsa. Tili ndi nsanje, kukhumudwa, kukwiyitsidwa, kukayikira, kunyengedwa, kukangana. Nthawi zina timakhala okonzeka kupuma, ndipo nthawi zina sitingathe kuchita popanda wina ndi mnzake. Zonsezi ndi zachilendo. Ndikofunika kukhala oona mtima ndi ife eni. Ena sangazindikire chomwe chiri kumbuyo kwa kuvomereza kwanu kolimba, koma muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti ubale umenewu umakupangitsani chimwemwe.