Kuwongolera mochuluka kwa makolo: kupindula kapena kuzunza ana?

Nthawi zambiri mu moyo timapeza kuti khalidwe lirilonse labwino, lowonetsedwa mowonjezereka, likukula, ndikupeza zinthu zolakwika. Choncho, chikondi cha makolo ndi chisamaliro chomwe chimatsogoleredwa kwa mwana wokondedwayo mphindi iliyonse ndi ola limodzi kumakhala chisamaliro chosakondweretsa chomwe sichikhoza kokha poizitsa mwanayo, koma chimakhalanso ndi zotsatira zovuta kwambiri, kupanga mwana wosabadwa yekhayo ayi. Makolo oganizira kwambiri amawopsyeza wolowa nyumba wawo m'zonse - amawoneka kuti iwo ali ndi njala nthawi zonse, odwala komanso otumbululuka, savala nyengo, amakwiya chifukwa cha mavuto kusukulu kapena kuntchito. Pamene ana akukula, chikhalidwe cha makolo awo sichikutha, koma kuoneka kwa zidzukulu kumangowonjezera kambirimbiri, kotero kuzunzidwa uku kumangomveka osati kungokhala okhwima, komanso mbadwo wochepa kwambiri. Makolo sakufuna kumvetsa kuti ana awo akhala ataphunzira kale kuphika buckwheat phala, kuyenda pa sitimayi, kuthawa ndege komanso ngakhale kulera ana awo. Ndipo samasowa zochuluka zamtundu wanji, kusungira ndi kusunga, kuti pakhomo pake ayambe kufanana ndi zida zamalonda.

Makolo onse amayesa kulera ana awo momwe iwo angafune kuwawonera, ndipo pankhaniyi amasankha njira inayake yofanana ndi mtundu wovomerezeka wa ubale. Komabe, chisamaliro chochuluka cha makolo chimakhala chosiyana - chimalimbikitsa, chiwawa cha umunthu wa mwana, ngakhale kuti zikuwoneka kuti kusamala kotero kumangoteteza mwana wake ku mavuto omwe amadza mu njira yake. Koma ndi mtunda waukulu bwanji wolekanitsa chikondi chokhudzidwa ndi izi zovuta zokhudzana ndi ulamuliro!

Kodi izi zimapangitsa chiyani? Zowonongeka za ufulu wodzilamulira sizingathetsedwe, monga akunena, "Mphukira", ndipo "kwathunthu" ndikukhala osasamala "Aloleni bambo anga asankhe", "Ndidzafunsa amayi anga," "Afunseni makolo anga, asiyeni iwo athandizidwe." Nthawi zina, akuyenda m'njira imeneyi, makolo amakumana ndi zofuna zachinyamata, chifukwa mwana wamng'ono amayamba kusewera pamfundo ya makolo ndi chinyengo, kupindula ndi zochitikazo. Ana a makolo okonda kwambiri, monga lamulo, ali odzikonda komanso osadziimira okha. Anyamata amakhala ngati "ana aamayi", omwe ngakhale atakhala pachibwenzi amamvetsera kwambiri amayi awo ndipo sangathe kuchita nawo chisamaliro, malangizo. Zimabwera pa phala wamba ndi borsch, yophikidwa ndi mkazi wamng'ono, samawoneka ngati iwowo ngati amayi awo. Atsikanawo amakwatirana mochedwa kwambiri, akudikirira kalonga wamatsenga pa kavalo woyera.

Kawirikawiri paunyamata, othandizira amafuna kuponya katundu wawo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe zimapangitsa mikangano ya m'banja. Makolo amene amatsogoleredwa ndi zofuna zawo, monga momwe akuonera, a mwana wawo, ayenera kuonetsetsa kuti ali ndi chidwi, chifukwa zionetsero ndi "kuukira" kwa zaka za kusinthako zimasonyeza kuti banja silili bwino kwa mwanayo. Pakapita nthawi, kulera kumeneku kungabweretse "zipatso" zake, zomwe zimadzetsa kudzikweza kwa achinyamata, kusagwirizana pakati pa timu ndi zofuna zambiri (osati kwa inu nokha) kwa ena. Kawirikawiri ana omwe amazoloŵera kusamalira makolo awo mopitirira malire sagonjetsedwa ndi zovuta za moyo wodziimira okha, kubwerera ku "phiko la kholo" panthawi imodzimodziyo akuganizira abambo ndi amayi kuti azikhala olakwira banja lawo kapena ntchito yawo, choncho, pokhala ndi ana, makolo amakhala osakanizidwa.

Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Makolo ayenera kuzindikira zolakwa zawo m'kupita kwa nthawi ndikukonzekera njira yawo yophunzitsira yosankhidwa kuti ipepetse zotsatira zowopsya komanso zoperewera.