Mwachidziwikire, izi siziri kutali ndi choonadi. Lero, mabanja omwe nthawi zambiri sali okwanira, komwe mayi "ali wodzitama" akulera mwana wake.
N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti nthawi zambiri akazi amakhalabe paokha. Kawirikawiri mkazi amayesetsa kukhala yekha, amayamba kuopa ubale watsopano. Zifukwa za mantha amenewa zingakhale zingapo.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo akhala akutsimikizira kuti khalidwe lathu nthawi zambiri limakhudzidwa, tiyeni tinene, ubwana wathu. Sizowopsa, mantha a maubwenzi pakati pa amayi ambiri amawonekera pamaziko a zochitika zawo zaunyamata. Ngati mkazi anakulira m'banja losangalala, kumene makolo ankakondana, ndipo miyoyoyo sinkawonepo mwa ana awo, ndiye mkaziyo angafune kulenga ubale woterewu. Sadzathamanga, monga ngati chiwombankhanga ndi mutu wake, kulowetsa munthu, ngakhale ali munthu wokondedwa. Ndizodabwitsa choopera mkazi pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wake wokondedwa ndi wachikondi? Ndi zophweka kwambiri. Chowonadi kuti icho sichidzagwirizana ndi miyezo yomwe yatsimikizika. Chinthu choyamba, monga asayansi woona, mkazi wa banja losangalala, adzakambirana wokondedwa wake pansi pa microscope kupyolera mu ndondomeko ya khalidwe la makolo, amayesa pazochitika za atate ake. Ndipo ngati sakugwirizana nazo, sangayesenso kumanga ubale uliwonse ndi iye.
Ndipo ngati m'banja lomwe mayi anga sanasangalale ndi abambo ake, ndiye ndi chiyani chomwe amai angachite kuti aziwopa mukamakumana ndi munthu wokondedwa wawo? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti pakali pano, mkazi amatsimikiza kuti sangakhale ndi banja losangalala. Saganiza kuti kugonana kungabweretse chisangalalo kwa onse awiri, kungakhale kosavuta komanso kokondweretsa, koma kumawaona ngati cholemetsa chimene akuyenera kukoka. Ndicho chifukwa chake amasankha kukhala yekha, koma osati kuzunzidwa.
Ngati titsatira mfundoyi, ndiye kuti mchibwenzicho muli njira imodzi yokha - m'mapazi a makolo. Ndipotu, zonse ndizolakwika. Popeza palibe anthu ofanana ndi abwino, kotero palibe chofanana, chobwerezabwereza ngakhale m'zinthu zochepa kwambiri, ndi machitidwe abwino, akatswiri a maganizo amatsimikizira. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti timapanga maubwenzi athu okha, ndi ntchito yosavuta ya tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndiyeno mu chiyanjano ndi moyo wanu wokondedwa, mutha kukwaniritsa zomwe mumafuna kwambiri.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikudziwa chomwe mukufuna kuchokera ku ubalewu. Pambuyo pake, ngati mupempha mkazi aliyense funso ili, ayamba kulemba makhalidwe omwe mwamuna ayenera kukhala nawo, momwe ayenera kukhalira m'banja. Monga anaimba mu nyimbo imodzi ya nthawi za Soviet: "Kuti ndisamamwe, sindimasuta, ndipo nthawi zonse ndimapatsa maluwa." Ndipo, ngati sakudziwa kuti zonse zidzakhala choncho, angasankhe kukhala yekha. Vuto lalikulu limene amayi amaopa ubale watsopano, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti, munthu amasankhidwa ngati sitolo yatsopano m'sitolo kuti akondweretse yekha. Zokhumba zokha ndi zomwe zimaganiziridwa. Ndi njira iyi, mkazi sali wokonzeka kupereka chiyanjano.
Sizowopsa kuti akatswiri a zamaganizo akukulangizeni kuti muphunzire kulandira moyo ndi ena monga iwo alili. Kukhala ndi moyo wotere kumathandiza muzinthu zambiri. Ndipo, choyamba, izo zimapangitsa mwayi wokhala ubale wogwirizana ndi mwamuna wanu.
Pali vuto lina pofufuza ubale watsopano. Palibe mkazi amene anapunthwa pa iye. Kutetezeka, ndipo, motero, kudzichepetsa. Kumbukirani kangati munamva kuchokera kwa abwenzi, ogwira nawo ntchito, amodzi mwa akazi omwe ali ndi mawu ngati awa: "Koma kwa omwe ndikusowa kwambiri, kodi ndingakonde munthu mmodzi?" N'zotheka kupereka 99% kutsimikiza kuti awa ndi akazi osakwatiwa, kapena Amene amakoka ubale wawo ndi mwamuna wake ndi katundu wolemetsa, womwe sungakhoze kutayika. Mukusiya - mumakhala nokha, koma imodzi yowopsya. Ndipo maubwenzi atsopano amayamba kuwopsya: Kumene mungapeze munthu wa maloto anu, ndi ndani amene ndikufunikira?
Njira yothetsera vutoli yakhala ikudziwika kale. Sitinayamikiridwe kwa ife kokha ndi katswiri wa maganizo waulesi - dzikondeni nokha, yambani kulemekeza ndi kudziyamikira nokha. Ndiwe wekha, ndipo koposa zonse, wekha. Inu mukuyang'ana, ndipo ena pambuyo panu adzatambasulidwa, iwo ayamba kukonda, kulemekeza ndi kukuyamikirani inu. Ndipo ubale udzakhalapo.