Kodi mungayambe bwanji kukambirana moyenera kuti mupeze yankho lopindulitsa?
Kukambirana, makamaka khalidwe la mkangano, sikungowonetsera zokhazokha zokhazokha komanso luso la kulingalira kokwanira. Si chinsinsi kuti kupirira poyesera kupeza kumvetsetsa ndi interlocutor kungapangitse kukwiyitsa ndi kukwiya msanga kwa wotsutsana, kusafuna kupitiriza kukambirana, ndipo nthawizina kumamukakamiza kuti asakhale wotsutsa. Zotsatira zake, m'malo mofuna "inde", mudzapeza "ayi", ndipo mwayi wophwanya khoma udzakhala wovuta.
Cholinga: kuti tipeze nthawi yovomerezeka yodziwa maubwenzi ndi njira zothetsera mavuto ndi nthawi yocheperako, mu chiyanjano.
Yambani pofotokozera chiyanjano ndi zofuna za mdani: zimamudetsa nkhawa, chiyani, zomwe akufuna, zomwe akufuna. Kumvetsetsa zolinga za khalidwe lake. Nchiani chomwe chimabisika pambuyo posafuna kubwera ku "chipembedzo chofala"? Pali zifukwa zambiri izi: kukhumudwa, kusakhulupirira, kuopa kukhalabe "kugonjetsedwa," kukakamizika kwachizoloŵezi ... Kapena samangokonda chidwi chanu. Ichi ndi chiyeso chachikulu chopirira kwanu.
Akatswiri amapereka njira zisanu zophweka, zotsatirazi, muli ndi mwayi wokwaniritsa cholinga.
1. Pitirizani kukhala nokha
Mulimonsemo, musalole kuti zokambiranazo zilowe mu banal squabble - izi sizothandiza pakufotokozera maubwenzi ndi kuvomereza zochitika. Samalani, pewani kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu kwa mawu a interlocutor. Kumbukirani: cholinga chanu ndi kukwaniritsa cholinga chanu, osati "kutsiriza" mdani wanu.
2. Tenga mbali yake
Ayi, izo siziri mwanjira iliyonse zimatanthawuzira kulandidwa. Pachifukwa ichi, cholinga chanu ndikutaya mkhalidwewo, kuthetsa kukayikira, maganizo osokonezeka a interlocutor, kuti amvereni. Kulankhula kumathandiza kwambiri, monga: "Inde, mukulondola ...", kapena "N'zovuta kuti musagwirizane ndi izi" ... Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, m'pofunika kupitiriza mwakhama komanso mwachidwi kunena ndemanga yanu, kutsindika kuti mgwirizano wopindulitsa umodzi ndi weniweni.
3. Dziwani zolinga
Pambuyo pa kusintha kwa ubale wa "umodzi", ndi nthawi yosinthana ndi zofuna zokhudzana ndi zolinga zomwe zanenedwa kuti zitha kukwaniritsa mbali zonsezi. Mvetserani mwatcheru kwa wothandizira: ayenera kufotokoza momveka bwino malo ake. Mufunseni zomwe akuwona kufunikira kwa vutoli, lomwe, mwa lingaliro lake, limalepheretsa chisankho chake. Ichi ndi sitepe yofunikira - kusintha kwafunafuna limodzi. Kumuponyera ku mgwirizano, pang'ono "kumasula patsogolo" wotsutsa. Nkhono "ndithandizeni kumvetsetsa momwe mukuwonera," "afotokoze, chonde ..." "swallow" pafupifupi chirichonse. Koma kumbukirani: chiwonetsero cha ulemu ndi chidwi chiyenera kukhala chowonadi!
4. Kupambana kwako!
Kuyankhulana mu ubale ukupita kunyumba, koma musapumuke. Kuthamanga mofulumira pamapeto omaliza kukambirana ndi chiopsezo cha wokondweretsa. Kapena, mofulumira, mwamsanga kungachititse kuti interlocutor amve "kugonjetsedwa". Ndiye kuyesetsa kwako konse kwazandale kudzapita molakwika. Limbani mdani wanu "mlatho wa golide kuti mupite." Iye sayenera "kutaya nkhope" kumapeto kwa zokambiranazo. Atachita zonse kuti atsimikize kuti "inde" anapatsidwa mosavuta monga momwe mungathere, mudapambana mu duel.
5. Choopsa
Ngati simukukwaniritsa "inde" molimba mu ubale wanu, yesetsani kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kwa wotsutsa kuti "ayi." Gwiritsani ntchito chipiriro ndi zifukwa zamphamvu, mubweretse ku chidziwitso cha "wotsutsa wamkulu" kuti kulephera kupeza njira zothandizira phindu kudzatenga mtengo kuposa mbali zonse ziwiri. Pewani kuwopseza kapena kuopseza - izi zidzatsogolera kutsutsana kwatsopano, ngakhale kutsutsana. Pambuyo pake, simukusowa mdani, koma wokondedwa kuti akwaniritse zolinga zanu.