Dziko la munthu aliyense limaphatikizapo anthu omwe amalankhula naye komanso omwe adakhudza moyo wake ali mwana, msinkhu, kukula msinkhu. Kukula, munthu amasankha malo ake komanso njira zoyankhulana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Komabe, munthu aliyense amaikidwa m'moyo wa munthu aliyense, yemwe amamuwona tsiku ndi tsiku, yemwe amamuuza tsiku ndi tsiku, koma samaona kuti kuyankhulana nawo kumakhudza moyo wake. Ndi za oyandikana nawo.
Kawirikawiri, kukumbukira anthu omwe amadziwana nawo, amakumbukira anansi awo kumalo otsiriza, koma awa ndi anthu omwe amakhala ndi ife kwenikweni "kudzera pakhoma" ndipo amene, kaya timakonda kapena ayi, amakhudza moyo wathu, kaya timakonda kapena ayi. Tiyeni tione yemwe "woyandikana naye" ndi ndani ndi kusankha momwe angakhalire naye.
Wokondedwa "wachilendo"
Kodi mwawona kuti nthawi zambiri mukamayankhula za anthu oyandikana nawo, anthu ambiri amakumbukira bwino anthu omwe amabweretsa mavuto - kupanga phokoso, kukhumudwitsa, kunyoza, kuyankhula, ndi zina zotero? I. lingaliro lenileni la "mnzako" mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi loipa kwambiri, liri lolemedwa ndi malemba osavuta omwe potsirizira pake akukhala khalidwe lokhazikika la munthu. Iye ndi "woyipa," osati "ake", "wina". Ndipotu izi sizowopsa.
Asayansi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti nkhanza zaumunthu zomwe zimakhala ndi mnzako zimakhala pansi pazomwe zimachokera ku Stone Age, pamene kuyesetsa kukhalapo ndi kusungidwa kwa banja kunaphunzitsa anthu kusiyanitsa zonse "kuzungulira" ndi "wina". Izi zinachitika pamene panali nkhondo zowathandiza, madera, ana; pamene maonekedwe a m'deralo, omwe angayesedwe mu makilomita zikwizikwi, adakhala alendo. Ndipo ndendende chifukwa chakuti akatswiri a sayansi ya zachikhalidwe, akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu amati, kwa munthu wamakono, chifukwa cha kusowa kwa nkhondo, m'pofunika kukhazikitsa izi mwaukali kunja mwa kupanga mawonekedwe a mdani. "Timakhala" kunyumba "-" timakhala pansi, "timakondwerera tsiku la kubadwa -" amayenda kuyambira usiku kufikira mmawa "" timakonzekera pamene pali mphindi yaulere - "akugogoda usana ndi usiku" nthawi zonse perekani ndemanga pa mulandu - "iwo" amamatira mphuno zawo kunja kwa bizinesi yawo.
Ndi zachilendo kuti munthu akamalowa m'nyumba yatsopano, ngakhale pang'ono, munthu amayamba kufufuza za kuopsa kwa chilengedwe komanso anthu omwe amakhala nawo pafupi. Zosamvetsetseka, timamatira mwatsatanetsatane chifaniziro chowoneka bwino kwambiri, ndipo tingati, "adzatilepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo."
Pano pali nkhani yowonjezereka, ambiri omwe adzadziwonere okha mu mkhalidwe uno, zomwe sizosadabwitsa. Kuli bwino kwambiri - zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mumvetse lingaliro limene tikuyesera kuti tifikire owerenga onse. Kotero, kubwerera kunyumba titatha kugwira ntchito, kutopa, kulota kuti tipumule, kuponyera malingaliro onse kuchokera pamutu wodzazidwa, timavomereza kulingalira kwathu koyenera kuti tipeze njira zathu zachiyambi, kotero ndi zachilendo kuti phokoso lochepa ndi loti wrestler ndi wotetezera adzuke mwa ife. Nyumba yanga ndi malo anga achitetezo. Nyumba ndi malo omwe timapuma. Koma mosiyana ndi anthu akale m'dziko lamakono, ndi oyandikana nawo, sitikugawa malire omwe amalembedwa, koma amalingaliro athu - "moyo" wathu / "moyo" wawo.
"Mnzanga"
Popanda njira zotetezera, timamva kuti tili otetezeka ku zochitika zosiyanasiyana komanso mkati mwathu, kuzindikira, kuvomereza kuti pali wina yemwe "angatilepheretse kupuma," "angatilepheretse kukhala ndi moyo," timadzilola kuti tikhale chinachake choponderezedwa. Ndipo mochulukira "ife" timateteza, timamenyana, makamaka "iwo" amakwiya, "musaganize" za "ife".
Inde, "iwo" samakulolani mu moyo wawo, bwanji mukuwalola "iwo" m'maganizo anu, mu moyo wanu, akulolani kuti muwononge mtendere wanu? Kumbukirani ma hostels omwe amaphunzira, omwe amakhala chete pa 3-4 koloko m'mawa. Mabungwe a Disco, abale ake oyandikana nawo, abwenzi ndi abwenzi a oyandikana nawo, ana obadwa kumene, kufunafuna maphunziro osakwanira ndi kuyankhulana, kulankhula za "palibe choti achite" ndipo ngakhale kuti zinthu zili choncho, ambiri amagona, ndipo amaphunzira mwangwiro, ndipo amalankhulana momasuka ndi anthu ena. Ndipo ana omwe anakulira mu hostel omwe angathe kugona pansi pa zovuta ndi phokoso? Kodi amachita bwanji zimenezi? Chowonadi ndi chakuti, pokhala atakhazikitsidwa ku nyumba yosungiramo alendo, munthu amadziwa zomwe zikumudikirira ndikuvomereza zenizenizo monga momwe zilili, amavomereza anthu okhala mmenemo, momwe iwo aliri. Pamapeto pake, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndi mtundu wa kuyankhulana kumene mumasankha ndi anthu.
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti pali chinthu china chofanana pakati pa inu, chomwe chimagwirizanitsa inu, ndipo pali malamulo, ma vowels ndi chinsinsi, ponena za kukhalapo komwe aliyense sakudziwa. Tumizani izi m'moyo wanu. Kodi mumagwirizana ndi anansi anu? Malo amodzi, malo ofala, nyumba wamba, wamba wamba. Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa oyandikana nawo "athu" poyanjana ndi anthu ochokera kumalo ena, nyumba, zitseko. Ndipo aliyense wokhala pafupi ndi inu ali ndi biography yogwirizana ndi nyumbayi, nyumba, msewu. Nyumba ndi msewu kumene mumakhala. I. ndipo ndinu "awo" biography. Palibe amene angachoke pamalo okhalamo ndi kuthamanga, kusintha miyoyo yawo pazu, chifukwa chakuti "wina akutilepheretsa ife"? Ndipo ndikuti? Kuli "anthu ena", "zachilendo"? Choncho, kuti muyambe, kuti mukhale ndi moyo wosavuta, muyenera kungovomereza kuti inu ndi anansi anu ndi amodzi. Ngakhale kuti akatswiri ambiri asayansi amakhulupirira kuti zachiwawa zimakhalapo, mbiri yakale imasonyeza kuti palibe zithunzi zojambulajambula zomwe zimasonyeza kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa anthu. Pa nthawiyi panali malingaliro a dera la pansi komanso chuma chonse. Pambuyo povomereza dera lanu, mwakhala mutachita kale theka la nkhondoyo. Tsopano, mutha kale mkati mwa malo wamba, mukhoza kukhazikitsa malamulo.
Malamulo a MOYO WOSONYEZA
Malo okhala mwamtendere ndi oyandikana nawo
Malamulo apakati, omwe anthu enieni amathandizira kulankhulana tsiku ndi tsiku - chidziwitso. Izi ndizo malamulo omwe ambiri amawadziwa ndi kusamala - osati kupanga phokoso lolimba osati pambuyo pa 23.00, komanso masana, achenjeze anansi awo ngati kukonzedweratu kukonzedwa kapena alendo ambiri akufika pa chikondwerero cha tsikulo ndi pamene izi zatsala pang'ono kutha. Komanso musamapanikizirane ndi anzako nthawi zambiri popempha foni, kubwereketsa mchere, musasonyeze chidwi chenicheni pamoyo wanu, ndipo ngati mukuyenera kuthandizira, pemphani kuti mulowe mu nyumbayi ndipo muzitsatira ngati mukuletsedwa. Kuwonjezera apo, ndikofunika kudziwa momwe mungatsukitsire masitepe ndikubwezeretsa mababu opsa.
Kukhala kofunika kwambiri pokhala pamodzi ndi anansi kumasewera ndi kuzindikira kwanu mosamala za njira yawo ya moyo, banja lawo. Ndikofunika kudziwa izi ngati kulemekeza moyo wa wina ndi gulu kuti muthe kuthetsa mavuto amodzi. Kuyambira pa mavuto omwe mukukonzekera nyumba yanu ndi bwalo ndi milandu pamene inu kapena anansi anu tsiku liri lonse muyenera kuthandizana wina ndi mzake kuti muthandizidwe. Ndipotu, pali zifukwa pamene wina wa achibale akudwala, ndipo pakhomo apo amakhala dokotala yemwe angathandize maminiti oyambirira. Kapena mungafunike thandizo lofunikira ngati, mwachitsanzo, chitoliro chimatha. Ndi kosavuta komanso odalirika kuti agwiritse ntchito kwa anthu ozoloŵera kusiyana ndi alendo.
Koma ndi kofunika kwambiri kuti mukambirane kuti muzitha kuchita zinthu mwanzeru komanso mwaulemu. Ngati mwasankha kuti mudziwe bwino, ngati mungasankhe, mungamuitane mnansi wanu (oyandikana nawo) kuti akuchezereni tiyi ndi zokoma. Mungathe mosiyana ndi momwe mungachitire ndi anansi anu, mutengereni, koma musalowe m'nyumba, ngati simuitanidwa. Musapemphe anthu za moyo wawo, za kulera ana komanso za achibale ena omwe salipo. Musapereke uphungu uliwonse. Ndipo musapange anzanu. Kumbukirani kuti iyi ndi ulendo wa ulemu ndi chidziwitso. Onetsani zomwe muli ndipo muwuzeni muzochitika ziti zomwe mungathe kuziyembekezera ngati pakufunika thandizo.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amadziwa bwino, ngati ali ndi zofuna zambiri, amapezeka nthawi zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, amayi oyandikana nawo omwe amayenda ndi ana mu bokosi limodzi la mchenga kapena amuna awo ndi okwera magalimoto. Pachifukwa ichi, chidziwitso chimapezeka, kumbali imodzi, mofulumira, koma kumbali inayo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa chifukwa cha zofuna zowonjezera pamakhala chinyengo chosiyana ndi zofuna zanu komanso moyo wanu wonse, mungaganize kuti mnzako ndiye kale bwenzi lanu. Choncho khalidwe lolakwika, kudziwika kosavomerezeka, chidwi chofuna kuphunzira zambiri zokhudza moyo wa munthu wina, chikhumbo cholangizira chinachake, kufotokoza mbiri yanu, ndi zina zotero. Musadabwe ndi kukhumudwa, ngati mutero mungakane kutsutsa zolinga zanu zabwino. Mkhalidwe wanu ndi mnzako, osati bwenzi, osati wachibale. Ndipo ntchito yanu mu gawo la mnzako ndikupanga izo kuti inu ndi inu mumve bwino kukhala nawo. Zikuchitika kuti maubwenzi oyandikana nawo amayamba kukhala mabwenzi abwino, koma izi zimachitika kawirikawiri ndipo zimafuna kukhala osamala.
Mmene mungathetsere kutsutsana ndi anzako
Malamulo akunja amalamulidwa ndi lamulo, koma, mwatsoka, nthawi zambiri amaphwanyidwa. Ndipo ngati mukuvutika kuti musamve nyimbo zofuula kunja kwa makoma, kupondaponda ndi kukuwa, ngati mukupeza zovuta kuika maganizo anu pa moyo wanu, yesetsani kuthetsa vutoli, kudzera mu chilolezo chake. Pankhaniyi pali njira ziwiri: malamulo ndi nyumba. Choyamba, timasankha ndi uti wa iwo wogwiritsa ntchito. Kuti muchite izi, mudziwe yemwe ali patsogolo panu, zomwe amaganiza, zomwe ali nazo, yemwe ali naye mabwenzi, yemwe ali ndi udindo wake, chomwe chili chofunika kwa iye, ndi zina zotero. Ngati simukudziwa chilichonse chonga ichi ndipo simukufuna kudziwa, ndiye kuti tikupempha kuti tisachoke pa gawo loyamba la zokambirana zomwe tikufunikira ndikuyankhula mwaulemu komanso mokoma mtima. Ndipo ndithudi, musati muopseze, musati mumveke, kuti musapangitse zina zachiwawa. Mwinamwake oyandikana nawo anangokula mwana, ndipo makolo akhala atatsala pang'ono. Pankhaniyi, ndi bwino kulankhula ndi makolo, atachenjeza za mwana uyu. Ndipo dikirani. Monga lamulo, izi zimatha, ana amakula. Ndipo oyandikana nawo amakhala.
Pali chisankho pamene nyumba ikugulitsidwa ndipo palibe amene ali ndi udindo pa zomwe zimachitika kumeneko, samanyamula. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mwini nyumbayo, atatha kulemba mgwirizano, alibe nyumba iyi mpaka mgwirizano ukatha. Alangizi ake sangathe kulankhula ngati sakuwakonda. Komanso gulu la eni nyumba silili ndi mphamvu pa izi. Zomwe zingakhale zosiyana ndi oyandikana nawo pafupi ndizovuta kuwonjezera anthu omwe ali ndi uchidakwa omwe samvetsa zomwe mukupempha, ndipo nthawi zambiri - samangokumbukira kuti mwawadzera. Muzochitika zoterezi, pali milandu pamene kuitana kwa apolisi kunathandizidwa ndi lipoti la "anthu okayikira" omwe akulowa m'nyumbayo kapena anthu omwe apolisi amawoneka akufunayo. Inu simukudziwa yemwe amakhala mmenemo ndi zomwe zikuchitika!
Pamene oyandikana nawo akupanga phokoso sakudziwika kapena zokambirana za mtendere sizigwira ntchito, mungagwiritse ntchito mwayi walamulo - kuitanitsa apolisi. Koma tiyenera kukhala okonzekera kuti pamafunika khama lalikulu, mitsempha ndi zotsatira zingatheke kwa nthawi yaitali. Kuitana ndi bwino 02. Kuitana kwanu kudzatengedwa mu nyuzipepala ndipo pempho lanu lidzatumizidwa ku siteshoni ya apolisi, komwe padzachitika ulamuliro - zomwe zinachitika pa zodandaulazi. Mutha kuitananso kwa apolisi polemba, ndizogwirizana pamodzi (pambuyo pa zonse, khalidwe la oyandikana nalo limaletsa osati inu nokha). Kugwiritsa ntchito muofesi ayenera kulembedwa ndi inu kapena kutumizidwa ndi makalata olembetsa, atachenjeza za izo. Yankho liyenera kuperekedwa mkati mwa mwezi mutatha kulembedwa kwanu. Ndipo ngati mwasankha kuti mupite njirayi, muyenera kumaliza ntchitoyo mpaka phokoso laima, chifukwa ngati mutatembenuka, m'tsogolomu zochita zanu sizidzasamalidwa bwino ndi oyandikana nawo kapena apolisi omwe amachoka ulendo wachilendo.
Chofunika kwambiri, ndi omwe mumakhala ndi chiyanjano chomwe mumamanga, kumbukirani kuti pakapita kanthawi zonsezi zidzakhala mbali ya mbiri, mbiri yanu. Ndipo ngati zochitika za moyo wanu zisudzulana inu, monga momwe mukusonyezera, ndi pafupi ndi oyandikana nawo kuti mudzakumbukira nthawi zonse ndi chikoka chofunda.
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