Choyamba, tiyeni tikambirane za kusiyana kwa msinkhu komanso msinkhu wa msungwanayo. Chifukwa, ndithudi, tinganene kuti chikondi chimayenderana ndi msinkhu uliwonse, koma, makamaka, pali milandu yomwe siilandiridwa. Mwachitsanzo, nkhani zoterozo zingakhalepo ndi zomwe mtsikana ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zinayi, ndipo mwamuna ali kale kuposa makumi atatu. N'zosatheka kuti nkhani ngati nkhani za Lolita za Nabokov zikhoza kutchedwa zachibadwa. Gwirizanani pa zomwe zingakhale zachilendo pakati pa munthu woteroyo, ndipotu, mwana. Ngati anthu amakondana ndi kumanga maubwenzi, ndiye kuti ayenera kukhala ndi zofanana. Ndipo pakadali pano, sipangakhale funso lililonse. Ganizirani za inu nokha, mungaganize bwanji pa msinkhu wa zaka khumi ndi zinayi. Mwinamwake, zomwe sukulu imatopa ndi momwe mungapezere bwino, pafupi ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi, ma discos ndi kuti makolo samakumvetsa nkomwe. Mwamuna wamwamuna wazaka makumi anayi, nayenso, za zomwe amaganiza? Amaganizira za bizinezi, usiku wamtendere kunyumba, mowa ndi kusodza ndi anzanu. Choncho, ubale woterewu sungatchedwe chikondi ndi kuwalonjera. Mwinamwake mtsikanayo ali pachikondi, chifukwa pali amuna omwe amawoneka okoma makumi anai, penyani okha ndikudziŵa momwe mungakhalire achidwi. Komanso, amayi nthawi zambiri amakonda anyamata omwe ali okalamba, chifukwa amawoneka anzeru komanso odziwa zambiri. Izi, nthawi zambiri, ndizoona, koma sizinali choncho. Chifukwa munthu akufuna kungosangalala, kumbukirani achinyamata. Mwinamwake iye mwiniwake ali ndi mkazi ndi ana. Mwachidule, anali atatopa ndi mkazi yemweyo, kapena ankafuna kunena "vinyo watsopano".
Mtsikana wamng'ono mwa munthu wotero nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana. Kotero, mwamsanga amayamba kukwiya ndi iye, ndipo amangowonongeka, ndipo mtsikanayo amalira kwa nthawi yaitali ndikukumana ndi vuto lake loyamba lachikondi, limene, mosasamala za msinkhu wake, sichidzakhala mwana. Choncho, ndizobwino maubwenzi ameneŵa omwe ayenera kupeŵa, ndipo ngati muwona kuti mlongo, bwenzi kapena mwana wamkazi wagwa mu mkhalidwe uno, muyenera kuchita chirichonse. Kuletsa ubalewu. Ngakhale mtsikanayo atakana ndipo akufuula kuti amadana nanu, mumvetse kuti tsopano akadakali wamng'ono komanso wachikondi. Pakapita nthawi, msungwanayo amakula, amamvetsa zonse ndipo adzakuthokozani chifukwa chomupulumutsa nthawi yoyenera ndi maubwenzi oipa.
Koma, pali zochitika zina pamene kusiyana kwa zaka sikumagwira ntchito yapaderayi, zovuta kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ngati msungwana ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zinayi, ndipo mnyamata ali ndi zaka makumi asanu ndi anayi mphambu zisanu ndi zinayi, kusiyana kotere sikungakhale kosalekeza. Tonse timadziwa kuti atsikana amakula kale, ndipo anthu amatha kukhala anzeru pambuyo pake. Choncho, tikhoza kuganiza kuti, pali zaka zitatu kapena zinayi pakati pawo. Komanso, ngati mnyamata ali ndi zolaula ndi zofanana, ndiye kuti palibe kusiyana kwa kusiyana kwa zaka. Mwachitsanzo, ngati onse awiri ali ndi moyo wokondwa, amakonda kuyenda, amakhala ndi nthawi yambiri komanso nthawi zambiri, onsewo amawoneka achichepere ndipo okhawo amene amawadziwa bwino amatha kusiyanitsa kusiyana kwa zaka. N'zoona kuti nthawi zina msungwana akhoza kukhala ndi mwana, koma ngati ali wochenjera, wokwanira komanso wosakonda kupanga zipsyinjo pamtundu wina uliwonse, zimakhala zolekerera komanso zosamveka. Muwiri, pamene onse ali oposa khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu ndi osachepera makumi atatu, palibe kawirikawiri mikangano yapadera. Pankhaniyi, mnyamata ndi mtsikana ali oimira pafupifupi mbadwo womwewo, ndi maphunziro omwewo, malingaliro pa moyo, zofuna, mavuto ndi zochitika zonse za moyo, ubwana ndi zina zotero. Choncho, zimakhala zosavuta kwa iwo kupeza chinenero chimodzi, kumvetsetsana, kuvomereza mavuto omwe angasangalatse theka lina ndikuchita mwanjira yomwe idzawathandizire, m'malo molimbitsa mkhalidwewo.
Inde, zimakhala zovuta kwa maanja kumene msungwana ali pansi pa makumi atatu, ndipo munthuyo ali pafupi makumi anayi. Apo kungakhale kukangana kwa chidwi. Kuonjezera apo, makolo ake angatsutsane ndi maukwati awo ndi ukwati wawo. Koma, ndi vuto ili mukhoza kudziwa ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amachita molondola. Msungwana sayenera kukwiya ndi makolo ake, kufuula ndi kuchoka panyumbamo. Njira yabwino ndikudziwira wokondedwa wanu. Mayiyo ayenera kupereka mboni kwa banja lake kuti athe kulankhula ndi kumvetsa kuti ndi woyenera woyenera. Ndipo kuti iye ali wamkulu ndi owonjezera, chifukwa munthu wotero ndi wanzeru kwambiri, wodalirika, komanso, ali ndi mphamvu pa mapazi ake.
Kusiyana kwa msinkhu, mwamuna wamkulu, sayenera kukhala vuto kwa iwo okondana wina ndi mzake ndipo ali okonzeka kusokoneza. Inde, anthu ochokera kumitundu yosiyana samamvetsetsana nthawi zonse, koma ngati chikondi ichi ndi chenichenicho, mukhoza kuyesa kumvetsetsa vutoli, kupanga zolingalira zolondola ndikutsutsana. Pankhaniyi, mwamuna ndi mkazi akhoza kungogwirizana kuti zinthu zina zidzasankhidwa mosiyana. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna amatha kusewera golf, ndipo amayi amapita ku klabu ya usiku. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti sichiwalekanitsa iwo ndipo sichiphwanya chikhulupiriro. Ngati onse akudziwa kuti ngakhale iwo sakondana wina ndi mzake ndipo nthawi zonse akhala oona, ndiye kuti ubale wawo udzakhala wamphamvu komanso wokhalitsa.