Phunziro loyamba, momwe mungapambitsire munthu, limatchedwa kuyambira.
Muyenera kudzifufuza nokha kuti mukufuna kukhala ndi munthu amene mumakonda. Kodi sizomwe mumakonda, ndikufuna! Muyenera kuchita zonse zomwe zimadalira inu, kotero kuti kugwirizana kumadzuka mwaokha.
Phunziro lachiwiri, momwe mungapambane ndi munthu, limatchedwa kusanthula.
Mayi aliyense ali ndi zofunikira kwa osankhidwa ake, koma musayiwale kuti munthu ali ndi zofanana ndi inu. Kukonda basi sikuli kwa chinachake chomwe sichingatheke. Ife tonse timakonda ndipo timakonda makhalidwe ena mwa ife.
Kuti tikwaniritse kuti tifuna munthu ngati ife, tiyenera kukhala chokhumba chake. Tiyenera kufotokozera mwachangu nkhaniyi ndikuwonanso zomwe amayi amakonda mwamuna wathu, ndi makhalidwe omwe amamukonda kwambiri kwa amayi. Tiyenera kuchita zonse zomwe tingathe kuti tikhale oyenera.
Phunziro lachitatu ndi momwe mungapambanire munthu, wotchedwa mafashoni.
Kodi mukudziwa kuti amuna amakonda maso. Ziribe kanthu momwe izo ziriri zovuta, koma inu simungakhoze kutsutsana ndi izi ndipo inu simungakhoze kuchita kalikonse, zoona ziribe. Kuti mukondweretse mwamuna wanu, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito chithunzi chanu. Musaope kusintha mawonekedwe anu. Musamaope kuvala tsitsi lanu lakuda kapena lakuda tsitsi lanu, khalani ndi tsitsi lalifupi. Sankhani mawonekedwe osiyana a zovala. Musaope kuyesa, tayaninso kusintha kwanu, monga wojambula kuti alembe chithunzi chatsopano. Mzimva ngati mkazi wosiyana kwambiri.
Phunziro lachinayi, momwe mungagonjetse munthu, limatchedwa maganizo.
Muyenera kulowa mkati mwa moyo wa munthu wanu kuti muthe kumvetsa bwino maganizo ake. Komanso, muyenera kuphunzira ndi kumvetsa zomwe amakonda kapena zosakondweretsa, zomwe angakhumudwitse kapena mosiyana nazo. Phunzirani za zizolowezi zake ndi zomwe iye angakhale nazo mosayembekezereka. Khalani katswiri wamaganizo wochenjera.
Kuti mupambane ndi mwamuna, muyenera kumayankhula naye moyenera. Zachitika kawirikawiri m'moyo, pamene mwamuna angakonde mkazi, koma atangoyamba kulankhula naye, chikhumbo chake chonse cholankhulana naye pa iye chinatayika. Muyenera kuphunzira, osati kungolankhula zokha, komanso kumvetsela kwa mnzanuyo. Khalani wokondweretsa interlocutor kwa iye.
Phunziro lachisanu, momwe mungagonjetse munthu, amatchedwa filosofi.
Komabe zodabwitsa kwa inu, koma mu kuya kwa mwangozi kwa zilakolako zakhala mwala ndendende mwala wa filosofi. Ndipotu, ndi nzeru za moyo zomwe tingathe kudziwa kuti chidwi cha munthu, chomwe amakonda kuwerenga kwambiri, ndi mafilimu ake kapena mapulogalamu ake omwe amakonda kwambiri? Kodi amachita chiyani nthawi yake yopuma?
Inu mukhoza kukhala, tsopano mukuganiza, chokhumba chiri ndi chotani ndi zonsezi? Koma ngati mukuganiza choncho, mwayi wanu wokopa munthu ndi wochepa. Ngati mulibe mwadzidzidzi wa filosofi, ndiye kuti simudzakhala ndi chikhumbo cholimba.
Phunziro la chisanu ndi chimodzi, momwe mungagonjetse munthu, limatchedwa njira.
Musanapange kugonjetsa mwamuna, muyenera kudzipangira nokha zotsatira za chiyanjano chanu. Pali mitundu iwiri ya mabala achikondi, chikondi ndi chikondi cha kugonana. Inde, kugonana kokonda kugonana kumatengedwa ngati chinthu chosavuta, koma kukwaniritsa chikondi cha munthu wanu si kophweka. Monga momwe ziwerengero zikuwonetsera, amuna ambiri samakonda kugonana, koma banja, ubwenzi ndi chikondi.
Phunziro lachisanu ndi chiwiri, momwe mungagonjetse munthu, limatchedwa tactical.
Njira yoyamba ndi mphamvu ya kuyang'ana kwanu.
Ndi chithandizo cha kuyang'ana, mukhoza kukopa chidwi cha munthu aliyense. Koma malingaliro anu sayenera kungosonyeza chilakolako, ayenera kuwerenga chidwi chanu kwa munthu. Malingana ndi akatswiri a maganizo, kuyang'ana ndi chida champhamvu cha mkazi.
Njira yachiwiri ndizovuta kwambiri.
Palibe chochuluka chomwe chidzakukoka iwe pamodzi monga zochitika zodabwitsa. Ndipo sikofunikira kuti tipeze mavuto. Mutha kungodzipezerani nokha pafupi ndi mwamuna pavuto lililonse. Phunzirani kuthana ndi mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku
Njira yachitatu ndizoseketsa.
Monga mukudziwira, kuseka sikungowonjezera moyo wa munthu, komanso kumabweretsa pamodzi anthu awiri. Ndipotu, mukaseka chinachake pamodzi, ndiye kuti muli ndi maganizo amodzi. Kuseka sikungobweretsa anthu awiri kokha, komanso kumatsutsana wina ndi mzake.
Njira yachinayi ndi mphamvu ya luso.
Phunziro lachisanu ndi chitatu, momwe mungagonjetse munthu, amatchedwa chiyembekezo.
Ngati munamukonda munthuyo, musabwerere pansi, chifukwa inu musakhale ndi zopinga pa njirayo. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti muyenera kukhulupirira nokha ndikudziwa kuti mudzapambana. Muyenera kupasuka mwa mwamuna wanu ndipo mukhale nawo maloto ake onse, omwe akhala akuwafunira.
Chachisanu ndi chinayi phunziro, momwe mungapambitsire munthu, amatchedwa wotsiriza.
Musamangidwe pa chikhumbo chimodzi. Chikhumbo chanu chokhala pafupi ndi mwamuna sayenera kupita kuchitengezo. Mu chiyanjano chanu payenera kukhala chiyanjano chathunthu. Mwinamwake mkazi aliyense sangafune kudziwa maphunziro onsewa, chifukwa mwa iye mulibe chikhumbo cholimba. Koma ngati palibe chilakolako chapadera, ndiye kuti sizothandiza kuyamba. Pambuyo pake, ngati tikufunadi amayi, tidzachita zonse kuti tithe kupambana.
Zophunzira zisanu ndi zitatu za momwe mungapambitsire mwamuna zidzakuthandizani amayi okondeka, muthamangitse munthu mwamsanga ndikupeza zomwe mukufuna. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri m'moyo, tikukhumba kuti muzikonde ndi kukondedwa!