Kodi kwenikweni chimalimbikitsa chiyanjano?

Nkhani za ana zafotokozera momveka bwino atsikana onse chithunzithunzi cha moyo wabwino: chikondi chiyenera kukhala chofunikira poyamba, kuyenda mwachikondi pansi pa mwezi ndi serenades kudzera pazenera ndilofunikira, ndipo kalonga (ndithudi, opanda mavuto a nyumba) ndikumverera bwino kwa okondedwa ndi nyanja zisanu ndi ziwiri. Chabwino, chiyani choti uchite kwa iwo omwe sali ovomerezeka mu kanema? Ngati mumakhulupirira zithunzizo pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi kusaka gums "Chikondi chiri ..", chikondi chenicheni chimapangidwa kuchokera ku mabungwe osagwiritsira ntchito bajeti, kuopsa kwa moto (makandulo, makandulo!), Komanso kukumbatira kutuluka dzuwa. Zinali zogwirizana ndi nkhaniyi kuti Sveta ndi Dima apambana mpikisano waukwati m'magazini ya ukwati chifukwa chokondana kwambiri (adagwada pamtunda wa St. Mark's Square ku Venice ndikupereka mpheteyo, oyendayenda adakondwera, njiwa idadya chakudya chachiwiri). N'zoona kuti anthu amene anali atangokwatirana kumene anathawa patatha miyezi ingapo ukwatiwo utatha, koma zimenezi sizinalembedwe m'magaziniyi.

Palinso nkhani ina, yokhudza momwe banja latsopanoli linaponyedwera ndi kukonzedwa ndi maboma atatu mzere. Choyamba, anzathu osauka adayambitsa nkhondo - osati ndi mtsogoleri, koma wina ndi mzache - ndipo anaphwanya pulogalamu ya pepala.

Kenaka nzeru zowonjezereka zidakalipo, anyamatawo adatsimikiza kuti akufunafuna olakwa ndipo anayamba kuyenda mozungulira vutoli mwa njira yoyanjana. Ndipo taganizirani: pamapeto a kukonzanso anali Satana yemweyo pa mwambi. Okondeka sanathenso kukwiya, koma iwo ankasokonezeka, kotero kuti ena anali achisoni. Imapempha funso: kodi idyani pamodzi ndi mchere wa mchere imalimbikitsa mgwirizanowu kukhala wogwira mtima kuposa kupuma kwa vanila ku Maldives?

Sikuti ndikukonzekera kuthetsa makhalidwe onse achikondi. Ndipo pamphuno ya pinki pabedi lachikondi, ndi mphatso zopanda kukongoletsera pakupukuta, ndikuyamba palimodzi - kukongola konse nthawi zonse kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo kumapatsa mphamvu. Chinthu china ndi chakuti simudzadzaza ndi mikate yokha; Nthawi zambiri ndimafuna zitsamba ndi mbatata. Ndipo fanizo ili lachigoba limagwirizana bwino ndi gawo la maubwenzi. Kawirikawiri, pansi pa nthano za mabanja olimba - perekani choonadi, chomwe chimasonkhanitsa pamodzi!

Aloleni kuti: "Ndimakonda anthu amamvetsetsana popanda mawu, osachepera - ndi mawu theka."

Ndipotu
Kodi mukufuna kukhala mosangalala nthawi zonse? Takulandirani ku gome lazokambirana! Kuwonetseratu bajeti, kuyeretsa nyumba, kuchezera achibale, chiwerengero chogonana pa maphwando - kwa okhala pansi pa denga lomwelo, palibe mitu yaying'ono. Zowonjezereka za mgwirizano (ndi mndandanda wa zilango za zinthu zosakwaniritsa mgwirizano wa zinthu), zochepa m'miyoyo yathu zidzakhala moyo wakutchire umene ukuphwera m'mabwalo okonda ngalawa. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, chizoloŵezi chofotokozera mwachindunji ndi mawu, osati ndi kuyang'ana moto ndi kuusa moyo kwakukulu, chitsimikizika kuti ndipulumutse kusamvetsetsana kopanda nzeru. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukaneneratu zomwe mukufuna kulandira tsiku lanu lobadwa, ndiye kuti mwakupeza. Poipa kwambiri, theka lanu lidzadandaula ndikufotokozera momveka bwino chifukwa chake silingakwanitse kukwaniritsa chilakolakocho. Komabe, ngati mukufuna masewera, misonzi ndi zifukwa - njira yotsatiridwa ndizosawoneka bwino.

Malingaliro a anthu olemekezeka a maganizo a m'maganizo, chimodzi mwa zofunikira pa mgwirizano wabwino ndi kuthekera kukambirana malamulo omwe alipo ndikusintha iwo atangokhala osayendetsa khalidwe. Ndipo zimachitika kangapo. Moyo wothandizana, kulembedwa kwaukwati, kubadwa kwa ana - magawo onse amafunika kuwongosoledwa mpaka pano. Osasokonezeka, mu njira yowerengera - koma odalirika. Ndipo ndikufuna kunena kuti palibe chomwe chimalimbikitsa mgwirizano ngati ntchito yodziphatikizana. Ndipo sikofunikira kwambiri, kudzakhala kukwera mahatchi pansi pa mwezi, sukulu ya tango kapena kuyesa kukakamira mu galimoto yonyansa. Ngati mutagonjetsa ntchito yomalizira, idzakhala gawo la mbiri yanu ndikulolani kuti mukumva bwino "tikhoza!". Ndipo kupambana kochepa kumeneku ndikotheka kumvetsetsa kwambiri kuti ngakhale palibe chakudya chamakono.

Aloleni kuti:
"Anthu ozoloŵera samatenga nsalu zodetsedwa m'nyumba zawo ndipo samauza akunja zomwe zikuchitika m'chisa chawo."

Ndipotu
Ndipo abwenzi ndi psychoanalysts ndi chiyani? Ngakhale opambana pa mpikisano kwa okwatirana okometsetsa nthawi ndi nthawi amatsutsana, amawongolera, khalani chete ndi kulingalira za mnzanu womvetsetsa. Ngati panthawi yomweyi mukudzikuza ndikupita kunyoza ndikudzudzula nokha, pali chiopsezo chachikulu kuti zonsezi zidzakhala ndi nthawi yamakono, ndipo mudzakhala okhumudwa.

Mwa njira, kusiyana pakati pa "kugawa" ndi "nayabednichat" ndi kofunika kwambiri, ndipo n'kosavuta kugwira. Muuzeni mnzanu wapamtima za malingaliro ake osokoneza bongo, ponyt pamapewa ake ndi kudya keke yotonthoza mu gulu losangalatsa - zonsezi sizikuphatikizapo kusakhulupirika. Kuwonjezera apo, bwenzi, ngati ali ndi chisangalalo chabwino (ndipo awa okhawo ayenera kusankhidwa), zingakhale zosangalatsa kwambiri kuyankha pa zomwe mkwiyowu udzasokoneze nthawi yomweyo. Ndipo kuti musamve bwino pakapita nthawi (ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo kuti musanyoze chibwenzi / mayi / Intaneti), panthawi ya vumbulutso, ndibwino kupeŵa tsatanetsatane wachinsinsi, komanso zowonetseratu zakukhosi kwa munthu wokondedwa wanu. Koma ponena zawekha unene kanthu. Kukulongosola momveka bwino za zofunikira zake zopanda kukayikira, komanso zowonongeka momveka bwino, mumapeza mwayi wodabwitsa kuyang'ana mkangano wochokera kumbali ndikubwera ndi njira yothetsera vutoli.

Aloleni iwo anene : "Mabanja okondwa samatopa, ndipo sadzakhala pamodzi."

Ndipotu
Ndimakumbukira zaka zakutali zakale zomwe ndinamva kuchokera kwa mphunzitsi wina wanzeru kuti pa nthawi yachisokonezo ndi zofunika kwambiri. Nthawi inadutsa, ndipo zinapezeka kuti kupuma kumeneku kumafunikira kwenikweni monga mpweya - osachepera kuti apeze malingaliro ndi kuwalimbikitsa iwo ndi mgwirizano wawo. Komanso kuyang'ana mbali ya zomwe zikuchitika pakati pa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo, mwinamwake, chinachake kuti mukonze.

Ndipotu, moyo wa wokondedwa kapena wokondedwa, umakhala wosavuta komanso wokondweretsa kuti akhale pamodzi. Choyamba, sikofunika kufotokoza zofuna zosiyana za mnzanu. Kuti muchite izi, pali mabwenzi, midzi komanso maphwando omwe amakulolani kuti mudzidziwe mumasewero omwe mumawakonda ndi mutu wanu, mopanda mantha, kusokonezeka ndi zina "osati". Chachiwiri, kuti mukhale osangalala mokwanira, abwenzi amafunikira: osati makampani olira pokhapokha, komanso misonkhano yokhalapo ndi yongolankhula ndi kusokoneza mwachinsinsi ndi miseche. Chachitatu, ngati izi sizichitika, mitu yaikulu ya zokambirana zaukwati idzakhalabe ulendo wopita ku "Auchan" ndi nthiti kuchokera kwa wamng'ono. Mukulifuna? Moona, zomwe zili zofunikira si nthawi yomwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito palimodzi, koma ndi khalidwe lake lokha. Mukusowa wina ndi mnzake? Kodi muli ndi chirichonse chokambirana? Mayankho ogwira mtima pa mafunso amenewa ndi ofunika kwambiri, kutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala mochedwa ndikukhala okhumudwa, ndi kupeza zokwanira zokambirana. Ngati pazifukwazi muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito tchuthi mosiyana, m'mayiko osiyanasiyana kapena m'mayiko osiyanasiyana - masewerawa ndi ofunikira kandulo!