Kodi choyamba chogonana ndi chiyani?

Chizolowezi choyamba chogonana. Kodi ndizofunikira kwa anyamata ndi atsikana? Kodi aliyense wa iwo amamva bwanji pa nthawi ino? Kodi zingathetse mavuto ndi manyazi? Izi ndi mafunso ovuta, omwe tiyesa kuyankha. Monga mukudziwa, abambo ndi amai ndi anthu osiyana kwambiri. Azimayi amakhala ndi malingaliro, kukhudzidwa, amakhala ndi zikhumbo zochepa, zofuna. Pamene anthu akutsogoleredwa ndi kulingalira koyera, kuwerengera, malingaliro oganizira nthawi zonse. Inde, ali wamng'ono kwambiri izi siziri zoonekeratu, koma kukoma kwa khalidwe kumakhala kosiyana kale ndipo kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi n'kofunika.
Mnyamata, amamva bwanji akayamba kugonana. Inde, kufunika kwake, kuganiza kuti kale ndi wamkulu, kumadzidalira. Chikhumbo chokhala "chapamwamba" kuposa abwenzi ake pa sitepe imodzi, amachititsa achinyamatawo. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika ali wamng'ono, ndipo osati mopanikizika, pali chikondi, kapena ayi, chinthu chachikulu ndichokwaniritsa zokwanira zanu. Ndipo musadzilemekeze, koma kwa ine ndekha kuti ndidziwe, ndine munthu. Pambuyo pake, anyamata amakhulupirira kuti ngati mutagona ndi mtsikana, muli kale munthu. Ndipo osati kwa kamphindi musaganize kuti mnyamatayo samapanga bedi la amuna, koma zochita za amuna ndi khalidwe. Koma maximalism, yomwe ilipo m'badwo uno, ndi kuseka kwa anzako, perekani zotsatira. Umboni wa ulamuliro wina umakhala pamwamba pakumverera konse.

Kwa atsikana, zochitika zoyamba zogonana , izi ndi zodabwitsa komanso zodabwitsa. Iwo amapereka okha ndipo mtengo wa izi ndi namwali. Kugonana, osati mawu omwe mukufunikira kudziwa kugonana koyamba m'moyo wanu. Atsikana amavomereza kuti ali paubwenzi wapamtima pokhapokha atathandizidwa ndi kumverera. Ndipo iwo amakhulupirira molakwika kuti iwo akuloledwa. Ndipo mwamuna ameneyo, tsopano ayenera kukhala paliponse. Koma ambiri sakudziwa kuti vutoli ndi lachikazi, ngati mwavomera kuchita zogonana, sikutanthauza ubale wautali komanso wolimba. Musanayambe kuchita izi, muyenera kuganizira mozama, mukufunikira tsopano, nthawi idzafika ndipo izi zidzachitika, bwanji mukufulumira. Ganizirani chirichonse, kodi mukufuna kugonana ndi munthu uyu? Ngati ichi ndi chisankho chanu mwadala, ndipo simudzadandaula zomwe zinachitika, ndiye musayese.

Chifukwa cha unyamata wawo komanso kusadziŵa zambiri , achinyamata samalingalira za kulera ndi chitetezo. Ngati muli otsimikiza kuti mnzanuyo sanachite zogonana kale, ndiye kuti m'pofunikira kusamalira kokha za kulera. Koma ngati wokondedwayo adalumikizana kale, ndiye kuti muyenera kuganizira ndi kugonana moyenera.
Milandu ya pakati pa achinyamata ndi yofala. Kwenikweni, zonse zimakhala ndi mawu abwino kwambiri, chifukwa poyamba msungwanayo sakudziwa yekha, ndiye amadzibisa kwa makolo ake, ndipo akaganiza kunena, nthawi yayitali, choncho munthu ayenera kubwezeretsa kapena palibe chomwe chidzasinthidwe.

Kugonana kosatetezeka , ndiko kusamalira thanzi lanu ndi thanzi la mnzako. Ngati chibwenzi chanu (msungwana) sichifuna kudziteteza, ngakhale mutakhala ndi zochitika zogonana, inuyo nokha muyenera kusamalira. Popeza thanzi lanu liyenera kukhala loposa zonse, tsogolo limadalira. Masiku ano, pali zovuta zambiri kuzungulira. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi chidaliro chonse kwa mnzanuyo kuti palibe zosakhulupirika ndi "mbali" zamasewera, simungadziwe zedi kuchuluka kwa malumikizowo omwe anali nawo musanakhalepo, ndi omwe, kutanthauza kuti palibe chidaliro mu chitetezo chake.

Ndi bwino kukhala otetezeka.
Ubale uliwonse wapafupi kwenikweni ndi kuphatikiza miyoyo ndi matupi. Chitani zinthu zazikuluzikuluzi, muyenera kudziwa zomwe mukufuna komanso osadandaula pambuyo pake. Kutsogozedwa ndi mawu "Ndipo abwenzi anga onse (abwenzi) agona kale ndi anyamata (asungwana)", Izi sizolondola. Mu moyo wanu, muli ndi ulamuliro wa thupi lanu ndi malingaliro.