Ambiri a ife timakonda kukhala abwenzi ndi amuna omwewo. Zimakhulupirira kuti "monga iwe mwini" amatha kumvetsetsa, kudyetsa, kutenthetsa - m'mawu, m'malo mwaubwenzi ngati mukufunikira. Nanga bwanji amai ambiri akuganiza kuti akhale ndi bwenzi lamwamuna (kapena, bwenzi, osati wokonda)? Kodi ubwenzi ndi mwamuna ndi wabwino kuposa mkazi? Ndipo kodi maubwenzi oterewa sagwedezeka kukhala chinachake? Zomwe zimawoneka ngati ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi kwenikweni, ndipo zidzakambidwa pansipa.
MAFUNSO A UKWENZI NDI WOMANJA
Inde, kukhala ndi bwenzi lapamtima sikulakwa. Pali wina woti abwere ndikuchotsa moyo wako pozunza mwamuna wako zomwe dziko likuyimira. Alipo wina woti apite kukagula ndi kumalo ochitira masewera (simungathe kusuntha nokha ndi galasi!) Pali wina woti apite ndi ana ku paki kapena ku malo owonetsera ana ndi ana. Pomaliza, alipo wina woti akambirane za zakudya zamakono ndi kudandaula kuti simukugwirizana ndi jeans yomwe mumakonda. Mnzathu wokondedwa amamvetsera, amve chisoni, akambirane mavuto awo ofanana. Ndipo iye adzakuthandizani inu nonse. Zikuwoneka kuti chirichonse ndi chabwino, ndi chiyaninso chokhumba. Koma, izo zikutembenuka, pali ziphuphu muubwenzi waakazi, ndipo zosasangalatsa kwambiri.
- Ndimakonda mnzanga, timakhala naye pa sukulu, - anati Marina. - Kwa zaka zambiri, athandizana kangapo kotero kuti sangathe kuwerenga. Tinakhala pafupi kwambiri, pafupifupi mbadwa. Koma ndinazindikira kuti mnzanga amandiuza momasuka chisoni kuposa chisangalalo. Mwachitsanzo, ndikamamuuza kuti ndalimbikitsidwa ndikuwonjezerapo malipiro anga kapena kuti mwamuna wabwino amandilondera, amatha kuthamangira mkati. Ndipo ngakhale akuyesera kusonyeza kuti ali wokondwa chifukwa cha ine, koma ndikuganiza kuti zolemba zabodza zimadutsa mu mawu ake. Poyankha mawu anga, akuyamba kudandaula kuti palibe amene amamuwonjezera ndalama, ndipo amuna sanamuyang'ane kwa nthawi yaitali. Panthawi imeneyi, ndimadzimva kuti ndine wolakwa, chifukwa ndili bwino, koma samatero.
Nsanje ndi mkangano pakati pa abwenzi ndizochitika kawirikawiri. Ndipo izi zimalepheretsa kwambiri ubwenzi, chifukwa kudalirika ndi kuwona mtima kumatha, chinachake chosakhala chiyanjano ndizosatheka. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayi ambiri, owopa nsanje, amakonda kusunga zibwenzi pamtunda wina, osalola kuti azikhala pafupi kwambiri ndi moyo wawo waumwini. Ndipo ndithudi ubale weniweni umalowetsedwa ndi mabwenzi. Ambiri adzatsutsa kuti si amayi onse omwe ali choncho - alipo ena omwe angathe kuthandizana wina ndi chisoni komanso chimwemwe. Inde pali. Mwachidule, iwo ndi ochepa. Chifukwa chake, ndikukhumudwitsidwa ndi abwenzi "ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha," amayi akuyesera kupeza chitonthozo mu "amuna ndi akazi okhaokha" - akuyang'ana bwenzi pakati pa amuna.
ZOCHITIKA "ZINTHU ZOFUNIKA" KUCHITA
Mwamunayo samakumbukira kuti amachitira nsanje mkazi chifukwa cha mphete zatsopano, zinyumba kapena nyumba kapena chifukwa chibwenzi chimalemera, ndipo samatero. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, muubwenzi "wosakanikirana" (ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi), kumverera kwa kaduka ndiko, monga lamulo, kulibe kwathunthu. Ndipo izi zimapangitsa kuti akazi aziwakonda kwambiri.
Chinthu chachiwiri chomwe chiyanjano chomwecho ndi chabwino ndi chakuti mzanga wamwamuna angathe kupeza malangizo oyenerera komanso kufotokozera za nzeru zamunthu zaumunthu. "Pamene ndimakangana ndi mwamuna wanga kapena ngati sindikumvetsa zinazake," Oksana akuti, "chinthu choyamba chimene ndikuchita ndikutchula Alyoshka, yemwe ndakhala naye mabwenzi kwa zaka zambiri. Adzamwa ine ndi valerian, ndipo mvetserani ndikufotokozerani chifukwa chake zili choncho, ndipo ayi. Simungapeze "ambulansi" yotere kwa mnzanu aliyense kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo. " Mwa njira, ubwino uwu wa "abwenzi amodzi ndi abambo" umayamikiridwa ndi anthu. Awo omwe ali ndi abwenzi, amadzifunsa mofunitsitsa maganizo awo chifukwa chake mkazi kapena mbuye wawo alibe nzeru. Ndipo nthawi zambiri munthu amamuuza chibwenzi chake zinthu zomwe samakhulupirira ngakhale mkazi wake.
Palinso limodzi limodzi. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kukhalapo kwa mabwenzi a amuna kapena akazi anzawo kumalimbitsa maganizo ake. Izi ndi zoona makamaka kwa akazi. Ndipotu, tifunika kumverera ngati mpweya umene timakonda mwamuna kapena mkazi. Ndikofunika kwa ife kuti sitidakondedwa ndi maso okha komanso miyendo yopyapyala, komanso ndi makhalidwe auzimu. Zoonadi, zonsezi zingakhale zofunikira kulandira kwa mwamuna wake. Koma, tsoka, sikuti aliyense ali ndi mwayi. Koma mnzanu amakukondani ndi mtima wonse ndipo amakuyamikirani monga munthu. Izi zimapangitsa mkazi kudalira, kuthetsa maofesi ambiri. Kuwonjezera apo, ubwenzi ndi mwamuna umathandiza dona, yemwe amatchedwa, kuti azikhalabe - kuyang'ana zovala, chiwerengero ndi zinthu zina.
M'mawu ake, zikutanthauza kuti ubwenzi umenewo uli ndi malonda okhazikika. Koma ngati chirichonse chinali chophweka! Pano, palinso nthawi yozengereza. Mwachitsanzo, lingaliro lachidziwitso la chiyanjano ndi bwenzi, kusagwirizana ndi chibwenzi choterocho cha anthu oyandikana nawo, ndipo potsiriza, nsanje za mwamuna ...
SEX SIDZAKHALA!
Mwayi wakuti abwenzi adzakhala okonda, kwenikweni. Nthawi zina ubale, wowoneka ngati ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, sungamveke kuti zonse zikhale chikondi. Ndipo nthawi zina amangofika pabedi. Inde, pali zotheka, koma ndi zosayenera. Ndicho chifukwa chake. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mkazi, monga lamulo, amatenga ubale wolimba kwambiri ndi mwamuna kwambiri, kuwapatsa iwo kufunikira kwakukulu. Amalemekeza bwenzi lake ndikumumvera chisoni (popanda chifundo palibe ubwenzi, ziribe kanthu kaya amakonda mnzanu kapena bwenzi). Koma iye amamuwona mwa iye basi bwenzi, osati munthu. Chifukwa chaubwenzi, osati kukumbatirana mwachikondi kwa wokonda. Ndipo patapita nthaŵi, ubwenzi wapatali, mwayi wochepa umene mkazi angamuwone mwamuna ndi chibwenzi chake, akatswiri a zamaganizo amati. Ndipotu palibe chinthu chachilendo, chifukwa nthawi zina timachita zinthu zopanda pake, tithamangira m'manja mwa munthu yemwe sadziwa bwino.
Koma amuna akukonzekera mosiyana. Ngakhale atakhala abwenzi ndi mayiyo, zoposa chaka chimodzi, amamuwona mkazi. Ngakhale ngodya ya diso. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwo ali mtulo ndikuwona momwe angamugwiritsire iye kugona. Ayi, ndithudi. Koma musakane kuti nthawi zina, kugonana ndi chibwenzi ndi kotheka. Kukhumudwa chifukwa cha izi kwa anthu ndi zopusa - kotero zimakonzedweratu, mungachite chiyani. Ndikofunikira kuti muvomereze izi monga momwe mukuperekera ndikuyesera kuti musapatse mnzanu chifukwa chochepa cha chitukuko, motero, za chikhalidwe chake. Izi ndizo, musamayende naye yekha ku sauna, musamangobvala zovala zake zatsopano zomwe zili pafupi ndi mphuno zake, ndi zina zotero. Pambuyo pake, pali zolakwika zochepa pa mbali yanu, ndipo angaganize kuti simukumbukira kuti ubale wanu sunali wa platonic chabe. Ndipo, malinga ndi akatswiri, ngati izi zichitika, abwenzi amayamba kudandaula. Chifukwa si zachilendo kwa ubale wakale kubwezeretsedwa pambuyo pathu, ndipo ndi kovuta kumanga zatsopano. Chifukwa chake, akazi, samalani!
ZONSE ZONSE ZIDZAKUTHANDIZE ZINTHU
Izi ndi nzeru za anthu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndithudi padzakhala mutu wina yemwe adzayang'ana pa ubwenzi wanu mosakayikira. Konzekerani izi. Khalani okonzekera kuti, mutatuluka pakhomo ndi mnzanu, mumakhala ndi vuto lakumva kumbuyo kwa oyandikana nawo akunong'onezana ndi anansi awo: "Chabwino, muyenera, pamene mwamuna ali kuntchito, akusangalala." Muyenera kuvomerezedwa ndikuyesera kuti musawamvere. Simungauze aliyense wodandaula kuti afotokoze ndikutsimikizira kuti ndiwe mabwenzi chabe, ndipo palibe china. Ndizochititsa manyazi, komabe iwo sangakhulupirire. Ndipo ngati simukumva ndi miseche, yesetsani kuti musawapatse chifukwa - mukumane ndi mnzawo kwinakwake pambali yosalekerera, kutali ndi maonekedwe a msuweni wa mnzako. Malangizo omwewo adzakhala othandiza kwa amai omwe amuna awo ali ndi nsanje kwambiri ndi abwenzi awo ndipo nthawi zonse amalepheretsa ubwenzi wawo.
Bwenzi LABWINO - NDANI?
Nthawi zambiri wokwatirana ndi nsanje chifukwa samangomvetsa zomwe theka lake lingakhale lofanana ndi "mtundu wina wa mtundu". Kotero, amuna okondedwa, izi sizili kugonana konse, koma zosiyana kwambiri.
Kawirikawiri, amai amasankha kukhala mabwenzi a anzanu akusukulu kapena anzanu akusukulu ochokera ku sukuluyi. Izi ndi zomveka, chifukwa ali ndi maulumikizano ambiri! Kukumbukira za zaka za sukulu, koleji "mbatata", maulendo ophatikizana, mafilimu, ndi zina. - ndicho chidziwitso cha ubwana ndi unyamata. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti "kukwapula" kukhale paubwenzi. "Ine ndi Nikolai ndife mabwenzi a kalasi yoyamba," akutero Olga. - Nthawi ina adandikonda ine, koma kenako adadutsa, ndipo ubwenzi unatsala. Tonse timakambirana. Ndinayamba kumuuza mwamuna wanga wamtsogolo, ndipo iye kwa ine - ndi mkazi wake wam'tsogolo. Tinkalingalira malingaliro a wina ndi mzake kukhala omveka, choncho tinaganiza zokonzekera "kuyang'anira" tisanathamangire mmoyo wa banja. Poyamba tinayamba kukhala achisoni, koma tinkakhala chete, podziwa kuti palibe kugonana pakati pathu komanso sikununkhiza. "
Anzanu angakhalenso mabwenzi abwino. Amagwiritsanso ntchito zofanana, kuphatikizapo akatswiri.
Ubwenzi wolimba nthawi zina umayamba mu "chikondi" kale. Mwachitsanzo, omwe kale anali okonda kapena okwatirana (ngati, ndithudi, iwo analekana popanda kunyozedwa ndi kuchititsidwa manyazi, koma anali atakula kwambiri). Mwa awiriwa awiri chikondi cha chikondi chinachoka, chilakolako chinadutsa, koma mu moyo panali ubale weniweni wina ndi mzake. Kaŵirikaŵiri pamatumba awa omwe mabwenzi amphamvu amapangidwa. Ndipo ngakhale anthu atakwatirana, nthawi zambiri amacheza ndi anzawo omwe kale anali nawo. Ndipo zimachitika kuti iwo ndi abwenzi a mabanja.
Inde, kuchokera kumbali ya mwamuna wake, njira yokha yovomerezeka ya chibwenzi-chachimuna ndi mwamuna ngati bwenzi la mkaziyo ndi amasiye. Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amayamba kukhala mabwenzi abwino kwa mkazi: vuto la kugonana limatha, ndi ubwino wonse wa ubwenzi "wothira". Koma pambuyo poti amuna ndi akazi onse simungadandaule, amuna omwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chachikhalidwe komabe ndizowonjezera (mwayi kwa amayi!). Choncho, mwamuna woyenera ayenera kugwirizanitsa ndikuzindikira kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi sangagwirizane ndi chilakolako chogonana. Palinso ubale, ndipo wakhazikitsidwa, monga momwe tawonera, kwathunthu pazinthu zina.
KUYENERA KWA MKAZI
Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akukuchitirani nsanje mwamuna wamwamuna, gwiritsani ntchito malangizo a akatswiri a maganizo:
• Kawiri kawiri mutamande mwamuna wanu, kumuuza momwe aliri wokongola, wanzeru, wokondedwa ndi zina zotero. Ndiponsotu, nsanje nthawi zambiri zimachokera ku zovuta. Ndipo ziri mu mphamvu yanu kulimbikitsa wokondedwa wanu kuti iye ndi munthu wapadera kwambiri ndipo simukuganiza kuti mukuganiza kuti wina akhoza kukhala m'malo mwake;
• Musamayambe mwamunayo mwamuna wanu ndi mnzanu: "O, simundikonda! Chabwino, ndiye ndipita ku Pasha. Iye amandikonda kwambiri! "Mukamachita zimenezi, mumangom'kwiyitsa kwambiri, ndipo adzachita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti asokoneze ubwenzi wanu;
• Yesetsani kufalikira pamaso pa mwamuna wanu mochepa ponena za bwenzi lapamtima lomwe muli nalo komanso momwe amakufotokozerani. Amuna samakonda pamene mkazi wawo amalemekeza amuna ena;
• Musatenge bwenzi lanu kuti likhale bwenzi la banja lanu. Nthawi zambiri izi sizingatheke. Ndikokwanira kuti mwamuna amadziwa kuti muli ndi bwenzi lamwamuna ndipo nthawi zonse mumakhala naye nthawi.