Mikangano yokhudza kukhala ndi ubale pakati pa amai, ndi nthawi yaitali. Pakatikati pa zaka za XVII, akatswiri onse a filosofi a ku France adatengedwa ndi kukambirana za "nkhani ya amai". Asayansi atsimikiza kuti akazi sizinali zachilendo kwa anthu ndipo angakhalenso mabwenzi. Komabe, malingaliro a "akatswiri" omwewo, si amayi onse omwe angathe kuchita izi: wina ali ndi malingaliro, wina ali ndi maphunziro, wina sangathe kumuwona wotsutsana naye, ndipo wina akuganiza Ubwenzi ndi wosangalatsa. Ponena za izi, Laroshfuko analemba kuti: "Akazi alibe chidwi ndi anzawo, ndipo amawoneka ngati atsopano poyerekeza ndi chikondi." "Wuyi, ui," anadandaula amuna a ku France akuvomereza ndipo, atakondwera nawo kwambiri, anapita kukapha anzawo abwino kwambiri, kuwalembera madandaulo ndikuwaika m'zinthu za ngongole.
ANTHU AMAFUNIKA
Nthano ya ubale monga ubale weniweni wamwamuna wapitirira masiku athu osasinthika. Monga chitsimikizo chachikulu cha "zachilendo" cha ubale waakazi, akuti kudalirika kwa abwenzi aakazi kuti akhalebe odzipereka pokhapokha ngati munthu akuoneka. Nenani, kenako kugonana kwabwino kumayamba kukwera pa bulangeti, ndipo pamodzi ndi iye, ndikukakumbatira pa ngodya ya mnyamata wobisala. Kenako amaiwala za mavuto omwe akumana nawo, kugula limodzi, ndi zina zotero.
Komabe, mfundoyi ndi yophweka kukana. Choyamba, kugula, kusonkhanitsa kukhitchini ndi kukambirana za zochitika zina zomwe sizikumana ndi inu sikukutanthauza kuti ndiyanjana. Akazi akhoza kukhala mabwenzi, mabwenzi, ndipo amayamba kukhala mabwenzi atangomvera mayesero ndi mafani, ndalama, ndi zina zotero. Chachiwiri, amuna amakhalanso okondana komanso adani, kukondana ndi mkazi yemweyo. Ndipo zimachitika kuti zifukwa zomwezo zimayambitsa zifukwa zowonjezereka, mwachitsanzo, mpikisano mu bizinesi, etc. Chachitatu, kumenya nkhondo kwa amayi nthawi zina kumakhala kowawa, chifukwa kugonana kofooka n'kovuta kuposa munthu wamphamvu kuti akhale ndi bwenzi lomanga nalo banja. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti msungwanayo nthawi yomweyo akukhala adani, pomwepo akuwona kuti mwamunayo amamukonda. Pali zifukwa zambiri za chikondi chodzikonda, monga kukhudzidwa mwachibadwa pakati pa abwenzi (tidzakambirana za izi mtsogolo).
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti ubwenzi wapamtima umayesedwa, ngati "nthawi" za anthu zimayamba kuposa "kugonana". Koma izi ndizo zomwe abambo amavomereza, choncho izi ndizo kuti ubale wamwamuna ndi wosiyana ndi wamwamuna.
SISTERS OF MERCY
Ubwenzi wa azimayi pakati pa oimira agonana ofooka nthawi zambiri umasandulika kukhala mgwirizano weniweni. Mnzanu wapamtima amakonzekeretsa phwando laukwati, akulumikiza kuchipatala chakumayi, akukhala ndi mwana wako (ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala "mayi wachiwiri", makamaka ngati alibe ana ake), amatenga paka yanu m'nyengo yachilimwe. Mwinamwake, maubwenzi amenewa ndi ena chifukwa cha zochitika zakale. Kwa zaka mazana ambiri anthu ankakhala m'mabanja akuluakulu, pamene theka lachikazi limodzi ankachita ntchito zapakhomo, analerera ana, ndi zina zotero. Atapezeka kuti ali pachikhalidwe chatsopano, pamene "banja" nthawi zambiri limatanthawuza mwamuna kapena amayi okha, mkaziyo mosadziwa amayesa kukulitsa bwalo la achibale pogulitsa alendo . Ubale woterewu umapatsa amayi madandaulo ofunika kuthandizana, chitetezo, ndi mwayi wogawana udindo wawo, malingaliro ndi zochita zawo. Ndi chinthu chimodzi choti tizinena kuti: "Ndikufuna kukonzanso mnyumbamo" - ndi zina: "Tikufuna ...". Mgulu uwu "ife" umalimbikitsa chidaliro ndikupanga lingaliro la kudzilungamitsa.
Zoona, ubwenzi wa alongo uli ndi vuto lina lalikulu, lomwe nthawi zambiri limakhala lopambanitsa. Ndi angati amayi omwe amakana mwayi wokonza moyo wawo wokondedwa wawo! "Sindidzakumana naye, chifukwa Lenochka nayenso ali ngati iye ..." "Musamamulekerere bwenzi lanu ndi mavuto anu, akusowa thandizo pakalipano ..." "Vera ndi nyenyezi, msiyeni iye avale chovala ichi, ndipo Ine ndikutha kupita mu chinthu chosavuta ... "Ndipo tsopano palibe wina ali yekha ndi wokondedwa kapena ndi banja. Tiyenera kuitanira bwenzi, chifukwa ali yekha tsopano
Ubwenzi woterewu ukufanana ndi chiyanjano, "gulu lotsekedwa", kumene olowa kunja akulamulidwa. Uwu ndiwo mphamvu ndi zofooka zake panthawi yomweyo. Anzake aakazi amayamba kukhala oyandikana kwambiri ndi wina ndi mzake, koma maonekedwe a "membala wina" wa zofuna zawo ndi zolinga zawo nthawi zambiri amawoneka ndi ena ngati kusakhulupirika. Choncho, ngati mumakonda kugwirizana ndi alongo, kuyambira pachiyambi kumbukirani kuti aliyense wa inu ali ndi ufulu wochuluka. Sikofunikira kuchita zonse mwamtheradi pamoyo uno. Chinachake chingachitike kaya chokha kapena kukhala ndi anthu ena. Izi sizikutengera mnzanu wokondedwa.
KODI MZIMU WOTANI NDANI?
Nthawi zina amai amasonkhana pamodzi kuti athetse mavuto onse. Mu ubale wotere muli zoperewera zoperewera ndi chikondi chaubale, koma zinthu zina zogwirizana, zomwe zimapangitsa mgwirizanowu kukhala wopindulitsa. Sitikutanthauza maubwenzi enieni kuti apulumutsidwe kuchokera kwa ogwira ntchito osayenera. Tikukamba za mgwirizano wochuluka kapena wosachepera, womwe ungagawidwe mu mitundu itatu.
■ Kukongola ndi Chirombo. Pamsonkhano wotero, msungwana mmodzi amakhala ndi maonekedwe okongola, ndipo winayo amamuveka bwino. Chotsatira chake, choyamba chimalandira chikhulupiliro chokhazikika kwa munthu mnzake ndi chidwi cha amuna, ndipo chachiwiri - mwayi wochita nawo zamasewero. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, "akugwa" abwenzi, omwe mnzawo adamkana.
■ Wokongola ndi Wokongola-wani-wopusa. Ngati sichifukwa cha mgwirizanowu, amuna oyambirira adzaonedwa kuti ndi operewera, ndipo chachiwiri - wopusa chabe. Mwa kuyanjanitsa khama lawo, iwo amatha kukhala okonzeka kukulumikizana kwa nzeru ndi chithumwa, chikazi ndi ulaliki.
■ Mimbulu ndi Mouse. Pakati paziwirizi, mkazi mmodzi amachitira zinthu mwaukali komanso mopweteka, ndipo yachiwiri - mwamtendere komanso mopanda kuzindikira. Mngelo wamphongo amafuula, ndipo Mouse imayambitsa njira yowonongeka, imathetsa mikangano yomwe imayambira panjira.
Ubwenzi pa "chiyanjano" mfundo ndi zovuta kwambiri kuposa mlongo. Ndipotu, pamene chibwenzicho chikutsogoleredwa ndi cholinga chimodzi, iwo amayimilira pakhoma. Koma mwamsanga pamene mavuto a maganizo a mmodzi wa iwo ayamba kuthetsedwa, chiwerengero cha awiriwa chiphwanyidwa, ndipo mgwirizanowu, monga lamulo, umatsutsana. Komabe, ngati wina akumvetsetsa ubale pansi pa ubale wa wina ndi mzake panthawi yovuta, ndiye kuti ubalewu ndiwodalirika.
AKHILLESOV Pyat
Akazi akhoza kukhala mabwenzi osati zaka ndi zaka zokha, kukhalabe mabwenzi apamtima komanso ukalamba. Ndipo akatswiri a zamaganizo apeza kuti ubwenzi ndi nthawi yaitali kwambiri, yomwe inabadwa mwachinyamata wachikondi: kusukulu, pasukulu ... Koma anthu okalamba sagwirizana ndi ena. Mwachiwonekere, iwo amakhala osakhulupirika kwambiri ndi otsutsa. Komabe, pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zingawononge ngakhale ubwenzi wamphamvu kwambiri. Muyenera kudziwa za iwo kuti muwone ngozi panthawi yomwe ikupezeka panjira yanu. Kotero, ndi chiyanjano chotani muubwenzi wa chikazi chomwe chiri chofunikira kuonetsetsa?
Choyamba, mpikisano. Ngati mwalangiza mwansangala chibwenzicho kuti asinthe fanolo, ndipo pamene adasintha zovalazo, adachita nsanje kapena kusangalala: "Ndine wofewa kwambiri!", Pazifukwa zabwino sizingakhale zabwino kwambiri. Mpikisano wathanzi wokhawokha womwe umakhala ngati mpikisano wokhazikika, sungatheke, pamene wopambana atenga kugwedeza kwache, akusangalala ndi kupambana kwake. Koma chilakolako chofuna kumenyana ndi mwamuna wa mnzanu sizitsutsana, koma chilakolako chodziwonetsera nokhumudwitsa mnzanu. Izi sizikugwirizana ndi ubwenzi.
Chachiwiri, mayeserowa ndi "ruble". Si "chinsinsi chakuti ndalama zingawononge ubale wodalirika." Ngati mumayamikira ubwenzi, musamadzitamande ndi mnzanu kuti mupeze zambiri (ndipo musachite nsanje mukakhala ochepa) Kumbukirani: ndalama ndi zofunika koma osati mbali yaikulu ya moyo wathu Aloleni iwo asakhale mapeto mwa iwoeni, koma njira yodziwira zolakalaka zawo ndi zikhumbo zawo zapafupi, kuphatikizapo abwenzi.
Chachitatu, kuvomereza ku "gulu la amai" lanu la mamembala atsopano. Mutha kuitanitsa abwenzi onse patebulo lomwelo, koma musapange bwenzi lanu lapamtima kukhala bwenzi lanu lapamtima ndi ena onse. Asayansi a ku America, kuphunzira moona mtima zochitika za "kugonana ndi mzindawo," anafika pamapeto osadziwika - ubwenzi wa anzanu anayi ndi atatu ndi waufupi: kamodzi kamodzi kamangotsala pang'ono kukhala awiriawiri, ndipo katatu amatsutsana ndikupeza mgwirizano. Izi ndizo zowonjezera muubwenzi wa "gulu" lachikazi - nthano kapena zowona ndizo zowonjezereka zingathe kufotokozedwa ndi njira zothandiza.