Chikondi ndi Sayansi
Kwa zaka zambiri, asayansi a padziko lapansi akhala akuyesera kuti adziwe zomwe zimapangitsa akazi kugwirizana ndi amuna komanso mosiyana. Pali zifukwa zochepa, ndizochepa ndipo tonse timadziwa. Amuna mwachibadwa amakonda kukonda ndi maso awo, ndi amayi - ndi makutu awo. Sikuti ndi mawu okha - amatsimikiziridwa ndi sayansi. Komabe, asayansi amanena kuti timayamba kukonda osati chifukwa cha chikoka chokhalitsa, koma pafunika. Ife tikudziwa mosamalitsa munthu yemwe athandiza kwambiri pakupitiriza mtundu wathu. Koma posachedwapa zinthu zatsopano zodabwitsa zinafalitsidwa. Asayansi asonyeza kuti chikondi chilipo!
Akatswiri a zamaganizo a ku America chifukwa cha kafufuzidwe zatsimikiziridwa kuti ubongo wathu uli ndi magawo osiyanasiyana omwe amachititsa zokondana za chikondi. Ndipo pamene wokondedwa amalingalira za ife, amationa ife, amayankhula, madera awa amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri. Komanso, madera amenewa "amavala" ntchito za malo ena ofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, gawoli likuyendetsa kumvetsetsa kosavuta kwenikweni, kulingalira kwa anthu ndi mkwiyo. Kotero, ngati wokondedwa wanu akuyenda ndi kumwetulira kwa nkhope yake nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti samapenga, amakukondani kwenikweni. Pano pano?
Chikondi ndi chikumbumtima
Palibe amene akufuna kukhulupirira kuti timakondedwa kokha chifukwa cha pheromone. Koma izi ndi zoona. Izi ndi zinthu zomwe zimapangidwa pamodzi ndi kumasulidwa kwa thukuta komanso msinkhu wosakondweretsa wokonda kugonana. Pheromones amachita mosasamala, sitingathe kufotokoza nthawi zonse za "ntchito" yawo. Ndicho chifukwa chake atsikana "abwino" nthawi zina amasankha "oipa" anyamata, kapena kusakondana kunjako kukondana ndi zokongola, ndipo nthawi yomweyo maganizo awo ndi amodzi. Nthawi zambiri timafotokoza chiyanjano ichi cha anthu mosiyanirana mwa njira yawo: kutsutsana kumakopa. Izi siziri zolondola kwenikweni, koma zotsatira zake ziri zofanana ndi choonadi. Anthu awiri omwe ali ndi maganizo amodzi akhoza kusokonezeka pamodzi. Pa chifukwa ichi, mikangano ingabwere nthawi zambiri. Ndipo komabe, ngati anthu awiri ali ndi khalidwe lofanana, ndiye kuti sizovuta kukhala nawo m'banja. Ngati onse ali othawa, ndiye kuti palibe amene angasankhe, zinthu zimangokhala zosasinthika, mavuto amatha ngati snowball. Ngati onse awiriwa ndi atsogoleri, ndiye kuti sizingakhale zovuta. Aliyense amayesetsa kutsogoleredwa, sangathe kuthetsa nkhani, sangalekerere kusamvera.
Nthawi zina mukhoza kuchotsa mafunsowa, bwerani ndikufunseni wokondedwa wanu chifukwa chake amakukondani. Koma yankho sikokwanira kwa ife. Mwinamwake, mnzanuyo ayamba kulemba zizindikiro zina za umunthu. Mwachitsanzo, chibwenzi chanu chinganene kuti: "Ndiwe wokongola kwambiri, wosangalala, osati ngati wina aliyense, ndi zina zotero". Mwamuna wachikulire, ngati chinachake chikuganiza kuti anene, ndiye ngati: "Mukusamala, mwachikondi, chikondi, choyambirira, ndi zina zotero". Zindikirani kuti izi zidzakhala "kachitidwe" kawirikawiri ka makhalidwe omwe amakopera amuna kwa amayi, ndi akazi kwa amuna.
Nthawi zina yankho lotero lidzawoneka ngati chithunzi choposa chimodzi chokha. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, pa msinkhu wosadziwika, timakondedwa chifukwa chosiyana. Mwachitsanzo, mtsikana mwadzidzidzi adagwidwa ndi mwamuna wake zaka ziwiri. Nchifukwa chiani ichi chinachitika? Iye akhoza kukhala chinthu chabwino, koma zonse zinali chifukwa chakuti msungwanayo anakulira wopanda bambo ndipo mosadziwa anafunafuna munthu yemwe angakhoze kumuthandiza, chitetezo chomwe chidzamubweretse iye chifukwa cha moyo wake waukulu. Pachifukwa china, mwina bambo a mtsikanayo anali, koma ubale wake sunawonjezerepo. Izi zimakhudza mtsogolo kusankha wosakwatirana kuposa iyeyo.
Zikuchitika kuti munthu poyamba amayamba kuvutika ndikudzichitira chifundo. Amasankha wokonda chiwerewere yemwe amamuchititsa manyazi nthawi zonse ndikumuletsa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake mitundu ina ya amayi ikhoza kulekerera kukwapulidwa ndi kunyenga kwa mwamuna mwamphamvu, kapena mwamuna akhoza kusankha amayi omwe ali amphamvu ndi odzikonda, kenako "pansi pa zidendene zawo". Pa nthawi yomweyi, onse amakondana kwambiri.
Chikondi ndi "ndondomeko yaumodzi"
Monga mwana, ife tonse mwachifaniziro tinaimira gawo lathu lachiwiri. Komanso, nthawi zina, kutseka maso athu, tawona kale momwe amatikondera, momwe amatiyang'anira, onani mwatsatanetsatane ukwati wawo wokongola, tikulota kubadwa kwa ana. Amakhulupirira kuti ndi amayi omwe akhala akutha msinkhu kuti apange chitsanzo chabwino (chabwino) chabwino cha moyo wawo wachikulire, m'tsogolomu ndi moyo wamtundu umenewo. Zimatsimikiziridwa kuti chikondi chikhoza kulingalira. Timadzilimbikitsanso ndi tsogolo lathu labwino lomwe tayandikira kwa ife zaka zambiri. Zoonadi, nthawi zina mfundo sizigwirizana, koma zomwezo sizikhala zosasintha. Akazi oterewa amakhala okondwa nthawi zonse, m'mabanja oterewa, okondana amakondana.
Izi zimachitika ndipo kotero, mwachitsanzo, pamene msungwana wonse moyo wake walota kukumana ndi munthu wachuma yemwe, mwachikondi, amamuyamwa ndi mphatso zamtengo wapatali, zovala zodzikongoletsera, kupita naye paulendo wapadziko lonse. Atakula, amakumana ndi munthu wotere panjira. Iye ndi woyenera, wamalonda ndipo osati wonyada konse. Kotero, iye adzagwera mu chikondi kwenikweni. Zidziwe kale zomwe zingakhale zopindulitsa kwambiri kwa msungwana wotero. Komabe, simusowa kumutsutsa mwamsangamsanga. Monga mwamuna adzamukonda mwaukali, moona. Chifukwa icho ndi mphamvu ya kudzidodometsa kwake. Zoona, ngati sizinali zachuma, sakanangobwera kwa iye "muyezo wa ana." Munthu wotere sakanakhala wanzeru, wolimba mtima ndi womvetsera, chifukwa sangakhale ndi khalidwe lapachiyambi.
Nthawi zambiri timati: "Chikondi ndi choipa ...". Komabe, chikondi sichinthu chosamveka ngati zikuwoneka - anthu amakondana pa chifukwa. Chilichonse chingathe, ngati chikukhumba, chipeze tsatanetsatane. Zoona, bwanji? Ndi bwino kukonda popanda kuyang'ana kumbuyo komanso ndi mtima wotseguka.