Chifukwa chomwe akazi akufuna kukwatira
Kulimbikitsa maubwenzi. Nthawi zina amai amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana kuti asunge wokondedwa wawo. Ndiwo ukwati umakulolani "kumangiriza" manja ndi mapazi a munthu ndikupatsani mpata wokonzanso maubwenzi.
Maukwati osamala. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu amakhala pamodzi zaka zambiri, koma musalole kuti chiyanjano chawo chikhale chovomerezeka. Pambuyo pake, mwamuna ndi mkazi amavomereza mgwirizano wawo, pamene iwo amatsogoleredwa ndi malingaliro awo, ndipo samachita mogwirizana ndi chifuniro cha masautso.
Musagone kuseri kwa abwenzi anu abwenzi! Izi zimachitika kuti akazi akufuna kukwatira, chifukwa amalingalira motere: "Anzanga onse ndi amzanga adakwatirana kale! Kuposa momwe ine ndiriri woipitsitsa? "Chotero kulingalira sikumadzipangitsa kudzidalira kwenikweni. Kwa iwo, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala ndi anzako (mu sukulu omwe anali kuthamanga sukulu, ku Institute - kuti azisamalira amuna), kuti asakhale "mtsikana wachikulire", ndipo funso la yemwe adzakhala mkazake sikofunika kwambiri.
Ndipo tiyeni tiyese? Kawirikawiri, ndi njira iyi yopangidwira banja, kuthekera kwa kusudzulana ndizosapeweka. Ndipotu, okwatirana okha sadziwa zomwe akufunikira.
Ukwati monga ndondomeko ya nthawi zonse m'moyo. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika - kumapeto kwa Instituteyo mtsikana amadziwa kuti ayenera kukwatiwa. Ndipo mwamuna ayenera kukhala chimodzimodzi monga momwe anafotokozera mu dongosolo. Mkwatibwi woterewu ndi wobadwa mwa iwo momveka bwino, motsatira ndondomeko yokwaniritsidwa ya atsikana. Zonse sizidzakhala kanthu, koma wokondedwa yekhayo sanafunsidwe maganizo ake pa ndondomekoyo. Choncho, chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwina, ukwati ukhoza kusokonekera.
Ndi nthawi yokwatira. Msungwanayo akudzidzimutsa kuti ndi nthawi yake. Pankhaniyi, mtsikana akhoza kumaliza sukulu kapena mofulumira posachedwa kukondwerera tsiku la makumi atatu. Chisankho sichikulamulidwa ndi zaka. Tanthauzo la ukwati ndilo, monga msonkho kwa miyambo, ngati chilolezo kwa amayi anga ndi abambo, potsiriza, kukhala ndi banja. Atsikana oterewa amagwiritsa ntchito ufulu wawo.
Kukwatirana mosavuta. Zimakhulupirira kuti maukwati oterewa ndi omwe amapitirizabe. Ngakhale kuti ichi ndi chiwerengero chokwanira chaukwati, kufunafuna zofuna zake zokha (zakuthupi, maganizo).
Mwanayo. Akazi amayesera kukhala ndi ana, pokwatiwa, kukhala ndi ana alamulo. Chifukwa chake, pa nkhaniyi, amayi akufuna kukwatira ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwa chikhumbo chokhala ndi kusamalira ana awo, kumverera chithandizo chodalirika mwa mawonekedwe a banja.
Mu mitundu yonse ya maukwati, cholinga chokha ndi kukwatira, koma zolinga zomwe zimakakamiza ukwati ndizosiyana.
Kotero, ndi chofunika chotani kukwatira? Zikuwoneka kuti ngakhale pamtundu wa chibadwa, chibadwa cha kubereka ndi choyenera kukwaniritsa njira yopanga banja. Kotero izo zinali ndi dongosolo lamakono la communal, ndipo ndilo tsopano. Ndizodabwitsa kuti ukwati kwa mkazi nthawi zonse unali wovuta, unali wofunika kwambiri kuposa mwamuna. Mwachikhalidwe, kupeza udindo wa mkazi wokwatira kunamupangitsa kukhala wapamwamba kwambiri. Pachigawochi, amayi nthawi zonse ankaopa "kukhala ndi atsikana", popeza mphamvu ya tsankho "imayankha" m'malo awa ndipo apa akutsatira mwambowu.
Kawirikawiri, kukhala ndi moyo kwa nthawi yayitali, kutchedwa ukwati, kumapangitsa kuti ukwati ukhale wovomerezeka, ngakhale kuti wotereyo amawoneka kuti ndi abwino. Okonda ambiri pachiyambi amasankha kukhala limodzi kwa kanthawi, "kuyesa" kuwona mtima kwa malingaliro ndi kukondana wina ndi mzake m'moyo wawo wa tsiku ndi tsiku asanalembetse ubale wawo ndi ofesi yolembera. Nthawi zina ukwati wa boma umachedwetsedwa, ndipo achinyamata, osapezanso mfundo polembetsa ukwati, amakana kupanga mgwirizano popanda kulingalira za zotsatira zomwe zingatheke. Kodi izi ndi zolondola?
Zikuchitika kuti zina zomwe zilipo m'banja laling'ono sizingathetsedwe popanda kuthandizidwa ndi malamulo a pabanja omwe alipo. Pambuyo pake, ngati mkazi ali wokwatira, malo aliwonse ndi nkhani zina zotsutsana zingathetsedwe ndi lamulo. Banja liri ndi chinthu chimodzi chofanana: moyo, kuthetsa mavuto ndikugawana chimwemwe, kuthandizana komanso udindo wina, koma molingana ndi mau a Mulungu, banja ndi mgwirizano wapamtima wa miyoyo.