Ngati chizoloŵezi choyanjana ndi abwenzi ndi chinthu chabwino, chodalirika ndi champhamvu, ndiye kuti chibwenzi chachikazi sichivomerezedwa ndi ambiri. Komanso, amuna ndi akazi ena samakhulupirira kuti n'zosatheka.
Komabe, ilo lidalipobe, ngakhale izi sizitanthauza kuti ife timakonda kukhala ndi chiyanjano. Aliyense anganene kuti bwenzi silofanana ndi bwenzi, ndipo lidzakhala lolondola. Pambuyo pake, mwachitsanzo, mawu oti "kupanga anzanu" ndi "kupanga mabwenzi" ali ndi tanthauzo losiyana: loyamba ndi laling'ono, ndipo lachiwiri ndi losatha. Kotero bwenzi - kawirikawiri kwa kanthawi, ndi bwenzi - kwa moyo.
Koma yemwe ali wotsimikiza kuti msungwana, mkazi sangakhoze kukhala bwenzi, nayenso akulakwitsa. Mwinanso ngakhale zoona. Ngakhale kuti, sikuti aliyense ali, dziko lozungulira ndi lolimba komanso lovuta, pali mayesero ambiri, osakhazikika komanso okhumudwa chilengedwe. Chimene sichingamukhudze iye, chosasintha maganizo, khalidwe! Koma makamaka chikoka champhamvu chaposachedwa pa chirichonse ndiperekedwa ndi ndalama. Dziko lonse lapansi limakondwera ndi kufunafuna chuma, kukhala ndi ndalama zenizeni. Ndipo ichi ndicho chitsimikizo champhamvu kwambiri, chomwe chingagonjetse ochepa okha. Chilakolako chosasunthika cha chuma sichinasokoneze mabanja osapitilira chikwi, chiwonongeko osati chiyanjano chimodzi. Kodi ubale wa amai ndi ndalama zimakhala zotani?
Kodi mkazi wodziimira angakhale wotani? Zoonadi, kwenikweni kuchokera ku chirichonse kapena kuchokera kwa wina wodziimira? Kwazing'ono, ndithudi, angathe, ngati ali ndi ntchito yowirira kwambiri, galimoto yake, nyumba yake kapena nyumba. Koma izi ndi zinthu zomwe sizingalankhule, sizidzakhalitsa, sizidzalangiza. Ndipo moyo ndi wosadziwika ndipo nthawi zina umaluma mopanda chifundo, kusintha mapazi ndikuponyera zodabwitsa, kumapangitsa chisankho chosagwirizana. Ndipo ndikofunikira kuti pali wina yemwe ali pafupi amene amamvetsera ndi kumvetsetsa, kumvetsetsa ndi kulimbikitsa, kuthandizira ndi kufulumira! Mwamuna? Iye samvetsa nthawi zonse ndi kumvetsa zochitika za amai , iye akadali munthu. Amayi? Simungamuuze chilichonse, simungamukhumudwitse, ndipo akhoza kukhala kutali kwambiri kuti afike ndikulira. Pano mu nthawi zoterezi ndipo mumamvetsetsa kuti abwenzi azimayi - zomwe mukufunikira.
Iye ndi wamphamvu kwambiri, mwinamwake, pamene anzako aakazi atakula palimodzi, adziwana wina ndi mzake kuyambira ali mwana. Ubwenzi wotero, monga lamulo, palibe chowopsya - palibe kusiyana kwa ndalama, kapena kupatukana. Ndizodabwitsa bwanji, ngati moyo unakupatsani inu bwenzi lenileni lomwe limakudziwani, ngati iyemwini! Mzanga yemwe angakhoze kuyankhulidwa, osayika kanthu, osatenga mawu, kulira, kugawa, podziwa kuti adzakumverani, kumvetsa bwino, kupereka malangizo ndi chithandizo. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti sikuti aliyense ali ndi mwayi ...
Ndipotu, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zokhumudwitsa komanso zopanda pake: chimwemwe chimasokoneza maubwenzi, zinthu zakuthupi zimabweretsa pamwamba, zomwe simungathe kuziwona mnzanga wopambana. Kapena mosiyana - mnzanu wa dzulo anaiwala za inu, ndalama, maulendo ataliatali, zinthu zamtengo wapatali zomwe zinamveka mutu wake, zimamutenga ndi kutsekedwa mu khola la golidi. Ndipo ngakhale mutakhala mwadzidzidzi, sikuti aliyense adzatha kupempha thandizo la ndalama kuchokera kwa bwenzi. Monga si aliyense ali wokonzeka kuthandizira.
Kuwonjezera apo, ngati chiwonongeko cha atsikana omwe amatha kusudzulana pazochitika zosiyana, kunayesa kuyesa kaduka ndi kudzichepetsa, komanso, sungathe kupirira zonse. Kunyada kumaloleka kugwirizanitsa, kuti chibwenzicho chimachita bwino ndipo chimatha kulipira chirichonse, ndipo panthawiyi sichikugwirizana ndi malipiro. Zina, m'malo mwake, zimakonda kukhala abwenzi opindulitsa ndi osamba ndi mphatso, ndipo ndi zabwino ngati abwenziwa sakhala ndi kaduka.
Koma chithunzi chosaoneka bwino nthawi zambiri chimapezeka ndi ukwati wabwino wa bwenzi limodzi ndi udindo wa mayi mmodzi yekha. Ndikupatsa kwakukulu bwanji, chikondi ndi kukoma mtima, kumverera kochezeka ndi kofunika kuti mkazi asachite nsanje, osati kuti azifaniziranso maonekedwe ake ndi zofooka za bwenzi labwino! Monga momwe moyo umasonyezera, osati ndalama, koma kusiyana kumeneku ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu za kugwa kwa ubale pakati pa akazi. Zonse zomwe mungathe kukhululukira mnzanu, ndi chilichonse cholandira, kupatula banja lake losangalala.
Kotero pali, ubwenzi wachikazi, pali, ndithudi. Komanso zimakhala zokoma, zotentha, zokoma, koma zimakhala zochepa, zowonongeka, zodalira.