Malo osiyana, ndi ofunika kwambiri m'moyo wa munthu aliyense ndi kugonana. Kwa ena, kugonana ndikofunika kuposa chikondi. Kukwanitsa zinyama zanu zimayambira kuposa malingaliro aumunthu, kudumpha mbali zonse, kudutsa makhalidwe ndi malire onse. Kwa ena, kugonana ndi masewera, ndipo kwa ena, kugonana sikutanthawuza kanthu; chifukwa cha anthu otero, chikondi ndi chofunikira koposa kufunikira kwauzimu kwa munthu wina. Mutu wa kugonana ulipo mu nyimbo zonse, mafilimu, komanso ngakhale mabuku akugonjera kugonana. Kuyambira liti pamene kugonana kunakhala kofunika kwambiri kwa ife kuposa chikondi? Pambuyo pa zonse, anthu ambiri akudandaula za funso lakuti kugonana ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri mu chiyanjano. Nkhaniyi ikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa mutu wakuti " ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi - kugonana ."
Kumbukirani kuti kale anthu osalakwa okha akanatha kukwatira, ndikusowa chiyero asanalowe m'banja, ankaonedwa kuti ndi tchimo loipa, izi ndi zowonjezereka, koma m'mayiko achiarabu, kumene amatsatirabe miyambo imeneyi. Unamwali unali mbali yofunika kwambiri ya miyambo, yomwe idatsatiridwa ndikuyendetsedwa yopatulika. Ndipo asungwanawo, amanyalanyaza ulemu, adanyoza mzinda wonse, osati atsikana okha, koma banja lonse la mtsikanayo, sadakwatirane, ndipo amaonedwa kuti ndi osayenera komanso osayenera.
Makolo amachepetsa anthu okwatirana amtsogolo, akuvomereza pakati pawo za momwe angakhalire m'banja. Mawu ndi malingaliro a anawo samatanthauza kanthu. Icho chinali chiyanjano pakati pa makolo. Ndipo ine ndinaganiza, koma kodi izo zinali zolondola? Inde, ndimvetsetsa kuti izi ndi miyambo, ndipo saloledwa kuphwanya, ndi iwo omwe adaphwanya, ndikutsutsana ndi miyambo, adasanduka anthu osauka. Koma pambuyo pa zonse kuti tiyambe kukhala ndi munthuyo moyo wonse, osadziwa, ndani iyeyo ndi amene ambiri akuyimira, zinali zovuta. Mu nthawi yathu anthu, kukomana kwa zaka, kukwatira, akufika kumapeto kuti adalakwitsa kwakukulu. Ndipo pano anthu omwe sadziwana wina ndi mzake, osadziwika kwenikweni, ndi aang'ono kwambiri, akuyenera kukhala ochuluka momwe angathere achibale m'tsiku limodzi. Komanso, simukufunikira kuthamanga nokha ndi kusankha zabwino, chifukwa makolo amasankha zabwino, chifukwa makolo ndikuti satifuna kuti tiwadwale, ana awo okondedwa.
Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikutsogolera izi zonse? Inde, kugonana. Zonse zokhudzana ndi kugonana, banja lachichepere, lopangidwa chifukwa cha mwambo, usiku waukwati ndikumvetsetsa, komabe, angamvetsetse chiyani? Pambuyo pake, masiku amenewo sanadziwe chomwe chinali chiwonongeko! Kotero iwo anakhala moyo pambuyo pa usiku woyamba waukwati miyoyo yawo yonse, akukhulupirira kuti kugonana kumayenera kukhala monga chonchi. Mkazi wina wamwamuna wachisangalalo amamvetsetsa zokondweretsa za kugonana, kutenga gawo lake la chiwonongeko, ndipo ena amaganiza kuti ndi ntchito ina yaukwati, yaitali, yolemetsa, yotopetsa, ndi yosapatsa chisangalalo.
Ndipo kotero, pokhala mutagwidwa mu chipinda chimodzi, ndi ine, ndizokwatirana ndi akhungu, ndikofunikira kuti mwanjira inayake mukakhale ndi munthu yemwe adakhala ndi inu mwinamwake osakhala ndi ufulu wake wosankha. Mwinamwake iye, monga iye, ankakonda munthu wosiyana kwambiri. Choncho amaphunzira kupereka wina ndi mzake, kumvetsetsana, ndipo chikondi chimabadwa. Sizongopanda kanthu zomwe akunena kuti chikondi poyang'ana poyamba chikukula mofulumira kuposa chikondi chimene chakhala chikulimbidwa kwa zaka zambiri, palibe chomwe chingachiwononge icho, ngakhale kusakhutira ndi kugonana. Ndipotu, kwa anthu oterowo, osati zosangalatsa za kugonana, koma zosangalatsa za ubale wapamtima.
Ndipo mu dziko lamakono, chirichonse chiri chosiyana, ngati palibe kugonana musanakwatirane, ndiye pambuyo pa chikwati chikhoza kukhala chokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Tonsefe, tikhoza kunena kuchokera pa kubadwa, timadziwa kuti kugonana ndi chiyani, chifukwa zonse zofalitsa zinkasokoneza mutu wa kugonana. Phatikizani MTV kapena MuzTV, "kugonana ndi Tequila", "nkhondo ya kugonana", "kugonana ndi Anfisa Chekhova," "nyanja", komanso ngakhale mafilimu, ndimatha kukhala chete, chifukwa pafupifupi mafilimu onse ali ndi zithunzi zogonana. Chabwino, ndiye akufunsa komwe wotsogolera woyamba akudziwa kumene ana achokera! Inde, osati bambo ndi Amayi adanena, koma Adadi pa MuzTV.
Kawirikawiri, ife timakhulupirira kuti timayamba kudziwa zonse zokhudza kugonana kuchokera m'kalasi yoyamba. Ndipo, ndithudi, ziyembekezero zathu ziyenera kulumikizana ndi zenizeni, zomwe sizikuchitika m'moyo. Ndipo kusamvetsetsa ziyembekezo zathu zogonana ndi mwamuna wake wokondedwa kumabweretsa mavuto ambiri, ndipo kenako kuzindikira kwathu kuyembekezera kumbaliyi kumayamba. Nkhanza, kukangana, mkwiyo, zomwe zisanachitike kusudzulana zili pafupi, pafupi kwambiri. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mungapeze njira yothetsera vuto lililonse limene lakhalapo pamtunda wa tsiku ndi tsiku wokhala pamodzi, koma kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika pabedi.
Mwinamwake, mkazi aliyense amavomereza ndi ine kuti mwamuna aliyense ali ndi vuto, mosiyana ndi mkazi, chifukwa thupi lathu ndi lovuta kwambiri kuposa iwo, ndipo kotero nthawi zonse sitiyenera kukhala mosavuta. Ndipo amuna ayamba kusintha chifukwa amadziwa kuti palibe zosiyana, ndipo ndife OTHANDIZA kusintha, chifukwa sitingasangalale nawo, ndiko kuti, ndi mwamuna. Ndani ali ndi mlandu wa izi? Kodi ndife ochimwa chifukwa thupi lathu ndi lovuta? Ndipo iwo, inu mukuona, alibe kusiyana ndi zatsopano! Mlingaliro langa, izi ndi zolakwika ndipo si zabwino. Ndipo mwinamwake ndine wodzichepetsa kwambiri?
Ndipo, chifukwa chake, ndikukhulupirira kuti tiyenera kudziwa yemwe timakwatirana naye, ndi amene tidzamugawanitsa ndi pastel, ndi momwe tidzasangalalira ndi moyo wathu wamtsogolo. Ndimakhulupirira kuti kugonana musanalowe m'banja ndi njira yolondola yokwatira, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti tiyenela kugona ndi aliyense kuti tipeze yemwe tidzakondwera naye. Ndipo ngati mwana wanu akukula, simusowa kuti mulowetse chilakolako chake chogonana, makamaka ngati chibwenzicho ndi chachikulu, tiuzeni za kulera ndi momwe mungadzitetezere, ndipo zotsatira zake zingakhale bwanji ngati sizikutetezedwa. Ndipo simukuyenera kutsimikizira kuti muyenera kukwatira wosalakwa, si choncho.
Komabe, kumayambiriro kuti ayambe kugonana ndizowononga, koma kale ndi thanzi. Ziwalo zoberekera zikhoza kukhala zolakwika, kapena zikhoza kukhala zofooka, ndipo mavairasi osiyanasiyana angatengeke, owopsa kwambiri ndi Edzi ndi HIV, zomwe ziri zovuta kapena zosamalidwa konse, malingana ndi siteji ya chitukuko, ndipo matendawa angayambitse zotsatira , kotero chisamalirani banja komanso nokha.
Ndipo kuyambira liti anthufe timakhala zinyama zomwe zimatsatira chikhalidwe chawo? Mwa njira, zinyama, zinyama zimagonana, kokha pakuwonekera kwa ana, ndiko kuti, zidzakhala zolondola kunena, zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa umuna, komanso kuti zisakhutire kukhumba kwawo. Nkhumba zokha, chimpanzi ndi anthu - akugonana pofuna kukondweretsa anthu onse omwe alipo padziko lapansi. Koma izo zikutembenuka, moona, mu chitukuko anthu sakhala atachoka ku chimpanzi.
Zimakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi chionetsero cha chikondi, koma nanga bwanji za kugonana ndi mlendo amene mudakumana naye pamutu woledzera? Kodi izi zikhoza kuwonedwa ngati chiwonetsero cha chikondi? Ndipo komabe, zonsezi zimachitika pa msinkhu wa nyama, chifukwa zinyama zilibe makhalidwe abwino. Nthawi zina, ngakhale awiri omwe sagwirizana ndi mwezi woyamba, mumasowa nthawi yokonzekera kugonana, ndipo apa ndi yoyamba. Apa zikuyenera kuti zidziwikiratu ndi kusowa kwa makhalidwe abwino ndi mfundo.
Ndipo potsiriza ine ndikufuna kuti ndinene kuti kwa wina kugonana ndi kofunika, koma kwa winawake osati. Kugonana ndi gawo la njira ya moyo wathu, kugonana, koma musapitirire, chifukwa muzonse muyenera kupeza golide.