Pa chifukwa chake anthu amagonana, osakhala ndi malingaliro opitilira mtundu, amalembedwa zambiri. Mwa izi, ndife odziwika bwino kuti cholinga chachikulu cha ubale wapamtima ndicho kusamalira thanzi labwino komanso labwino. Koma, zikutanthawuza, kugonana, tidakali - mwadzidzidzi - kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo. Motani? Inde, m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Zonse zimadalira momwe mumagonana, kodi mumakonda bwanji?
ZIMENE MUNTHU AMACHITA
Izi zifukwa zina zimaganiziridwa ngati zachikale kapena, osati, zoyambirira. Otsogolera mafilimu okonda zachiwerewere, mulimonsemo, samakonda kwambiri. Okonda kanema pazifukwa zina amakonda kukhala ndi chilakolako mwa njira zowonjezereka: akuyimirira pamphepete mwa thanthwe lamtunda, akukhala mu galimoto yothamanga pamtunda wothamanga kapena pena padziwe (njira ina ili padeskero). N'zachidziwikire kuti pambuyo pochita zachiwerewere, anthu okwatirana komanso kugonana pachikhalidwe "moyang'anizana ndi maso" zingawoneke kuti n'zosasangalatsa komanso zonyansa. Komabe, izi ndizozimene zimapangitsa mwamuna ndi mkazi kusamvana maganizo: mwa kuwonetsa maso, nkhope, kumapangitsa kuti chikondicho chikhale chowunika komanso chachibadwa. Izi, makamaka, ndizoyandikira kwa anthu ndi nyama. Popeza zochitika zowonongeka zakukhumudwitsani ndizosagwiritsidwa ntchito, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kulenga ana.
Ngati mumakonda mwambo umenewu kwa ena - awiri anu amawoneka kuti ali okhazikika ndi ogwirizana. Monga lamulo, nthawi ya misala ndi chikondi chachiwawa zinali kale kale, ndipo zilakolako za ku Africa zinalowetsedwa ndi chidaliro chokhazikika, chikondi ndi chikondi. Kawirikawiri, mikhalidwe yaumwini mwachangu imathandizana. Nthaŵi zambiri mikangano imathetsedwa mwamtendere, mothandizidwa ndi kugwirizana kokwanira. Mtsogoleri m'banja ndi mwamuna. Monga wamphamvu komanso wodziwa zambiri, amasamalira mnzake wa moyo. Pazogonana, amachitanso mbali yotsogoleredwa, popeza, pokhala "pansi pa osindikizira", wokondedwayo amapewa mwayi wothandiza munthu ndi manja alionse. Kwa mkazi wozoloŵera kusamalira ndi kusamala, udindo umenewu ndi chizindikiro cha chitetezo, kugwirizana kwathunthu ndi munthu wokondedwa.
MUNTHU WOSAWONSE KUONA
Komabe, ngati mukufuna kuti mafotokozedwe apamwambawa afotokoze, mungapeze tsatanetsatane, mwachitsanzo, nthawi zina amatchedwa "maonekedwe a akazi owopsa." Ngakhale kuti, kutentha sikuneneza. Kuda nkhawa - inde, kusayanjanitsika - inde, komanso kudzipatula komanso kunyalanyaza mwamuna amene mumagonana naye. Kufotokozera izi pambaliyi ndikumveka mophweka: "Kodi iwe ukundivuta bwanji ine!"
Mwachibadwa, mkazi amawoneka kuti akuchita nawo chiwerewere, koma, kwenikweni, akungokwaniritsa udindo wake wokhazikika, atapeza malo abwino kwambiri, omwe amalola kuti asayese zofuna zathu zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo pachabe. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, malingaliro a amayi pa kamphindi kochepetsetsa angathe kugwira ntchito iliyonse: kuchotsa mchere kumalo okonzekera tsiku lotsatira.
Amuna amagwiritsanso ntchito mafomuwa kuti akwaniritse zolinga osati zachiwerewere. Udindo uwu wa matupi umalola oimirira kugonana molimba kuti akwanitse zolinga zawo, chifukwa, pokhala pamwamba, mwamunayo amamukakamiza pa mnzake (muzochitika zonse za mawu). Izi zimapangitsa anthu kukhala ndi zizoloŵezi zowonongeka - zachiwawa, magulu, kudzidalira. Izi siziphonya mwayi "wathyola pansi pawokha" aliyense, mosasamala kanthu kuti mnzanuyo ndi bizinesi, mpikisano kapena mkazi wokondedwa.
WOMAN TOP
Malingana ndi ubale weniweni pakati pa okonda, malo amenewa, monga omwe adayimilira, amatha kuwoneka kuchokera kumbali zosiyanasiyana. Ngati pakati pa abwenzi - uphungu ndi chikondi, makamaka, udindo waukulu ndi wa mkazi. Ndipo sikofunikira konse kuti iye ali mtundu wa mkazi wa Nekrasov kumenyana, ndipo iye ndi wodolola ndi wotchuka. Okhazikika okha afika pa chiyanjano chimenecho, pamene kukhulupirirana ndi kutentha kumakhudza zolinga zapikisano "ndi ndani."
Kukhala pa malo olimbikitsa, mkazi ali ndi mwayi wochita zomwe akufuna, ndi momwe akufunira. Wokondedwa (ngati, ndithudi, ali bwino ndi kudzidalira), khalidwe ili la wokondedwa, palibe koma chisangalalo, sichidzapereka.
Chinthu chodabwitsa ndi chakuti "wokwerapo" nthawi zambiri amangotamandidwa ndi amayi omwe amadalira kwathunthu (makhalidwe ndi / kapena ndalama) kwa anzawo. Ndikofunika kuti iwo nthawi zina amve ngati apamwamba, kukhala apamwamba kuposa ozunza anzawo. Chilakolako cha kugonana chimangopangitsa chinyengo.
MASTER WABWINO
Ngati nthawi zambiri mumagonana pabanja lino - mgwirizano wanu umakhala ndi chikondi chapadera ndi kuwona mtima. Kuchokera kumbali ya mkazi, malo awa a thupi amatanthauza, "Ndikukhulupirirani inu." Monga lamulo, okondedwa omwe amasankha udindo umenewu ndi ofanana mu ubale wawo. Ngakhale malingaliro awo sagwirizana mwa njira zina, iwo, nthawi zonse amalemekeza malingaliro a wina ndi mzake, nthawizonse amapeza njira zowvomerezeka zovomerezeka. Mu moyo wapamtima kwa anthu oterowo palibe zoletsedwa. Amakonda kuyesa, koma nthawi zonse amakhala okhudzidwa ndi kugonana "kudziwa" komwe kumakondweretsa onse awiri.
Koma molondola chifukwa chachindunji chake, malowa akhoza kufotokoza osati kuyandikira kwapafupi, koma komanso chiwerengero cha manyazi! Mwachitsanzo, amadziwika ndi operewera, amuna okwiya omwe akufuna kupondereza mnzawo, amamupangitsa kumva ngati kapolo wofooka akugwada pamaso pa mwiniwake.
KUYAMBIRA KWAMBIRI
Ngakhale kuli koyambirira, njirayi sichigwiritsidwa ntchito kawirikawiri ndi ogonana nawo nthawi zonse - kupatula kuti ngati zosangalatsa zowonongeka pa "menyu". Ndipo osati chifukwa chovuta kwambiri kuchita: yesetsani kusunga wokondedwa wanu kulemera, ndipo ngakhale kuyesetsa kukondwera nthawi yomweyo! Kuchita chinyengo chotere munthu ayenera kukhala ndi mphamvu yeniyeni yeniyeni.
Ndipo pano choyimira chikuyimira chilakolako, mwadzidzidzi, kufulumira ndi ... kuunika kwa ubale. Kugona ndi kugonana kungakhale paliponse - mu ngodya iliyonse, yomwe idakupangitsani chikondi. Mtundu wa zakudya zosangalatsa kwambiri, zomwe sizikusowa kukonzekera kwakanthawi.
Ngati mukufuna kugonana, chikondi chanu chikhoza kukhala pachiyambi cha chitukuko, pamene mphamvu yoyendetsa magwirizano ndi chilakolako. "Kuimirira" moyang'anizana kwambiri ndi amuna osadzikuza, odzidalira, omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi chirichonse (pa nkhaniyi) kuti akhale m'manja mwawo. Izi zimapangitsa iwo kutsimikizira mphamvu zawo, masculinity ndi mphamvu zenizeni pazochitikazo.
Akazi, komabe, chikhalidwe ichi chikhoza kukondweretsa chifukwa china, komanso kutali kwambiri ndi zochitika zogonana. Ndipotu, kulankhula moona mtima, anthu omwe ali ndi mwayi wokhoza kukhala ndi mwayi wochita zinthu zodabwitsa, sikuti ambiri amapezeka. Koma sizili bwino kumva ngati osalimba, okongola komanso osasamala (ngakhale maekala ochepa) Thumbelina m'manja mwa mpikisano wolimba mtima!
Mukhoza kumasulira mosakayikira "na" zokhudzana ndi zolaula, kuti mupeze maonekedwe atsopano ndi osayembekezeka a maganizo, zikhumbo ndi malingaliro. Mukhoza kuyesa kwa nthawi yaitali momwe munagwirira ntchito zogonana, zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mungakonde kuchita m'tsogolomu. Monga hieroglyphs zodabwitsa, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi tanthauzo losabisika. Zizindikiro zapadera izi ndi chilankhulo cha thupi lathu, momwe chikondi ndi chikondi zimasonyezedwa. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti anthu apamtima amamvana komanso amalankhula chinenero chomwecho. Ndiye padzakhala zokhumudwitsa pang'ono zochepa, ziyembekezo zosakwaniritsidwe. Ndipo chizoloŵezi chofala kuti "kugonana" chidzataya chidziwitso chake choipa ndikukhala chimodzimodzi ndi chikondi chogwirizana ndi chimwemwe.