- samasonyeza mmene akumverera komanso kumverera kwake. Mwamuna amamverera kuti amazizira komanso alibe chidwi.
- amangokhala kumbuyo kapena momwe anayikira, koma sasuntha.
- osalankhula, ngati wotsutsana komanso osamveka phokoso, palibe malov, opanda mpweya.
- samamva zokondweretsa, samaganizira za caresses ndikukhala ngati sakusamala.
- sasintha maganizo, amakhulupirira kuti pali vuto limodzi - mmishonale.
- Sindinayankhe kuti asokoneze, sakuwonetseratu zoyesayesa, samachita chiopsezo, samasunthira nthawi.
Ndipo, zifukwa zakuti mtsikana amachitira ngati chipika pa bedi chikhoza kukhala chosiyana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ngati akadali namwali, ngati alibe chidziwitso choipa, ngati sakugonana panthawi imeneyo, kapena sakufuna munthu uyu. Ziribe kanthu chomwe chimayambitsa chimfine pa nthawi yogonana, msungwana sangakhoze kukhala chipika pa kama. Ngati ili ndi vuto lenileni kwa inu, ndiye nthawi yothetsera vutoli mwatcheru. Chifukwa, kwa amuna, kugonana ndi gawo lofunika la moyo, ndipo ubale wathunthu sungatheke popanda khalidwe, kugonana kwachiwerewere. Ndipo, ngati simukusiya kukhala chipika, ndiye kuti ubale wanu udzatha mofulumira kwambiri. Kuonjezera apo, inu nokha simungasangalale ndi kugonana, ngati mukupitiriza kukhala ozizira, osaganizira za kugonana.
Kumbukirani, msungwana sangathe kukhala chipika pa kama! Aliyense, koma osati inu! Kotero, mumayamba kuti? Lamulo loyambirira lomwe liyenera kukumbukira: palibe kulowerera mu kugonana. Yesetsani kuchita zogonana, kusuntha zambiri, kusintha zochitika. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mutakhala pamwamba pa mnzanuyo, mwina ndizo zomwe zimakulolani kuti mukhale osangalala kwambiri! Musaope kuyesa. Kumbukirani lamulo lina lomwe kugonana kuli kwa awiri. Inu, ndithudi, simusowa kuti mukhale ogona pabedi mwakamodzi, koma muyenera kusonyeza chidwi chanu ndi chilakolako chanu. Phunziranibe, phunzirani ndikuphunziranso!
Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti simungakhale wamanyazi pabedi. Osadziŵa zambiri, kapena chidziwitso, kapena china chirichonse. Yesetsani kuchita khama. Dzifunseni nokha chinachake chatsopano mu kugonana, kusintha maimidwe, kulingalira masewera achiwerewere. Mkazi wokondweretsa ndi chinthu chimene mwamuna amasangalala kwambiri. Msungwana sangakhoze kukhala chipika pa kama! Ndipo, mkazi wokondweretsa sadzatchedwa konse! Nkofunika kuti nkhope yanu iwonetsenso malingaliro ndi maganizo. Sonyezani munthuyo chilakolako chake. Ndikofunika kusonyeza chilakolako chanu ndi chidwi pa zomwe zikuchitika! Mimicry, manja, kubuula, maonekedwe, ahi ndi ohs ziwonetseni munthu wanu momwe mukukondwerera. Kuti musakhale lolemba pabedi, muyenera kugonana monga masewera. Kumukakamiza iye ndi kayendetsedwe kako, kusintha mkhalidwe wako, kukwawa pamwamba pa iye, kunyalanyaza pakamwa pake, kumpsompsona kumene iwe sunampsompsonepo kale. Musathamangire ndi chiyambi cha zochitikazo, penyani mwatsatanetsatane pachiyambi, mubweretse munthu kuchikhumbo chachikulu chomwe iye wakupemphani kuti mugone nawo. Pang'onopang'ono, inu nokha mudzayamba kusangalala ndi ndondomekoyi. Mudzawona kuti kugonana kungakhale kosangalatsa komanso kosiyana. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho chilakolako.
Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungachitire pabedi, pali njira yeniyeni yowunikira. Motani? Funsani mwamuna wanu momwe akufunira! Ndipo iye adzakuuzani inu chirichonse iyemwini. Mvetserani mnzanuyo, pita kwa iye nthawi. Aliyense payekha akupita kukakumana nawe, yendani kwa iye. Mvetserani mwambo ndikuusunga. Kumbukirani kuti msungwana-msungwana yemwe samayenda pabedi chifukwa chakuti sakudziwa kuchita, ndipo amangofuna kugona pansi.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira phokosolo. Amuna ngati mtsikana atulutsa phokoso pa nthawi yogonana. Zowonjezereka ndi zowonjezereka, ziri bwinoko. Tangoganizirani kuti ndinu wojambula zithunzi. Stony ndi ahay. Mukhoza kufotokozera mwachidwi mitundu yonse ya chisokonezo m'khutu lanu kwa mnzanuyo. Phokoso la phokoso, dulani maso anu. Panthawi yomwe munthu alowa mkati mwakuya mokwanira, sungani bwino, izi zidzamusonyeza momwe muliri wabwino, komanso kuti iye ndi wokondedwa weniweni. Ndi kupyolera mu kugwiritsa ntchito mau omwe mungathe kulamulira ndi kulamulira munthu wanu. Mukakondwera, muwuzeni zambiri. Kotero iye adzachita zomwe inu mukufuna. Kugonana kotereku mosiyana ndi m'maganizo kumakhala kosangalatsa kwa inu ndi mnzanuyo. Nenani zambiri "inde!" "Zambiri", "zamphamvu". Stony. Koma kumbukirani kuti kupyolera mu matemberero, kulira kwakukulu kungamuwopsyeze munthu kapena kumusangalatsa.
Msungwana sangakhoze kukhala chipika pa kama, ngati iye atachita chirichonse. Mukamupsompsona, mum'pusitse, mumusangalatse, muyambe naye, muyankhule zoipa, ndiye kuti palibe munthu aliyense amene angakuuzeni kuti ndinu log ndi bezynitsiativna. Werengani zambiri mabuku, penyani zolaula, kambiranani za moyo wapamtima ndi anzanu. Adzatha kukugawanizani zomwe zingakuthandizeni kwambiri. Kumbukirani kuti anthu, malas, ndi ah, ndi osachepera akazi, ndipo amuna woyenera ndi ochepa! Kusunga kalonga wanu pafupi ndi iye, muyenera kuyesa. Koma kumbukirani kuti chinthu chachikulu mu kugonana, monga mu moyo wonse palimodzi - kusangalala ndi kusangalala mphindi iliyonse.