Kugonana ndi chibwenzi choyambirira

Mzimayiyo adaphwanya mwamuna wake, ndi mwamuna wake, atasudzula mwamuna wake ... Mulimonsemo, ndizovuta kwa iye, ngakhale atayambitsa magawano. Ndipo ngati wokondedwayo wapereka gawo, izi ndizovuta kwambiri. Mosasamala kanthu kuti pali lingaliro la ufulu, kapena kulibe, koma pali zopanda pake, mkazi amayamba kumvetsa kuti pali chinachake chosowa mu moyo wake kuti angafune kukhala naye mwamuna. Monga lamulo, simukufuna kuti mwamsanga muyang'ane wokondedwa watsopano, ndipo simudzazipeza mofulumira kwambiri, koma chilengedwe chimatenga njira yake - mkazi amafuna kugonana. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amakumbukira za munthu wakale. Komabe, amayi ambiri samadzivomereza okha kuti akusowa chikondi chawo kale, akumutcha "wokondedwa basi." Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti mkazi samakumbukiranso zomwe amamphwanya ndi munthu uyu. Zomwe timakumbukira zimapangidwa mwakuti timakumbukira zakale zabwino, ndikuiwala zoyipa, panopa - makhalidwe amanyazi a munthu wakale. Kawirikawiri izi zimachitika ngati mkazi ali wokhudzidwa, akuyang'anitsitsa zomwe zikuchitika pa chikondi, ndipo moyo wake umafuna koma osapeza kutentha. Komabe, nkoyenera kulingalira kuti izi ndizokumverera kwanu kokha. Kumbukirani zifukwa za kupatukana ndi mbali zake zoipa. Mwinamwake, iwo sali ofunika kwenikweni ngati akuwombera.

Chifukwa china choganiza kachiwiri ndi mnyamata wanu wakale ndi kukumbukira kugonana naye. Sikuti iye yekha ndiye wokongola pabedi, amadziwanso thupi lanu, ngati palibe wina. Chabwino, ngati simunali wokondwa kwambiri ndipo simukuwopa kuti mutatha kugonana ndi iye mudzakhumudwa ndi kukumbukira, mungathe kumutchula momveka bwino. Ngati mwakhala pamodzi kwa nthawi yaitali - amadziwa bwino zomwe mukufunikira pogonana. Koma konzekerani kuti kugonana kwina ndi munthu wina wakale musagonje.

Nthawi zina mkazi amadzifunsa yekha funso loti: "Angandiiwale bwanji?". Ichi ndi nsanje yoyambirira. Musamachite nsanje ndi bwenzi lake lakale, musagone usiku ndikuganiza momwe akugonana ndi munthu wina kapena momwe amachitira ndi munthu wina. Ngati mwasiya kuchita naye, tsopano izi siziyenera kukukhudzani. Ngakhale atasiyana ndi msungwana watsopano ndikusankha iwe ngati malo osungirako ndege, amaganiza-kodi mwakonzeka kuti muzisunga nthawi zonse?

Njira ina ndi yotheka - ngati mupatsidwa mwayi wogawanika, mwamuna akhoza kukuchitira nsanje. Pankhaniyi, maganizo ake akuwoneka ngati awa: "Sindinkakhala ndi nthawi yosiyana ndi ine, ndipo tsopano akukakamizidwa kuti apite, cholengedwa ichi chiri pano" Ayi! Simungalole izi! ". Mungathe ngakhale kunyalanyaza chilakolako cha mnyamatayo kubwerera chirichonse monga momwe zinaliri. Koma kodi mumagwirizana naye popanda chifukwa? Ndipo ngati chifukwa chake chinali, ndani angatsimikizire kuti chinthu chomwe chinam'tumikira sichidzachitikanso? Ndi bwino kulankhula ndi mnyamatayo, muuzeni kuti chisankho chanu chokayika chinali chovuta - ndiye kuti potsiriza adzasamalira moyo wake ndikusiya inu nokha.

Motero, kugonana ndi mwamuna wakale ndi chinthu choopsa. Mwina, ndi amayi okha omwe ali ndi maganizo a mwamuna, omwe amatha kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika popanda kukhudzidwa, chifukwa cha zomwe angathe kukwanitsa zokondweretsa. Komabe, chiwerengero cha akazi oterewa chimafika ku zero.

Komabe, pali vuto limodzi - mwachitsanzo, munaphwanya mgwirizano. Ndipo pano pali mwamuna, ndipo mukuyang'ana chikondi chanu chenicheni, simukupeza, ndipo mukuzindikira kuti mumakonda iye yekha. Ndipo amadziwa kuti iye ankakukondani kwenikweni. Pankhaniyi, ndi mwamuna wakale, kugonana koopsa komanso kugwirizanitsa zachiwawa n'zotheka. Kapena kugwirizanitsa kwakukulu ndi kugonana kwaukali. Ndipo pambuyo pake, chikondi chokondana ndi ubale ndizofanana ndi zomwe anali nazo asanalowe. Komabe, izi zimachitika kawirikawiri, ndipo kokha ngati inu nonse muli okonzeka tsopano kulingalira chifukwa cholekanitsa ngati chopanda phindu, osati kungokhala ndi chilakolako kapena maganizo.

Nthawi zina, ndibwino kupeŵa ubale ndi kugonana ndi munthu wakale.