Anagwidwa ndi chikondi ndipo akufuna kukomana ndi mnyamata. Iye anasiya kwathunthu maphunziro ake ndipo akukwera mmitambo. Iye samvera malangizo a wina aliyense ndipo safuna kumvetsa chilichonse. Kotero, mwana wa mwana wanu wamkazi akubwerera kwawo ndipo samapita kulankhulana - choti achite? Momwe mungayandikire molondola vutoli, musataye ulemu ndi chidaliro cha mtsikanayo, musakhale mlendo kwa iye, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musakhale mdani wake mmodzi.
"Tifunika kuganizira za kuphunzira, koma osati kusokoneza chikondi!", "Ndinali kukonzekera sukulu yanu ku sukulu yanu, ndikuyang'ana anyamatawo." "Sikokwanira kuthamanga pazinthu" - mawu oterewa mumagulu osiyanasiyana amatha kulankhula, amalankhulana ndipo amayankhula ndi ana awo aamuna, makamaka amayi onse padziko lapansi. Ndipo atsikanawo amathamangira mwachinsinsi kwa okondedwa awo, ndipo adzalumikizana, akukakamiza makolo makamaka makamaka amayi, kuwadandaula komanso osagona usiku, atakhala pawindo kwa maola ambiri.
Mwana wamkazi wa mwana wachinyamata, podziwa kuti mayiyo amadziona kuti amadana ndi misonkhano yake ndi wokondedwa wake, amodzi wawo amayendera ma discos ndi maphwando, amayamba mwachinyengo, samalumikizana, amatembenuka ndipo amapewa kuchita manyazi ndi kunyoza kulikonse. Ndipo atayamba kunyenga, mosavuta akhoza kudzizoloŵera kunama, makamaka pa msinkhu wotero.
Zowopsa kwambiri
Amayi nthawi zonse amadziwa, mwachibadwa: uwu ndi lamulo la chirengedwe. Amafuna kudziwa momwe chibwenzi ndi mwana wake wamwamuna wapitira. Nchifukwa chiyani msungwanayo akuponya chinachake pansi pa mpweya wake, ndiye amayenda mdima kuposa mtambo ndipo samalankhulana ndi wina aliyense? Mwinamwake iwo anali kale, chabwino, ndi choncho? Nanga bwanji ngati mtsikanayo ali ndi pakati? Ndipo ngati amusiya, tsopano ndi mnyamata wanji! Ndipo ngati aganiza zokwatira, zidzangowonjezereka, chifukwa ukwati pakati pa ana awiri, wina akhoza kunena, sukhalitsa nthawi yaitali, ndizoona.
Momwe mungakhalire? Kodi ndiyenera kumuletsa kukakumana naye? Koma tsopano akubwerera, sakumvera anthu akuluakulu, ndi wamkulu, ali wodziimira. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi adzakumana, koma kokha, kanthawi pang'ono, osati tsopano, mnyamata wabwino ndipo akufuna kumukwatira, ndipo iye wadzimangiriza kale ndi zolakwika, ndipo mtsikanayo adzadutsa ndi chikondi chenicheni. Tsogolo, kuwerengera, pansi. Zopanda kunena, maganizo monga awa - katundu si ophweka. Inde, kukhala mayi wa mwana wachinyamata sikophweka.
Koposa zonse, ngati mtsikanayo mwadzidzidzi anabwera kudzatsatizana ndi mavuto ake pa nthawi yovuta ndi inu, osati ndi mnzako kapena chibwenzi. Kuti mukhale oyenera pa nthawi yoyenera ndi kukhala pafupi kuti asalole zolakwika zosayerekezeka. Koma si onse omwe ali ndi chikhulupiliro. Ndipo muzochitika izi ndi bwino kumvetsetsa nokha malamulo ena ofunikira.
1. Musalole kulankhulana
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa chinthu chimodzi chofunika: kukwatulidwa, kukwiya, kuletsa, kulanga ndizosathandiza, sikungakuthandizeni. Iye akadalibe, ziribe kanthu, adzapitiriza kumuwona wokondedwa wake, koma mwachinsinsi. Ndipo pakadali pano amayi adzakhala munthu wotsiriza amene mtsikanayo apite kukapempha malangizo ngati akufunikira.
2. Mafunso oyenerera
Musati "mutenge" mwana wanu ndi mafunso. Iwo sangamupangitse iye kukhala omveka bwino ndi kuyankhulana. M'malo mosiyana ndi zimenezo, zidzasokonekera kwambiri. Musaganizire kuti misonkhano ya okondedwa achinyamata imatha kugona. Komabe, khalani ndi nthawi yokambirana ndi kumuuza mwana wanu za njira zotetezera, matenda opatsirana pogonana, AIDS komanso zotsatira zake.
3. Mutsatire popanda kutsutsidwa ndi kufananitsa
Mulimonsemo, pokambirana ndi mwana wanu, musanene kuti: "Iwe uli ndi zaka khumi ndi zitatu (khumi ndi zinayi, ndi zina). Ndi mtundu wanji wa chikondi m'zaka zanu? "Kukambirana kotereku sikudzabweretsa ndipo palibe chomwe chidzasinthe. Mwana wanu ayamba kuchoka kwa inu tsiku ndi tsiku zambiri. Kwa iye tsopano chibwenzi chake chiri chowonekera pawindo, ndipo iwe (muyenera kuvomereza) wabwera kumoto wambuyo. Ndili ndi makolo awa muyenera kupirira. Ndiyeno, mtsikanayo ayenera kukhala wotsimikiza kuti ngati ali womasuka ndi inu, simungamudzule chifukwa chake, musamadzudzule.
4. Musamawerenge ziwerengero
Makhalidwe abwino ndikumudziwitsa za momwe mumamvera pa msinkhu wake. Ndipotu, moyo umadzibwereza wokha, zinthu zimasintha. Izi ndizo, zomwe mumaganiza kuti zinali zovuta komanso ngakhale mapeto a dziko muunyamata, tsopano akungoseketsa, kudabwa kapena kudabwa: ndingathe bwanji kupulumuka chifukwa cha izi?
Musathamangire kunena maganizo anu
Pemphani mwana wanu kuti aitane mnzanu kunyumba kwanu. Ngati mudakonda, chabwino, musazengereze kunena izi. Ngati ayi - musafulumire kulemba makhalidwe ake omwe simunawakonde. Musamuuze choti achite. Njira yabwino kwambiri yofotokozera mtsikanayo ndi khalidwe limene mnzanuyo amakuwonekera, chabwino, tiyeni tiwone ngati akugwirizana nanu. Ngati simukuvomereza, mumvomere kuti mumamulemekeza kumalo ake. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amaumirira kuti pambuyo pa mawu anu, adziwonera mwachindunji zolakwika ndi maso anu.
6. Lemekezani umunthu wa mwanayo
Musamapatse msungwana msanga ndi masewero chifukwa chakuti simukukonda ufulu wake. Zimakuwoneka kuti akadakali mwana, mtsikana mwiniwakeyo samaganiza choncho. Amadziona ngati wamkulu.
7. Khalani mnzanu womvetsetsa
Mulole mtsikana wanu adziwe kuti, ngati ali ndi vuto lililonse, akhoza kukuthandizani, ndipo simudzamupweteka ndi zodandaula zambiri monga: Ndinati, ndachenjeza, nthawi zonse ndinkawopa ... Ayi, muthandizeni kuti mumuthandize bwino Malangizo omwe ali pafupi kwambiri, omvetsetsa komanso munthu wachikondi kwambiri padziko lapansi. Izi sizingalole mwana wanu kuti apume kwa msinkhu komanso kuti asayanjane, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zinthu zisasinthe.