Kotero, mutu wa nkhani yathu lero ndi "Ubale pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana, okhulupirira ndi osakhulupirira", tidzayesa kulingalira za miyala yamakona ya chikondi chotero ndi kumvetsetsa: kodi n'zotheka, kapena kusiyana kwa maganizo achipembedzo kuti awonongeke?
Pali njira ziwiri zokha zothetsera vutoli. Choyamba ndikuti si munthu wanu, ndipo simungalekerere chipembedzo chake, chomwe chimatchedwa "zopanda pake." Icho chidzakuzunzani inu, ndipo chikoka mpaka pansi ndipo simungakhoze konse kulola Mulungu mu mtima mwanu, ngakhale chifukwa cha wokondedwa wanu. Muyenera kugawana nawo mopweteka. Pachifukwa chachiwiri, mumangokhalira kulavulira pa malamulo olembedwa ndi wina ndikukhala mwachikondi ndi wokondedwa wanu (poganiza kuti zonse zikukukhudzani, ndithudi). Palinso njira yachitatu, koma ndi yopanda chidwi ndipo ambiri mwa iwo samadziwika. Chokhazikika chake chimakhala kuti simungathe kungoyang'ana m'tsogolomu, koma zimangopita ndi kuyendayenda kusiya chirichonse mmalo mwake. Koma, monga tikudziwira kuti ikhoza kutha, mgwirizano wina wa malingaliro potero umakulekanitsani kwathunthu mosalekeza. Kawirikawiri, misonkhano yonse yachipembedzo imangosokoneza maubwenzi. Ndipo kuyika mfundo iyi ngati vuto lalikulu sikuli koyenera konse. Mfundo, ngati mumvetsetsa, izi sizingakhale zovuta konse. Pambuyo pake, chifukwa mmodzi wa inu ndi wokhulupirira palibe choipa. Apa chirichonse chiri chosiyana, monga momwe munthu amene amakhulupirira mwa Mulungu sadzalola kuti iye yekha akubweretsereni chisoni ndi kuvutika. Ndi, monga lamulo, anthu okhulupirika ndi odzipereka omwe amawona chirichonse chokongola mu chakudya chirichonse ndi udzu wa udzu kwa iwo mutu wonse wa kukhalapo kwa anthu ndikutseguka. Chikondi cha anyamatawa kapena atsikanawa chikufanana ndi mphatso yaikulu kwambiri ya Mulungu imene munthu angapeze. Chifukwa chake, simuyenera kuopa kuti wina wa inu panthawi yochepetseka sakuwerengera chikondi chochepa, koma buku la mabuku onse Baibulo. Kumbukirani, anthu okhulupirira sakhala ndi moyo kwa iwo okha, koma kwa Mulungu ndi okondedwa awo. Gwirizanitsani, kodi simudzasangalatsa kwenikweni, kuti pamene akupemphererani inu ndikupempha chimwemwe chenicheni ndi chowonadi pa moyo wanu. Zoonadi, sindikunena kuti zonse zidzapita ngati ma clockwork. Mavuto amayamba ndithu. Choyamba, okhulupilira nthawi zambiri amadana ndi kugonana asanalowe m'banja, kapena, mwachitsanzo, amakonda moyo wamtendere ndi wamtendere. Chimene, mwachizolowezi sichimagonjetsedwa ndi zida zamakono zamakono za mbadwo uno. Koma komabe, ndani angakhalepo, osanenapo, koma ubale pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana okhulupirira ndi osakhulupirira ndi chinthu chachilendo komanso chotheka.
Ngati mumamvadi, malingaliro enieni pa wina ndi mzake, ndiye kuti ziyenera kuti wina wa inu asamvere, ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira ndi munthu amene sanakhulupirire Mulungu kale. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa ndi kuzindikira kufunika kwa chikhulupiriro kwa theka lanu lachiwiri ndipo mwamsanga, osati miniti, phunzirani Mau a Mulungu pamodzi naye. Ndipo pomwepo mudzazindikira momwe mulili pafupi ndi thupi, komanso mwauzimu. Choyamba, dziwani za maganizo a ena. Pamapeto pake, simumanga ubale ndi iwo. Nchifukwa chiyani inu ngakhale malingaliro olakwika a ambiri. Mvetserani zomwe mawu anu amkati akunena. Pambuyo pa zonse, chifukwa cha wokondedwa mungathe kugawana zinthu zonse ndi iye kokha ngati nthawi zonse analipo. Ngati wosankhidwa wanu, wosankhidwayo amapita ku tchalitchi. Sizingakhale zodabwitsa kusonyeza chikhumbo chanu kupita naye (mayi) kumeneko. Phunzirani mapemphero, pitani kuvomereza, yambani kuyang'ana zolemba zachipembedzo. Sinthani nokha ndikudutsa njira yanu ya moyo. Ngati mudakali ndi zizoloŵezi zoipa, nthawi yomweyo muzisiye. Ndikumvetsetsa kwakukulu, chitani dziko lamkati la mdani wanu, musayese kumutsutsa, kotero simungapindule kanthu, koma ingomutsutsani. Thandizo lanu ndi mphatso yaikulu kwambiri, yomwe ingakhale yabwino kwambiri.
Kumvetsetsa ndi kumudziwa munthu uyu, chifukwa zabwino zokhazokha, zotseguka ndi zowona zimangokhala, iwo omwe amakhulupirira mwa Mulungu. Wokhulupirira amamvera, choyamba, kumoyo, ndipo osakhulupirira ali ndi nkhawa, choyamba, ndi "mavuto" ndi "thupi". Munthu wokhulupirira amayesera kutenga nzeru zochuluka kuchokera kwa Mulungu ndikutsogolera moyo wake mofanana ndi iye mwini. Ndipo kwa anthu oyandikana nawo, amafuna makhalidwe abwino okha. Kotero mungathe kunena mwachangu mwayi. Ndipo muyenera kunyada nazo. Mwa njira, mulimonsemo, musakhale ndi nsanje kwa wokondedwa wanu pamaso pa Mulungu. Inu mukudziwa, iye (iye) ali ndi malo okwanira mu mtima mwake kwa inu awiri. Podzipanga nokha, mudzazindikira mwamsanga m'mene munayambira kuchita zinthu zonse moona mtima, kumatsatira miyezo ya Mulungu muzonse, anthu olemekezeka kwambiri. Inu mwasintha kokha kwabwinoko.
Zonsezi ndi zothandiza kuti mukhale ngati phunziro labwino kuti mutha kuzimitsa komanso kuti mutuluke ku misala ya anthu otchuka. Ngati ndinu munthu wokhoza mosavuta komanso mopanda ululu kusintha dziko lanu ndikuwongolera pansi pa moyo wanu wokondedwa, pitirirani nazo. Ingouzani chikhulupiriro ichi ndi munthu uyu. Kusiyanitsa ndiko kuti wina amaika malingaliro pamwamba pa mphamvu, ina ili pamwamba pa malingaliro. Zina zonse ndizozing'ono. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, munthu ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti munthu amene sakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu angakhale wokhulupirira, koma amadziyitanira yekha, inde iwo sali. Ngati simukumukonda kwambiri, kapena mukuwopa kuchita zinthu monga momwe mukuganizira, kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wanu ndipo simungasiye chikhulupiriro chanu. Pita mwakachetechete ndipo usadzunze nokha kapena munthu ameneyo. Kapena ngati mungasankhe, ngati mutapambana, yesetsani kusunga ubale weniweni. Zimakhala zosavuta kuti muyanjana ndi munthu wokhulupirira kusiyana ndi kumanga maubwenzi. Choncho, ngati poyamba pali mwayi wosapitilira za maganizo awo, izi siziyenera kuchitika.