Ngati munthu anena kuti samakhulupirira m'chikondi, ndiye sakufuna kuti aliyense atsegule moyo wake. Ngakhale okhulupirira ovuta kwambiri komanso okonda akazi, nthawi zambiri, amakhala chifukwa cha chikondi. Iwo samakhala chete pa izi, amabisala mumtima mwakuya zomwe zidakali ndi iwo pamoyo wawo, ndipo amaseka chikondi, akunyengerera malingaliro a atsikana ambiri. Mwinamwake anyamata awa amadana nawo chikondi, monga kumverera. Chowonadi ndi chakuti nthawi ina, ndiye iye amene anawaumiriza iwo kuti akhale ofooka, amanyazidwe, opsinjika. Sadzakamba za izo ndipo adzakana chirichonse, koma chifukwa cha chikondi chosagonjetsedwa kuti maganizo oterewa kumverera kotereku akuwonekera. Zimakhala zovuta kuti amuna otere avomereze malingaliro awo ngakhale alipo, atuluke ndikubisa maganizo.
Mnyamata wochokera kumagulu otsiriza amadziletsa yekha, ndipo amakana kumverera konse. Ichi, makamaka, chiwawa payekha, chomwe chimabweretsa kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa m'moyo ndi ine ndekha. Kwa anthu oterewa akuonekeratu kuti akutsutsa chikondi. Zitha kuwerengedwa kudzera m'maso, zomwe zimamvekedwa m'mawu ena, zomwe zimanena asanakhale ndi nthawi yoganizira zomwe zanenedwa. Kwenikweni, ndi zopweteka komanso zovuta, pamene pafupi ndi inu wokondedwa kapena mnzanu. Zimatengera nthawi yochuluka, kusamalidwa nthawi zonse ndi chikondi kuti chikhale chotseguka, kuzindikira momwe mumamvera komanso kuti musaope kuti iwo adzabweretsa kufooka ndi kuphwanya mtima wanu. Simungathe kukanikiza munthu woteroyo. Chowonadi n'chakuti anthu amene amadzimvera okha ndi mtima wonse, amatha kupweteka kwambiri. Kotero, iwo sangathe mosavuta ndipo nthawi yomweyo amasiya zotsatira, zomwe anazifuna kwa zaka zambiri. Ndikofunika kumatha mwezi umodzi kuti mnyamatayo atsegulire mtima wake pang'ono ndikukukhulupirirani ndikumverera. Ndipotu, kwa anthu oterowo, kudalira wina ndikumverera, izi zikuphatikizapo kupereka moyo. Zikuwoneka kuti iwo akhoza kumenyana ndi kupambana nkhondo pamaganizo. Chikondi chosadziwika, zofooka ndi manyazi zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi izo, zimapangitsa kuti mnyamata ayambe kugwiritsira ntchito zida zokha. Ngati maganizo ake sangathe, amayamba kuwaletsa. Ngati mukufuna kuthandiza munthu wotere, khala woleza mtima ndi wotsitsimula, werengani psychology ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, mvetserani. Munthu wamba aliyense angathe kukonda. Koma sikuti aliyense amafuna kudziwika ndi ena. Muyenera kuphunzira kumverera nthawi yomwe ali wokonzeka kutseguka ndi kuchita zonse kuti asatayike ulusi umenewu. Patapita nthaŵi, mnyamatayo amadzichepetsera yekha. Mutha kumuphunzitsa kuti akhale womasuka komanso potsiriza, adzatha kuvomereza kuti akhoza kukonda kwenikweni.
Mwatsoka, pali akazi padziko lapansi amene amakonda kuvulaza anthu. Amanama ndikusintha, osayang'ana chilichonse chokhumudwitsa. Ozunzidwa ndi amayiwa ndi gulu lina la anyamata omwe sakhulupirira chikondi. Achinyamata awa adanyengedwa ndi akazi awo kapena atsikana awo. Otsenga, ndithudi, ndi osiyana, mwachitsanzo, monga chiwonetsero, chithunzithunzi, amagwiritsira ntchito ngati njira yotulutsira ndalama ndi zina zambiri. Njira zowonetsera amuna kuti azidana ndi akazi okhaokha, koma zotsatira zake ndi chimodzi - iye sakhulupirira mu chikondi. Mu chikondi chathu. Anyamata oterewa amakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri ndi amayi omwe samalola kuwona mtima kumverera kwathu. Ndizovuta kwambiri kuyankhulana ndi achinyamata oterewa, chifukwa mawu onse, malingaliro onse, amawachititsa kukayikira. Anthu awa amayesera kuti omalizira asakhulupirire zomwe mkaziyo adanena, ngakhale iwo akufunadi izo. Iwo amatha kumvetsetsedwa, chifukwa dona wina amakhulupirira munthu woterewa mopanda malire - ndipo zinakhala zovuta kwa iye.
Kuwanyenga achinyamata kuti asamve zovuta kuposa omwe adamva chikondi chosiyana. Gawo loyamba la achinyamata silisonyeza malingaliro, koma ndi kosavuta kulankhulana ndi amayi. Koma nkhani yachiwiriyi ndi yovuta kwambiri. Ngati muyesa kusamalira munthu woteroyo kapena kulankhula naye zakumverera, makumi asanu ndi anayi mphambu asanu ndi anai pa zana pa zana adzayamba kutsutsa zonse ndikumanena kuti izi sizingatheke. Ngati anyamata omwe ali m'gulu loyambirira sakukhulupirira kuti akhoza kuwakonda, ndiye anyamata omwe ali ndi gulu lachiwiri samakhulupirira chikondi chenicheni cha amai kwa amuna. Choncho, ngakhale kuyesa kukhala bwenzi la munthu wotere, mwinamwake, mudzakhumudwa pa khoma lalikulu chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika ndi kusamvetsetsana. Ndi anyamatawa ndi zovuta komanso zovuta kwambiri kuti mumange mgwirizano uliwonse. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mosamala kapena mosadziŵa, iwo amayamba kubwezera ululu umene iwo amabweretsa wamkazi. Ndipo zoipa zonsezi zikhoza kutayika pa iwe. Sikuti mkazi aliyense akhoza kuchirikiza ichi ndikupitiriza kulimbana ndi mtima ndi kumverera kwa munthu. Ndikoyenera kukhala osati mkazi, komanso mlongo, bwenzi, mwanjira ina mayi, kuti asakhale ndi chidaliro chochepa. Achinyamata oterewa ndi ovuta kwambiri kulankhulana, musalankhule za iwo eni ndipo yesani kutseka momwe mungathere ndi kuchoka kwa akazi. Poyipa, amawona atsikana kugonana chabe komwe angagwiritsidwe ntchito, ndipo poipa kwambiri - iwo alibe chidwi chilichonse.
Ngati munthu akunena kuti samakhulupirira m'chikondi, ndiye kuti ali ndi mphamvu zenizeni. Ndi mkazi yekha amene amamupangitsa kuganiza choncho, sangathe kuyamikira. Inde, mukhoza kusintha chirichonse, kapena, yesetsani kuchita. Koma musayembekezere zotsatira zofulumira komanso njira yosavuta kumtima. Mufunikira nthawi yambiri, khama komanso kuleza mtima, kuti munthu wanu akhulupirire kuti kulibe chikondi. Ngati mutapambana, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti padzakhala munthu wachifundo, wabwino, wodekha yemwe ali pafupi omwe amakukondani.