Gudumu la Chimwemwe
Kwa zaka zambiri zandivuta kwambiri kuti ndikhale ndi "moto wauyaya" mwa ine ndekha ndi mwamuna wanga, kusunga kutsitsika kwa malingaliro. Mmalo mwa nthawi zowala, zosaiwalika zinadza moyo wabwino, tinayamba kumira nthawi zonse. Kukumbukira za masiku oyambirira, miyezi ndi zaka za moyo pamodzi ndi banja lirilonse nthawi zonse limakhala ndi chibwenzi chachikondi. Ambiri okwatirana amakhulupirira kuti m'moyo wawo nyengo ya maluwa ndi yosangalatsa kwambiri. Kenaka moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ukuyamba, umene ukugaya wina ndi mzake, nthawi zambiri umatsagana ndi zochitika zogwira mtima. Ndipo kumasuka, kukongola kwa ubale, kumverera tsiku ndi tsiku kwa tchuthi, komwe kunayambira pachiyambi cha nkhaniyi, iyenera kuiwalika. Pachifukwa ichi, munthu akhoza kukonda munthu, amamulakalaka, koma nthawi yomweyo amamva chisoni pafupi naye. Kwa zaka zambiri, pali ngozi yothetsera mikangano ndi mikangano yapakhomo. Kubadwa kwa mwana kungathenso kusokoneza vutoli. Ndipotu, pafupifupi nthawi zonse amafunika kuperekedwa kwa mwana wakhanda, ndipo ndi ocheperapo. Koma chofunika cha mgwirizano, mgwirizano waukwati sikuti ungothetse mavuto okhawo apakhomo. Sitikuiwala kuti makolo ndi anthu apamtima, okwatirana, okonda ... Sizovuta kubwezeretsanso kumverera kwachisangalalo polankhulana wina ndi mzake. Achibale a zachipatala amalimbikitsa chilengedwe chonse ... kawirikawiri pitani tsiku limodzi wina ndi mzake.
Bweretsani chikondi ndi maubwenzi
Misonkhano imatithandiza kumverera kuti moyo sichimangokhala kholo komanso kuthana ndi mavuto a m'banja. Ndizomveka kuti kubwerera ku nthawi yokoma ya misonkhano yoyamba, pamene tidangodziwa bwino komanso tinakondana. Woyambitsa zoterezi akhoza kukhala munthu. Ngakhale kuti kawirikawiri lingaliro la kubwezeretsa kutsitsika kwa malingaliro mu maubwenzi limabuka kuchokera kwa mkazi yemwe ali wokhudzika kwambiri ndi wamalingaliro. Ndi iye amene amamva kuti alibe ubwenzi wapamtima ndi mwamuna wake, wokondedwa, mnzake. Mkhalidwe wofunikira pamsonkhano woterewu ndi kukonza zokambirana, zomwe simunachite (kapena kuchita) kwa nthawi yaitali. Izi ndizofunikira kuti muwone mnzanuyo mosiyana, kudziŵa wina, mpaka pano osadziwika kwa inu mbali ya umunthu wake. Misonkhano yotereyi ndiyodabwitsa. Nthawi ina, mmodzi wa inu ankafuna kuyenda kuzungulira mzindawo madzulo, mumasankha msonkhano wina pamalo pomwe tsiku lanu loyamba linachitikira. Ndipo, popanda kufulumira, mudzadutsa njira zodziwika bwino zomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense ali nazo: mabwalo amtendere pakati, misewu, mapiri, mapaki. Mukhoza kutsiriza kuyenda mu cafe yomwe mumaikonda kapena malesitilanti. Koma osachepera malingaliro a maulendo awo omwe munalingaliridwa bwino ndi kukonzedwa ndi inu. Mwa njira, ziribe kanthu zomwe mumachita mu maora awa, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mutha kuzigwiritsa ntchito pamodzi (mukhoza kusamalira ana ndi mwana wamwamuna kapena kukonza ndi agogo awo). Kumbukiraninso kuti chinthu chimene mwasankha kuti mudzipereke kwa maola angapo, chiyenera kukutsatirani nonse.
N'zotheka kuti, ngakhale kuti mabanja ena ndi achilendo, koma nthawi yomweyo, nthawi yowonjezera ndi ... banja lamadzulo kutsogolo kwa TV. Zosangalatsa zoterezi zidzakhala kulawa, mwachitsanzo, otanganidwa kwambiri ndi bizinesi ndi ntchito yawo, okwatirana amene kawirikawiri sangakwanitse kulankhula momasuka kunyumba ... Ngati zokonda zanu ndi zofuna zanu zisagwirizane, mukhoza kufotokoza tsatanetsatane. Tiye tinene kuti ndiwe wothamanga kwambiri yemwe saphonyeza padera, ndipo mpira umakhala pafupi naye. Choncho mumagula matikiti awiri ku sewero ndikumuitanira ku seweroli. Iye - matikiti awiri a mpira, ndipo inu mukuwona machesi a zaka pamodzi ... Momwe ife tikuwonera, chinthu choyandikira kwambiri kuti chiyanjano chikhale nthawi zonse chikhale chikondwerero cha tsiku lachikondi. Rendezvous ndi mwamuna wake sangathe kuthetsa kugonana. Kupatula ngati kugonana kokha kumathandiza kuti banja likhale pamodzi. Ngati mmodzi mwa okwatirana akukumana ndi mavuto kapena osakayikira, musamangokhalira kunena izi. Kwa okwatirana, ndikofunikira kukhala osasokonezeka mu ubale osati kuyesa kutsitsimutsa moyo wa kugonana, kuyesera, mwachitsanzo, chithunzi cha mchitidwe wowonongeka, osati wofanana ndi inu. Zingakhale zoopsya munthu. Ndipo maulendo a theka, kukhudzidwa nthawi zina, kuyamikila - zonsezi zimamuthandiza kumvetsa kuti ndi yekhayo amene akufunira.