Zikuwoneka kuti iwe wasintha. Iye salinso chomwe inu mumamukonda iye. Ndipo inu, simusintha? Kodi mukuganiza kuti mwakhalabe kuseka komweko komwe munthu, yemwe adakhumudwa nanu, ankakonda, ngati wamisala.
Mau ndi mawu ambiri adatulutsidwa pa mfundo yakuti nthawi yayitali chikondi chimachoka. Anthu ena amakonda kutchinjiriza ku mwayi kuti amve chikondi. Chifukwa cha zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito mphamvu zanu ndi maganizo anu, ngati chikondi chimatha. Ndipotu, malinga ndi maganizo a anthu, chikondi chimakhala ndi moyo wa alumali.
Mwinamwake ndi koyenera kufufuza, ndi izi ndi chifukwa chake chikondi chimachoka.
Kodi chikondi ndi chiyani? Inde, aliyense amamvetsa izi mwa njira yawo. Koma, aliyense wokonda kumbuyo kwake kumakula mapiko. Pamene mukukonda, ndikufuna kusangalala ndi moyo ndikukondweretsa aliyense wondizungulira, makamaka chikondi. Iwe umakopeka ndi wokondedwa wako, ndipo iwe sungakhoze kulingalira moyo wako popanda iye.
Wokondedwa amakhala pakati pa chilengedwe chonse. Ngakhale malingaliro samawuka kuti akhumudwitse, kupereka kapena kunyalanyaza. Ndipotu, chikondi chanu ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali komanso chamtengo wapatali pamoyo wanu.
Zoonadi, zonsezi zimamveka bwino. Ndipo, ndi chiyani chomwe chidzatsala?
Kuti mumvetse chifukwa chake chikondi chimatha, m'pofunika kumvetsa chifukwa chake mumagwirizana ndi wosankhidwa wanu. Ngati kokha kumwetulira kokongola, thupi lokongola, deta yakunja, kugonana kokongola - ndiye mwayi wotsalira chikondi umakula. Ndipotu zonsezi ndizosafunikira. Ndipo, nkomwe, nkofunikira kulingalira kuti ichi ndi chikondi.
Mwinamwake mumayamba kukondana ndi munthu chifukwa chakuti amakusamalirani bwino komanso kukukomerani? Mumakonda maganizo ake kwa inu nokha. Chiyambi cha ubwenzi wachikondi chimapangitsa chidwi chowonjezeka pa nkhani ya chikondi. Koma, pamene "magalasi akuda" akugwa, chisokonezo chakumverera kwakukulu chidzadutsa - nchiyani chomwe chidzakhalabe mu mtima mwanu? Padzakhala lingaliro la chizolowezi, maluwa tsiku ndi tsiku, khofi pabedi ndi masiku okondeka adzatayika. Ndiye, mwinamwake, mudzakhumudwitsidwa ndi mnzanuyo, monga mukumvetsetsa kuti iye, pambali panu, ali ndi moyo wake.
"Chikondi" ichi chimatha msanga.
Chikondi ndi pamene simukukonda maonekedwe okongola, osati chidwi chake. Chikondi ndi pamene mumakonda munthu mwiniwake, monga momwe alili.
Ndipo, tsopano ganizirani, ngati mutayamba kukondana ndi munthu, chifukwa amakonda ana, ndi wokoma mtima, wodalira mwa iye mwini. Ganizirani, kodi chikondi chidzatha, ngati mumangomkonda munthu uyu monga momwe alili? Osamvetsera kuti patapita nthawi, adachira kapena ayi, chifukwa poyamba anali ndi maluwa? Mumayamikira dziko lapansi, umunthu wake. Inde, ndithudi, zili ndi zovuta, koma mudaphunziranso momwe mungazikondere.
Khulupirirani ine, ngati chikondi chanu chiri monga choncho, ndiye kuti sichidzatha. Zomwezo zokha zomwe zimadziyesa kuti zimakonda zimatha, koma siziri.
Chikondi chikhoza kuphwanyika. Izi zimakhudzidwa ndi zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku - moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, mavuto kuntchito, mavuto m'banja. Nthawi zonse amakangana ndikukangana wina ndi mnzake - chikondi chimaphedwa mwamsanga.
Ngati, mukufuna kusunga chikondi mu ubale wanu kwa zaka zambiri, phunzirani kumvetsetsa ndi kulemekezana.
Khalani tsiku limodzi ndikusiya nthawi zonse kuganizira kale. Kumbukirani kuti simungathe kubwezeretsa kumverera komweko. Koma, kuwongolera izo ndi zenizeni.
Lero, pamene mubwera kuchokera kuntchito, yang'anani mzanu ndi maso ena. Mwinamwake iye anasintha panja, koma, pansi, iye akadali mwana yemwe iwe umayamba kugwidwa ndi chikondi ndi mtima wako wonse.