Kuchotsa ma contact, kutaya zinthu zoperekedwa, izi ndi zachilendo kwa anthu omwe apatulidwa. Anyamata, kawirikawiri, amayi ochepa amadera nkhaŵa chifukwa cha kusiyana, ndipo ngati atero, amayesera kubisala kwa ena, komanso kwa iwo okha. Amachita zimenezi chifukwa malingaliro amalingaliro, mmalingaliro awo, amatsutsana ndi umunthu weniweni wa amuna - ayenera kukhala amphamvu, okhazikika ndi odekha. Atsikana, mosiyana, nthawi zambiri amakhala osiyana kwambiri ndi okondedwa awo, makamaka ngati malingaliro awo anali enieni. Amatha kulowa m'madzi, kupembedzerana tizilombo tating'ono tomwe timapatsidwa, kapena akhoza kuyamba moyo watsopano, mosiyana.
Nanga n'chifukwa chiyani atsikana amafuna kubwerera kukale?
Zifukwa zomwe atsikana amatha kusiya amuna awo nthawi zina zimakhala zachilendo, nthawi zina zimakhala zovomerezeka, koma sangathe kukhululukira anthu chifukwa cha zochita zawo, makamaka chifukwa cha kukhululukira koteroko pakhale chifukwa chabwino kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ndi kovuta kwambiri kukhululukira munthu chifukwa cha chiwembu, komabe, ngati mkazi. Amapulumutsa milandu yoteroyo, kaya chikondi kapena ndalama, ndipo ndizovuta kunena zomwe ziri zogwira mtima. Mtsikana, ngati amamukonda kwambiri mwamuna wake, amatha kumukhululukira kuti apereke ngongole ndikubwerera kwa iye pambuyo pa mkangano, koma izi zidzasokoneza chiyanjano chawo. Msungwanayo, yemwe amathamangitsa ndalama, amatha kumeza kunyada kwake, komanso, ngati, kukhululukira munthu, koma kukhululukidwa koteroko sikungakhale koona mtima, ndipo m'tsogolomu sikudzakhalanso kuthetsa mtendere.
Izi zimachitika kuti asungwana akuponya anyamata awo chifukwa cha chikwama chawo. Ndife ochepa chabe omwe angayende kwa zaka zingapo ndi chovala chimodzi ndi kukhala okhutira ndi nyumba yaing'ono yolipira kunja kwa mzinda. Mkhalidwe wotero sungakhoze kupulumutsidwa ngakhale ndi chikondi cholimba, chifukwa mwamuna pamaso pa mkazi ayenera kuwoneka ngati chithandizo, getter, munthu yemwe sadzasunga yekha, komanso ana awo. Zotsatira zake, zowonongeka nthawi zonse, aliyense m'banja amamva manyazi komanso amakhumudwitsidwa. Mwamuna amadziphimba yekha, ndipo chifukwa cha izi amalephera kuthetsa yekha mwa akatswiri. Mkazi nthawi zonse amamenyana ndi munthu ndi mitundu yonse ya zofuna, ngakhale kuti amakumana ndi zovuta zake, koma amakhulupirira kuti kuukiridwa ndi njira yokhayo yokhalira kukondweretsa wokondedwa wake. Zimakhala mzere wovuta, umene sungathe kugonjetsa awiriwa, mocheperanso kubwereranso pakatha kupuma. Pali mantha oti abwerere ku nkhawa zonse, umphawi komanso chikondi chokhachokha chingathe kuligonjetsa.
Alipo atsikana okhazikika omwe amakumana ndi wina kapena mzake. Mwinamwake iwo sangakhoze kupeza zomwe iwo akufuna kuti azikhala masiku awo onse, kapena, mosiyana, safuna kuti azikhala omangidwa ndi chiyanjano chosatha. Pachifukwa ichi, chifukwa cholekanitsa chikhoza kukhala chinthu chonyenga, ngakhale chonchi ngati kugula chokoleti chosakondedwa. Komabe, kubwereranso pa nkhaniyi kungatheke mosayembekezereka: mtsikana akhoza kukhumudwa ndi mnzanu watsopano kapena angaoneke kuti ndi iye yekhayo komanso yekhayo amene ali abwino, koma pazifukwa zotero ndizodzidzimutsa yekha ndipo posakhalitsa azidutsa. Ndiyeno msungwanayo abwereranso ku kufufuza. Mwinamwake iye amupeza iye atapepuka.
Nthawi zina, anthu amalekanitsidwa ndi zofunikira: kusamuka kwa banja, ntchito yatsopano yosangalatsa, masoka. Momwe anthu sakondana wina ndi mnzake, sangasinthe mikhalidwe. Komabe, ngati phokoso la malingaliro amodzi lagwera m'mitima mwawo, akhoza kuyesa kupeza wina ndi mzake. Makamaka ndizotheka kunena za anthu okondedwa. Ngakhale patapita zaka zambiri, msungwanayo ali ndi mwamuna wina, mwinamwake iwo anakwanitsa kukwatira, adzakumbukira chikondi chake chenicheni ndipo, pamsonkhano wawo, adzayesa kubwezeretsa yekha. Chowonadi n'chakuti sikuchitika nthawi zonse. Munthu akhoza kusiya kumverera. Mwina iye ali wolimbikira kwambiri ntchito yake kuti sangathe kukonda aliyense. Kapena amaika banja lake latsopano, kumene, mwinamwake, ana awonekera. Pankhaniyi, ngakhale kuti sadandaula, mwamunayu adzayesa kukonda chikondi chakupita m'mtima mwake ndikudzipereka yekha kwa ana ake, banja lake latsopano.
Zimakwaniritsidwa ndipo -ndipo mtsikana akuyenda pansi mumsewu ndikumuwona akupita kumzake. Koma iye nthawiyina ankamukonda iye. Anampatsa mphatso zokongola, akupanga mazira otukumuka m'mawa, kupita naye ku mafilimu, ndipo ambiri ankasangalala pamodzi. Chifukwa cha chiyani adakangana ndi kupatukana? Zikuwoneka kuti chifukwa chake chimayendayenda nthawi zonse m'nyumba zonse. Kotero wopusa. Ndipo tsopano iye akuyenda yekha, anthu ena mosakayikira akufanizira ndi iye. Chilichonse ndi choipa. Izi ndizokhasi zonyansa zokhazokha. Ndipo iye amapita ndi wina. Kodi amavutika? Mwinamwake, inde, chifukwa amadziwa kuti amamukonda. Ndipo iye akuvutika. Kodi ndizofunika? Mwinamwake ayi. Kodi masokosi ndi T-shirt angapange chisangalalo chaumunthu? - N'zosangalatsa. Ndipo nsanje iyi, chifukwa mmalo mwa mtsikanayo iyenera kukhala iyo. Choncho, m'tsogolomu, akuyesetsa mwakhama kuti amubwezeretse chibwenzi chake. Kotero kuti iye sangafikire kwa ena, chifukwa chakuti ali ndi zambiri kuposa ena sangatero.
Zotsatira zake, tikhoza kunena kuti nthawi zambiri amai amabwerera kwa omwe kale ankakonda kapena amuna awo, kutsata malingaliro awo, zomwe zimawauza mitima yawo. Amaganiziranso miyoyo yawo yakale, kumbukirani zolakwitsa zawo, zolakwa zawo, kuwona ngati zolakwa zawo ndizo zosangalatsa zawo? Nthawi zambiri yankho ndilo ayi. Pali akazi ambiri. Amabwerera kumbuyo, chifukwa choopa kutaya moyo wawo, chuma chawo, mwayi wokwaniritsa zolinga zawo. N'zotheka kubwerera chifukwa cha nsanje kwa atsikana ena. Ndiponsotu, mungatani kuti ena akhale osangalala pamene mulibe, koma pamene mudali naye. Ena sangathe kupeza mzawo. Iwo amathamangira mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo akufufuza, koma kawirikawiri amabwera bwino.
Kodi n'zotheka kupereka yankho la funsoli: Chifukwa chiyani atsikana akufuna kubwerera kumbuyo? Mosakayikira. Chifukwa chofala ndi chikondi, chomwe, ngakhale zovuta zonse, zimagwirizanitsa anthu.