Amayi osakwatiwa ndi ndani?
Zaka makumi angapo zapitazo, chisankho cha mkazi kuti akhale mayi wosakwatiwa chimawoneka chopanda pake. Tsopano si zachilendo. M'mizinda ikuluikulu komwe moyo umayenda motsatira malamulo ake, komwe malire pakati pa chiyambi cha amuna ndi akazi amachotsedwa, amayi ambiri amasankha kukhala ndi mwana, mosasamala kanthu kuti wokondedwa woyenera amapezeka kapena ayi. Monga lamulo, awa ndi amayi achikulire omwe sangapereke mwana denga pamwamba pa mutu wawo, koma amakhalanso okonzeka kutenga udindo wawo wonse. Akaziwa safuna thandizo kapena thandizo kuchokera ku boma, amadalira okha.
Gulu lina la amayi omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala okha ndi ana ali atsikana aang'ono omwe abweretsa ana mofulumira kwambiri, osakonzekera. Kawirikawiri amabereka ana kunja kwaukwati kapena ukwatiwo umatha msinkhu, monga ana sakanakhazikitsidwe kapena akufunira makolo onsewo. Izi zimachitika pamene mtsikana ayamba kukhala moyo wachikulire mofulumira komanso mofulumira, koma sangathe kutenga udindo wake wonse pazochita zake. Chomwe chimatsogolera kutenga pakati.
Eya, gulu lofala kwambiri ndi amayi osakwatiwa, amene adasiyidwa okha pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Mwatsoka, palibe amene amapewa mavuto ndi zokhumudwitsa. Pamene anthu amapanga banja, amayembekezera zabwino, koma panthawi yomwe anthu ndi makhalidwe awo akusintha, okwatirana sali panjira. Zilibe kanthu kuti ndani ayambitsa phokoso, pazifukwa zilizonse, ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mwanayo asalowe. Amayi ayenera kudzipangira okha udindo wa abambo pakuleredwa kwa mwanayo.
Zovuta
Amayi osakwatira amafunika kuthandizidwa pafupifupi nthawi zonse. Ndipo si ndalama zokha, monga momwe amayi ambiri alili ndi mwayi wopeza zokwanira kuti adzipezere okha komanso mwana wawo. Zovuta zambiri zimabweretsa anthu.
Choyamba, nthawi zambiri mkazi amene amalerera mwana yekha amakhala ndi udindo wapadera kwa iye. Cholimba kapena chosakondweretsa, koma chikukhudzidwa ndi zofunikira kwambiri, mpaka anthu amawoneka kuti akuyesa pa zoyesayesa zilizonse kuti athe kukonza moyo wawo, maulendo amachitiridwa ngati zonyansa, kukhumudwitsa mwana wachinyamata, ngakhale mkaziyo atayesetsa kuchita zinthu moyenera. Zimakhala kuti kuti akhale ndi ufulu wokhala ndi moyo waumwini ndi kukhala wosangalala, mayi wosakwatiwa amapereka chilango chotseguka.
Chachiwiri, mkazi amakumana ndi zovuta zambiri zomwe makolo onsewo amachita nawo, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri pamaganizo ake. Nthawi zina pamene amayi okwatirana angadalire thandizo ndi kuthandizidwa ndi mwamuna, amayi osakwatiwa amakakamizika kudziyang'anira okha. Popanda kuthandizidwa, amayi nthawi zambiri amakhala osungulumwa, m'miyoyo yawo palibe kawirikawiri malo omwe alipo kuposa mwana ndi ntchito.
Chachitatu, si chinsinsi chakuti amayi osakwatiwa amakumana ndi mavuto a maganizo ochokera kwa ena. Izi zikuwonekera mwa njira zosiyanasiyana. Anzake okwatirana amachititsa kuti azidzichepetsa, nthawi zambiri amatsutsa, chifukwa m'mabungwe athu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti udindo wa kusunga banja umakhala ndi mkaziyo. Ngati mkazi sapeza munthu kapena amugwire, ndiye kuti akuwonjezeredwa vutoli. Kawirikawiri pali mavuto omwe amagwira nawo ntchito ku chipatala kwa ana, nthawi zambiri amakhala achibale omwe salowererapo bwino polera mwanayo, poganiza kuti amayi okhawo sangathe kulimbana nawo.
Palinso mavuto ena omwe amayi osakwatiwa amadziwa ndikumva. Zimakhala zovuta kufotokozera ana okalamba, komwe abambo awo ali, chifukwa chake samakhala nawo.
Kusintha maganizo
Zikuwoneka kuti palibe chophweka - ndikwanira kupeza mwamuna wabwino ndi bambo wabwino kwa ana anu kuthetsa mavuto onse a amayi osakwatiwa kamodzi. Koma, zomvetsa chisoni ngati zingawonekere, ngati ana sakusowa abambo awo, amalume a munthu wina amawafuna ngakhale pang'ono. Mzimayi samakhala wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi, ndizovuta kuti iye akhulupirire munthu wina. Kuonjezera apo, amayi akuda nkhaŵa za momwe ubale weniweni wa ana awo ndi abambo awo opezawo udzakhalire, chifukwa mukumenyana kulikonse adzamva kuti ali ndi mlandu. Azimayi ena ali ndi mwayi, amakumana ndi munthu amene amakhala atate weniweni kwa ana awo ndi thandizo lawo, koma izi sizichitika nthawi zonse.
Ngati palibe munthu woyenera, ndiye kuti muyenera kuphunzira kuthetsa mavuto anu nokha. Musaiwale kuti maphunziro a abambo kwa ana ndi ofunikira, mosasamala kanthu za amuna awo. Anyamata ndi anyamata onse amafunikira dzanja la munthu. Zimakhala bwino ngati abambo akukhalabe ndi ana atatha kusudzulana, koma ngati simukufuna, muyenera kuyang'ana njira yopulumukira. Inde. Kulerera ana mlendo sangathe, koma mphamvu ya anthu oyandikana ndi yofunikira. Kungakhale agogo, amalume, odziwa bwino omwe nthawi ndi nthawi amawachitira ana, kuyenda nawo, kuyankhulana. Ngakhale zosawerengeka, koma misonkhano yanthawi zonse idzakhala yothandiza kwambiri ndipo idzawathandiza ana kupulumuka kusowa kwa abambo awo.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mkazi azigwira ntchito yodzidalira. Pogwiritsa ntchito malingaliro a anthu komanso moyo wovuta, nthawi zambiri amavutika. Kufunika kokhala ngati munthu wathunthu, woyenera kukhala wachimwemwe, sangathe kukanidwa. Choncho, ndikofunika kuyesa kupeza chinachake m'moyo kupatula zolephereka, mavuto ndi ana komanso tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndikwanira kuyesa kupeza chinthu chomwe chimathandiza kukhalabe ndi chitonthozo cha uzimu kuti athetse malingaliro a kulakwa ndi zina zolakwika. Izi ndi zofunikanso kwa ana anu, popeza mayi wokondwa ali bwino kuposa mayi wosasangalala.
Kulakwitsa kwina komwe kawirikawiri kumapangidwa ndi amayi osakwatiwa ndi kusunga ana ambiri. N'zosadabwitsa kuti ana amakhala anthu awo ofunikira kwambiri kwa nthawi ndithu. Koma hyperopeak ndizovulaza psyche ya mwanayo. Mwanayo akakhala ndi moyo woteroyo adzakulira wosasokonezeka, wodalirika komanso wamng'ono. Amayi ayenera kuganizira za nthawi yomwe mwana wake adzakulire ndi kukonzekera moyo wodziimira yekha. Choncho, ayenera kusamala kuti anali wosangalala osati ali mwana, ndiko kuti, kugwira ntchito m'tsogolo. Choncho, ziribe kanthu kuti mukuyesedwa bwanji, simungamulimbikitse mwanayo kuti anthu sangathe kudalirika, ngakhale atangopulumutsidwa posachedwapa. Kawirikawiri izi ndi tchimo la amayi osakwatira omwe ali ndi ana, amawaphunzitsa kuti amuna onse ayenera kupereka ndi kunyenga. Izi zimasokoneza chithunzi chenicheni cha dziko la mwanayo ndipo zimakhudza maubwenzi ambiri ndi abambo.
Amayi osakwatira amakhala ndi moyo wovuta, koma nthawi zambiri amadzivutitsa okha. Kungakhale kulakwitsa kuganiza kuti kukhala ndi mwana kapena kusudzulana kumakayikira kuthekera kwowonjezera chimwemwe. Ndikofunika kuti musunge nokha makhalidwe omwe amakulolani kuti mukhulupirire mwabwino, kukhala omasuka komanso okoma mtima. Mu miyoyo ya akazi otero, zofuna zawo komanso ana awo ayenera kubwera poyamba. Ndi malingaliro oterowo kumoyo, sipadzakhala malo a malingaliro onena za malingaliro a munthu kapena vuto lodzidalira. Mayi aliyense ali ndi mwayi wokwanira wokondweretsa mwana wake komanso kukhala wosangalala. Mukungofunikira kuzigwiritsa ntchito.