Kodi tingatani kuti tikhalebe paubwenzi ndi mwanayo ali mwana? Kodi mungamuuze bwanji kuti, ngati palibe wina, mumamufunira chimwemwe?
Ali mwana, mwana amamva kuti mavuto ake ndi ochuluka kwambiri moti iye yekha sangathe kuwathetsa. Pano iwe uyenera kubweretsa zopulumutsira, koma osasamala. Musamuuze mwanayo choti achite, msiyeni iye azipanga yekha zisankho yekha. Choyamba muyenera kukhala bwenzi lakale, koma osati mphunzitsi wovuta. Mnyamata si mwana, amatha kuthetsa mavuto ake oyambirira yekha. Khalani pomwepo, adzalandira chidwi chanu.
Ndi achinyamata amene ali ndi zinsinsi komanso zinsinsi zomwe amasunga mosamala komanso sawalola makolo kuphunzira chilichonse. Perekani mwanayo ufulu wotsogolera moyo wake, chifukwa mwa njira imeneyi amakula. Komabe muyenera kudziwa zochitika zonse za moyo wake. Kuti muchite izi, mukhoza kukonza madzulo a vumbulutso. Penyani kanema palimodzi, pita kukavala masewera olimbitsa thupi, khalani mu cafe. Nthawi yowonjezera imayambitsa mwanayo mwachilungamo. Musamukakamize kuti akuuzeni chinachake, yambani nokha: muuzeni za chikondi chanu choyamba cha kusukulu, momwe munalembera mndandanda mwachinsinsi kapena chinachake mu mzimu wake pa msinkhu wawo, ndipo mum'funseni. Muuzeni kuti simunakhumudwitse nkhani zake.
Achinyamata nthawi zina amasankha mabwenzi omwe makolo awo sakonda kwambiri. Ngati mwana wayamba kulankhulana ndi kampani yoipa, malamulo anu angangowonjezera vutoli: akhoza kuchita chilichonse kuti akuchitireni zoipa, kusonyeza kuti ali kale wamkulu, ndipo ali ndi ufulu wosankha anzanu. Zidzakhala bwino ngati inu muli muyeso wabwino mukuwonetsa zolephera za abwenzi ake, omwe amawona chirichonse kupatula iye. Ngati zimakhudza zinthu zazikulu monga mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndiye kuti vutoli ndi losiyana. Pano mukufunikira "ayi" momveka bwino komanso bwino (ndi mwamuna wabwino). Pamene mkangano woyamba ndi mkwiyo umatha, yesetsani kunyamula chinachake cha mwanayo. Ganizirani zomwe akufuna kuchita ndipo, pambali iyi, mubwere ndi zokondweretsa palimodzi. Zosangalatsa zili zofunika kwambiri kwa mwanayo, sikuti amangogwira ntchito chabe, koma amapanganso maganizo enieni payekha - mwanayo amayamba kudzizindikira yekha ngati umunthu wa chinthu china chofunikira. Nthawi zina chisankho chabwino chimapangitsa mwanayo kukhala ndi cholinga pamoyo wake.
Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yambiri, kuchita zinthu zofanana: kuyeretsa pamodzi, kuphika chinachake chokoma, kupita kukagula, kuyenda, kuyankhula. Ndikofunika kumupatsa maganizo ake, komanso kuthandizira kuthetsa mavuto ake. Yandiyandikira kwambiri.
Mwina vuto lalikulu kwa mwanayo ndiwonekera. Achinyamata (makamaka atsikana) nthawi zonse sakhutira ndi kusintha kwa zaka zomwe zimakhudza nkhope zawo: khungu la mafuta, ziphuphu. Fotokozerani kwa mwana kuti chirichonse chikudutsa mu izi, kuti pamapeto pake zonse zidzatembenuzidwa bwino, simuyenera kuzindikira kuti anzanu amanyansidwa nawo, ndibwino kuti muzichita chilichonse ndi kuseketsa. Ndipotu, nkhwangwa zonse zokongola zimakula kuchokera ku nkhono zovuta.
Nthawi ya unyamata ndi yovuta kwambiri pamoyo. Pitirizani limodzi ndi mwana wanu, mumuthandize muzinthu zonse, musamutsutse, mukhale bwenzi lake lapamtima, ndipo zonse zomwe ziri m'banja mwanu zidzakhala bwino.