Mbadwo waung'ono sungatsegule zinsinsi zawo zonse ku zinsinsi, ziribe kanthu momwe mukuyesera kuti mudziwe za iwo. Koma tinatha kulankhula momasuka ndi ophunzira ndi ophunzira ambiri ndikupeza zomwe adaganizira.
Malingana ndi ana ambiri, zakumwa zoledzeretsa zimagwiritsidwa ntchito makamaka mu "maphwando" osiyanasiyana, mwachitsanzo, m'magulu ang'onoang'ono, m'mabwalo odyera, mu mipiringidzo, pa mpira wophunzira maphunziro komanso ngakhale panyumba pamene palibe makolo.
Achinyamata amakhulupirira kuti kukwera m'makampani kumasonyeza kuti akukula, ngakhale kuti ndizosazindikira komanso ndiivety. Ena amamwa "molimba mtima". Malingana ndi mnyamata wina: "Ndine wamanyazi, choncho ndikuwopa kupita kwa mtsikanayo. Koma ndikadzamwa "chifukwa cha kulimba mtima", zidzakhala zosavuta. " Pankhaniyi, manyazi ambiri ndi ovuta kuyambira ali mwana, ndipo si mnyamata yemwe ali ndi mlandu koma makolo omwe ataya chinachake mu maphunziro awo kapena sanadziwe zomwe ana awo ali nazo ndi anzanu akusukulu kusukulu. N'kosatheka kusunga zonse: mwanayo ali ndi moyo wake, ndipo nthawi zambiri amathera ku sukulu yophunzitsa kapena ndi abwenzi omwe angathenso kuchita zoipa. Pano pali chitsanzo.
Olya, wa zaka 16: "Ndinayamba kumwa mowa pamene anzanga akucheza nawo anayamba kunyoza mawu okhumudwitsa akuti:" N'chiyani, chofooka? "Choncho ndinaganiza zosonyeza ufulu wawo ndi kudziimira kwa makolo awo, ngakhale kuti zakumwa zoledzeretsa siziwoneka zokoma, zimatentha khosi ndipo pamapeto pake pamakhala phokoso losasangalatsa la vortex, ndipo m'mawa mutu umakhala wamaliseche, umakhala wowawa kwambiri m'nyumba yonseyo. "
Choyamba, msungwanayo adagonjetsedwa ndi abwenzi ake, ndipo adangomusonyeza kuti ali wofooka. Mwina tsopano abwenzi angazindikire kuti Olya akhoza "kugwiritsidwa ntchito" chifukwa cha kufooka kwa khalidwe lake.
Nthawi zina, chifukwa cha kuledzeretsa kwachinyamata ndi chinachake kupatula malonda mu magazini osokoneza achinyamata, komanso mauthenga achikasu, TV, Intaneti. Wogulitsa malonda ali yense amadziwa kuti malonda a zogulitsa zonse ayenera kulenga chikhalidwe chabwino, kulimbikitsa kuti chirichonse chili chabwino, kusonyeza mitundu, kukopa phukusi ndikupanga dziko la zinyengo, ngakhale kuti moyo ndi wovuta kwambiri. Cholinga chawo chachikulu ndi ndalama, phindu. Palibe aliyense amene akuganiza za thanzi lathu, kupanga mowa.
Chochitika china chosadziwika bwino chinachitika ndi msungwana wazaka 15, yemwe, atatha kuyang'anitsitsa azisewera achichepere, adaganiza kuti mowa ndi wokongola. "The heroine kwambiri anagwira botolo, kuti ine ndimutsanzire, kuti akhale ngati iye." Nazi zotsatira. Mtsikanayo ankakopeka ndi anyamata ophweka.
Mnyamata Andrei adatiuza zaka 17 kuti akumwa "chifukwa cha maganizo". "Chisokonezo" chimenechi chimathandiza kuti "msungwana" apakatikati kapena phwando, amathandizire kumasuka, kuiwala mavuto, kudzipatula okha. Inde, ndikudutsa mayeso, tinakondwerera cafesi, pomwe adatenga botolo la mowa. Kodi mowa ungakhale bwanji wopanda mowa? "
M'banja lililonse, wina posachedwa amachoka padziko lapansi. Pofuna kukumbukira munthu ndikupemphera kwa Mulungu kuti akhululukidwe machimo ake, miyendo imakonzedwa, yomwe m'mabanja ambiri amathera ndi "kumwa." Nastya, wazaka 16: "Ndayamba kuyesa vodka ali ndi zaka khumi ndi ziwiri pa phwando la maliro, pamene aliyense anali ataledzera. Ndinkakonda. Kuyambira pamenepo, nthawi zina ndimamwa, koma makolo anga sakudziwa. "
Nkhani ina inali yophweka. Alina, wa zaka 20: "Ndinayamba kumwa mowa pa 16. Tsopano ndine wamkulu ndipo palibe amene amandipatsa chilolezo." Ukalamba sichizindikiro chokhala wamkulu. Ndipo zaka 25 munthu akhoza kuganiza pa msinkhu wa mwana. Ndipo kukhala osachepera zaka 30, n'zovuta kuti munthu, makolo, awone kuti mwana wawo wapita "osati tempemet."
Pokhapokha ngati makolo sapereka nthawi yoyenera kwa mwana wawo akukula ndikusowa kanthu kena pakulera kwake, pali zochitika zina pamene abambo ndi amayi amawasamalira ana awo mochuluka. Mwana ayenera kumva ufulu. Ndipo zotsatira zake zingakhale zotani chifukwa cha ufulu wotsatira kupanga zosankha zawo, tiona chitsanzo. Mtsikana wina wazaka 19, dzina lake Oksana, anati: "Zinkawoneka kuti zinali zovuta ngakhale kupuma, choncho anandiletsa kwambiri ndipo ankandinyalanyaza chilichonse chimene ndinkafunika kuti ndiphunzire sukulu. Ndinawononga ngakhale phwando la maphunzirowo. Pa nthawi imene anyamata onse anapita kudziko kuti ayendemo, ndinakhala pakhomo ndikupukuta misonzi chifukwa chakuti ndinasowa mwayi wokhala ndi mwayi wopita ku sukulu ngati ana onse. Koma ndinaganiza zodziwitsa makolo kuti ineyo nditha kusankha zochita. Ndinayamba kumwa. Ndipo izo zinandithandiza kuchokapo ndi mavuto. Ndipo makolo sakanakhoza kuchita chirichonse kwa ine. Ndinamwa chifukwa choipa. "
Amayi ndi abambo sanangotaya mtima. Panali zochititsa manyazi, ngakhale kufika pa lamba. Msungwanayo analembedwanso ndipo anapatsidwa mankhwala okwera mtengo ochokera ku mowa mwauchidakwa. Palibe chomwe chinathandiza: "Black Streak" inatha pokhapokha pamene makolo adaitana mtsikanayo kuti akambirane payekha, zomwe zinachitika mwamtendere.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsa kuchokera kwa makolo. Izi zinagwirizana ndi achinyamata onse omwe anafunsidwa. Nthawi zina sikofunika "kuthirira" ana anu ndi mankhwala osiyanasiyana, koma ndikofunika kuti mumuimbire momasuka ndi kumumvetsera, zomwe zikumudetsa nkhawa, zomwe zimamukakamiza. Ndipo ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti simungathe kuwonetsa nkhanza, mosasamala kanthu kuti mumamuimba mlandu wotani, komanso kuti simungamukwiyire bwanji, chifukwa zimamuopseza kuti mwanayo apitirize kudzipangira yekha, ndikupanga kuvutika maganizo ndi zovuta.