Pa mikangano pakati pa ana ndi makolo, palibe chachilendo ndi chachilendo. Ndipo komabe, chaka ndi chaka, kuyambira zaka zana mpaka zaka, mibadwo silingapeze chinenero chimodzi. Chifukwa chakuti ubale m'banja umapsa mtima, mikangano nthawi zonse imayamba, pali chidani komanso ngakhale chidani. Ngati banja likuyamba kuwononga maubwenzi, makolo ayenera kutengapo mwamsanga zinthu, kuti chilichonse chisakhale choipa. Koma mwachitsanzo, si amayi onse omwe amadziwa kukhazikitsa ubale ndi mwana wamkazi. Ngakhale, zikuoneka kuti, amayi awiri ayenera kumvetsetsana. Komabe, kusiyana pakati pa msinkhu kumaonekera. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayi onse samvetsetsa momwe angakhazikitsire maubwenzi ndi mwana wake wamkazi makamaka makamaka ali mwana.
Ndipo mavuto onse ndi mwana wake wamkazi, nthawi zambiri amayamba msinkhu. Komabe, izi sizosadabwitsa. Mayi aliyense amawoneka kuti mwana wake wamkazi ndi mwana wamkazi wapamwamba, mtsikana wokoma mtima, wokoma mtima wokhala ndi uta. Ndicho chifukwa chake mwana akamakula, zimakhala zovuta kuti mayi azigwirizana naye, chifukwa amayi ake amaganiza kuti ndi kamtsikana kakang'ono, ndipo mwana wake amafuna kumverera ngati mkazi wamkulu. Kodi mungatani ngati mukuchita zimenezi?
Kupewa Zosangalatsa
Choyamba, amai ambiri amasokoneza ubale wawo ndi mwana wawo poyesa kuika maganizo awo pa zokonda ndi zina zambiri. Kapena choipa kwambiri, iwo amanena kuti zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa za mtsikanayo ndizolakwika komanso sizinali zachilendo. Choncho musatero. Ngakhale mwanayo atayamba kuimba nyimbo zovuta, amadziona kuti ndi goth ndipo amapachika zojambulazo zachilendo, musangomaliza kunena kuti anali mu gulu loipa ndipo akudzivulaza.
Achinyamata, ana amafufuza okha ndikuyesera kuti adzifotokoze okha. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi ma subcultures, kuvala-dress-dressing, kumvetsera nyimbo, zosiyana ndi misa. Ngati ubale wanu ndi mwana wanu unayamba kuwonongeka chifukwa cha moyo wake, ndiye kuti monga mayi, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungavomereze. Ngati muwona kuti kalembedwe ndi zokonda zake sizikumukhudza (samamwa, kawirikawiri amaphunzira, amakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino), musayese kusintha mwana wawo. Komanso sizingakhale zofunikira pakulimbikitsanso kuti alowe mudziko lake. Muyenera kukhalabe amayi - ndiko kuti, munthu wachikulire amene samayesera kuti apite nawo, koma angathandize ndi uphungu akamapempha.
Kulankhulana ndi mwana wake wamkazi, muyenera kukhala ndi chidwi pa moyo wake, koma musapemphe. Adzadziuza yekha zomwe akuganiza kuti n'zoyenera, ngati simumamukakamiza. Pamene mtsikana atseguka pamaso panu, palibe chifukwa choti aweruzidwe. Ngakhale mutaganiza kuti sakuyenera, yesetsani kumupatsa uphungu, kumuuza njira zothetsera vutoli, koma musamufuule, musamuyitane, musanene kuti sakudziwa kanthu ndipo sakudziwa. Ngati mwanayo adzalandira chilango chokha, simungathe kukhazikitsa maubwenzi ndipo adzatseka.
Kusamvana chifukwa cha mnyamata
Kusamvana pakati pa amayi ndi mwana kungakhale chifukwa cha chikondi choyamba ndi azimayi omwe Amayi sakuvomereza. Inde, pakadali pano, amayi amavutika kwambiri kudziletsa okha, chifukwa akufuna kuteteza mwanayo kwa osayenera. Komabe, muzochitika zotero muyenera kudziyika nokha m'malo mwake ndikumbukira kuti mukakondana, mumangoona zabwino zokha, ndipo mukuwona kuti palibenso cholakwika chilichonse pa chinthu chousa moyo monga kunyozedwa. Choncho, ngakhale mayiyo atawona kuti mwanayo amasankha mnyamata wolakwika, ayenera kudzilamulira yekha ndi kumupatsa mwanayo kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa zake. Inde, ngakhale palibe yemwe amaletsa kupereka uphungu wosagwira ntchito.
Kawirikawiri, ngati mukufuna kukhazikitsa ubale ndi mwana wanu wamkazi, kumbukirani zambiri zomwe munali mu msinkhu wake. Phunzirani kuyang'ana zochitika osati zaka zanu, pamene mwakhala anzeru kale ndipo mwawona zambiri. Tayang'anani izi mwa maso a mwana wanu wamkazi, yemwe akuyamba kufufuza dziko lapansi. Ngati mungathe kuchita izi, mumvetsetsa momwe mungathandizire, popanda kutsutsana kuchokera pachiyambi.