Ndipotu, kwa anzao, tsopano, ndi choncho, koma kwa anthu ena iwo alidi mfundo zosangalatsa kuchokera ku moyo wa achinyamata. Nchiyani chikuchitika mmiyoyo ya achinyamata? Kodi mtengo wachinyamata ndi wotani? Ndi zochitika ziti zochititsa chidwi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti azichita mwanjira inayake? Ndi mfundo ziti zomwe zimakhudza chitukuko chawo ndi chitukuko chawo?
Kulankhula za moyo wa achinyamata, ndibwino kuimitsa pamaganizo atatu monga kugonana, chikondi ndi mowa. Ambiri amakhulupilira kuti kwa achinyamata achinyamata malingaliro awa asokonekera ndipo ataya mtengo. Inde, zambiri zimatsimikizira izi. Gawo lina la achinyamata likuima kufunafuna mbali zosangalatsa, kumverera kwakukulu, zokondweretsa ndi zina zotero. Ambiri a iwo amalinganiza kugonana ndi chikondi, ndipo musaiwale za mowa.
Koma, kwenikweni, si achinyamata onse omwe amaganiza choncho. Mwachitsanzo, tiyeni tiyankhule za kugonana. Zimakhulupirira kuti atsikana ambiri amayamba kugonana m'zaka khumi ndi zisanu kapena zisanu ndi chimodzi. Zoonadi, kwa okalamba izi sizolandiridwa, koma ndiyenera kufufuza chifukwa chake izi zili choncho. Inde, pali madona achichepere omwe amawerenga mabungwe ambiri komanso amamvetsera abwenzi achilendo omwe amakhulupirira kuti namwaliyo ndi vuto lomwe liyenera kuthetsedwa. Kotero iwo amayamba kugonana ndi pafupifupi aliyense mzere, ndiyeno akuvutika nacho. Koma musaganize kuti asungwana onse amakhulupirira ndikuchita mwanjira imeneyi. Pali anthu omwe amachititsa nkhaniyi mozama, ngakhale iwo akulingalira. Achinyamata chabe, amakono akukula mofulumira komanso mofulumira kuposa mbadwo wakale. Choncho, zilakolako zawo zimasiyana. Atsikana amakhala osasangalatsa ndi anzawo, chifukwa anyamata, ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri, adakali ana. Iwo akuyang'ana anyamata omwe ali kale ndi chinachake m'moyo wawo ndipo amachitira bwino maubwenzi. Choncho, amasankha omwe ali okalamba zaka zisanu kapena zisanu ndi chimodzi. Izi ndizovuta kuti anyamata a msinkhuwu akufuna kukhala ndi chizolowezi chogonana nthawi zonse ndipo asungwana ayenera kusankha ngati ali okonzeka kuti apite chifukwa cha wokondedwa. Ndizosangalatsa kuti asungwana ambiri amasankha pa sitepe iyi, chifukwa cha chikondi cha mnyamatayu, pokhala, osakonzekera izi. Kotero, iwo akhoza kukhala ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana ponena za kugonana, zovuta zikuwonekera, ndipo anyamata, osakhala okhutira, ingoyamba kusintha. Pankhaniyi, si atsikana onse atha kuzindikira kuti kulakwa kwawo sikuli mmenemo. Mwachidule, anyamata samakhala ndi chidziwitso komanso kuleza mtima kudikira nthawi yabwino ndikuchita zonse bwino.
Ndipo, kuchokera pa izi, n'zotheka kudutsa ku funso lachiwiri - funso lokhudza chikondi. Tsopano, atsikana ambiri amakhumudwa ndikumverera uku, chifukwa anthu adayesa kutiyesa ife ndi kukhala ngati abusa. N'zochititsa chidwi kuti amayi okhawo ali ndi mlandu pa izi, ngakhale kuti zonsezi zikudziwika. Kufikira mosavuta ndi vuto lalikulu la achinyamata amakono. Amuna anasiya kuyamikira amai ndikuwathandiza. Amapeza zosavuta kusiya mtsikana ndikupeza wina yemwe angagone naye, m'malo moyembekezera mpaka atakonzeka. Komanso, anyamata ambiri samasamala za kuchotsa mimba ndikuganiza kuti izi siziri vuto lawo konse.
Koma, ndikuyenera kuzindikira kuti si anthu onse omwe ali choncho. Pali anyamata, ndipo nthawi zambiri anthu oterewa amakumana pakati pa omwe ali pafupi zaka makumi awiri, omwe amagwirizana ndi malingaliro ndi maganizo awo mosiyana. Amakhulupirira kuti chikondi sichimangokhala pa chilakolako chakuthupi ndipo ndi okonzeka kuyembekezera mtsikana wokondedwa monga momwe kulili kofunikira.
Komanso, achinyamatawa ali ndi udindo woyembekezera mwanayo ndipo ali okonzeka kutenga udindo wawo. Amamvetsetsa chiopsezo chonse chochotsa mimba ndipo, mobwerezabwereza, samachimwira kwambiri. N'zovuta kunena chifukwa chake msinkhu uwu ndi wosiyana ndi ena. Mwachidziwikire, ana awa anayamba kumva kukoma kwa moyo wachikulire komanso pamene anali ndi zaka makumi awiri, iwo kale anali nawo, kuzindikira kuti malingaliro ndi malingaliro ndi ofunika kwambiri kuposa kugonana ndi chiwerewere ndi mowa.
Ndikumwa mowa, nkhaniyi imakhalanso yosangalatsa. Tinganene kuti omwe sali ophunzira kusukulu kapena omwe akufuna kukhala a chikhalidwe china amakokera ku botolo. Achinyamata oterewa ndi otsimikiza kuti sangathe kupuma popanda kumwa mowa. Komanso, alipo omwe anakhala moyo wotero zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri ndipo tsopano, atakwanitsa zaka makumi awiri, anazindikira kuti ndi bwino kupuma mu maboma abwino ndikumwa vinyo wotsika mtengo, m'malo momangoyang'ana pa mabenchi a vinyo osanja popanda kuganizira za mawa. Ndiponso, pali anyamata ndi atsikana khumi ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi omwe amakonda mabuku abwino ndi sayansi, kale pazaka izi amadziwa zomwe akufuna ndipo sazindikira kuti sakufuna kuwononga thanzi lawo ndi mowa ndi ndudu. Mwa njira, ndi kulakwitsa kukhulupirira kuti ana oterewa ndi otayika ndi odwala. Ambiri mwa iwo, amakhala olemekezeka ndi olemekezeka osati anzawo okha, komanso a ana akuluakulu. Kawirikawiri, pa achinyamata omwe ali ndi chizoloŵezi chokongola tsopano ndi yosasuta kuti asasute kapena kumwa, koma kusewera masewera ndi kuwongolera moyo wathanzi.
Choncho, kuyang'ana achinyamata amakono, musaganize kuti onse akungoganizira za kugonana ndi mowa. Ndipotu, ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi, atsikana aang'ono amadziwa kukonda kwenikweni, koma nthawi zonse ganizirani za kufunika kwa mafunso okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso zotsatira zake. Ndipo amadziwanso momwe angamvere chisoni ndi kukhumudwa mwa anyamata mosasunthika, osamwa mowa kapena kuyesera kudula mitsempha. Pa nthawi yomweyo, sikuti anyamata onse amaganiza za kugonana ndi wina aliyense. Pali ena omwe amayamba kukonda kwa nthawi yayitali, kuyeza ndi kuwonetsa chirichonse, koma amatha zaka zambiri ndipo ali okonzeka kumvetsetsa ndi kumuthandiza chibwenzi chawo nthawi zonse. Ndipo musamamwe ndi anzanu tsiku lililonse, osaganizira za kuphunzira, ntchito komanso tsogolo. Apa, achinyamata ngati amenewa ndi osangalatsa kwambiri. Ndipo chowona kuti chiripo, chodabwitsa pang'ono, chosangalatsa, ndipo mosakayikira, chimakondweretsa.